To feel so sad that they obviously don’t like me

[PeepeeDarling]

Worked in an office last couple years at the same time I’ve been studying in the evenings for a professional qualification in another field.
Ive been offered a job relating to my studies so have put in my notice which my boss has been lovely about wishing me well. As work is busy I’ve offered to stay late some days to make sure everything’s sorted before I leave next month.
The boss announced my leaving in the team meeting to rest of team (about 20 of us) since then 3 people have commented the rest have completely ignore it which is fine I’m not expecting everyone to be excited for me.
However since then some people in the office have completely ignore me -silence treatment.
I thought they were my friends we’ve been working together a while honestly I thought they’d be at least civil about it?
I feel like the next month giving notice is going to be horrendous.

[PeepeeDarling]

Today was more of the same but feel able to handle it a little better. Its awkward but ticking off the days now

[Mummyzzz044]

I left a job, had some issues with some of the girls there maybe 3 of them.
Anyway fast forward two years I was sick of doing shifts so decided to go back and they offered me a better position, more money.

I went back and honestly I've never had such an awkward welcome back. Almost everyone ignored me!!!! I couldn't understand it. When I was away I dont know for sure but seems like I was a hot topic and some of the other girls had there say.
Eventually I ended up getting really upset and they got us all together to get it out in the open. I have never been so attacked in my life. And even HR manager turned round and told them their reasoning was a little pathetic. For example one girl didn't like me because when I was gone this girl 'Kelly used to sit with her on lunch' now I'm back she no longer sits with them.
Maybe because she could see i wasn't welcome??
Again fast forward almost two years I feel we all get along really well. No arguments, I enjoy their company. Yet now and again my gut feeling tells me they all gather in the corner to bitch about me.
Not sure why I'm writing this just your post kinda reminded me of all of it, its really not nice but you will be out of there soon and I can almost guarantee the problem isn't with you. It's with them.

[Eeyoresstickhouse]

I left a job after 7 years and several promotions and I didn't even get a fucking card! The job after that I was there 9 months and I got flowers, wine, chocolates and 7 cards! Some places are just arseholes.

[PeepeeDarling]

Thank you all I know you’re all right a few months from now it will be a memory just got a few more weeks to get through. Think now I realise it’s quite common for this happen I feel better it’s not just about me more about them. Thanks all

[BlimeyCalmDown]

Maybe they feel a bit left behind, not your fault though! You are off to bigger and better things! and hopefully better colleagues....

[Hassled]

I think some people get so invested in their jobs/place of work that leaving is seen as a disloyalty. I had this when I left my previous job - there was an air of indignation that I could possibly want more or think that another organisation might suit me better. To them, that job was their life. I was really sad about it at the time - the more I enjoy my current job, the less I care, and I'm sure it will the same for you.

[Bluerussian]

They may have mixed feelings, ie are pleased for you on one hand but know how well they have been able to rely on you since you've worked there.

Whatever the reason I'm sure they'll be back to normal in a few days. I hope so.

Well done for getting such a good new job and I hope it is all you want.

[XingMing]

Don't over think it; they are not real friends, just soon to be ex colleagues. Anyone you feel real warmth to, reach out to stay in touch, and let the rest go.

[leli]

I guess they are just thinking you're going to be gone so why make the effort - apart from the genuine souls who will really miss you - and 3's enough for a sincere goodbye.

Enjoy your next job!

[ChikiTIKI]

Congratulations on your new job and career change!

Just take this as another good reason to leave. Imagine if you had worked there for decades and then they showed their true colours like this at the end! At least you've not wasted too much time investing in these people.

I have left a job before knowing full well that I will never see or speak with the people again-they were nice enough and we got along great but we weren't friends. I was polite about leaving though and felt it a shame not to see them again-I did care about them but wasn't sad.

Its not hard to be polite and professional. They are really showing their arses! Try not to let them ruin your days. If it gets really bad mention it to your manager-maybe you could work from home or in another office for a bit?

[Mary1935]

They maybe talking about what gift to give you?
Hopefully it’s that.
Well done re job.

[KatherineJaneway]

I thought they were my friends we’ve been working together a while honestly I thought they’d be at least civil about it?

As PP have said it is likely jealousy. You have achieved your professional qualification and are moving onto a new career and they are still there and you are no longer 'one of them'. Might remind them that they are destined to stay there and they might be upset you'll earn more money than them.

It is sad when people turn out not to to be the people you thought they were.

[Cherrysoup]

Are they jealous that you’re going onto bigger and better? Feeling betrayed or maybe scared to speak because you’re leaving? Or are they just a negative bitchy group who use any opportunity to slag off colleagues? Keep chatting to the nice ones, be bright, brave and breezy, don’t let strange behaviour get you down.

[Deathraystare]

Well, sod them. Don't arrange drinks or bring in cakes for them. Carry on as normal. It will annoy them if you are not affected by their cold shoulder. Feckers!

[SmellyBeard]

People can be weird at work. I also think that someone moving on makes other people feel twitchy as it's change and can also make them feel like they are not progressing. Other people (like my boss!) can take it personally.

Just concentrate on the people who are nice and soon you'll be out of there.

[billy1966]

Definitely them OP.
Its obviously disappointing, but says more about them, than you. Envy is a powerful emotion. I'd do my best to ignore it but I wouldn't be staying any longer than necessary.

Best of luck in the new job

[stayingontherail]

I wouldn’t assume that it means they don’t like you, unless you did an air punch and scream “So long suckers!” after the announcement was made. Most people will be thinking of themselves and what it means about them rather than anything about you. I bet you won’t remember those peoples’ names in a year or two anyway.

[Franklyyes]

People are funny - they may be jealous but also have not made any effort themselves to move on. They may also wonder how the work will be covered when you are gone or whether you won’t be as committed before you go. Similar happened to me, but I reminded myself what I had achieved and I did it just for me.
Congratulations on the new job!!! Go knock em dead!
I didn’t want a leaving do so I planned some lunches with friends I wanted to say goodbye to and that I’d enjoyed working with them. It was a lovely way to leave over a week or so. So glad I made the move!

[PlomBear]

People are weird and see you leaving a job as a personal affront. How dare you leave a job! Happened to me and I was quite happy to never see them again.

[anotherlittlechicken]

Ignorant arses!

@PeepeeDarling

Well done on your new job, and all the best in it. You'll be amazing.

They're probably jealous.!

[adaline]

Happened to me when I handed in my notice too.

A lot of them had previously commented about wanting to get it out so I put it down to jealousy! I'm now self-employed and earning the same as I was then in half the hours - fuck 'em!

[Lllot5]

Perhaps they’re thinking because you’re leaving and they won’t see you again no point investing any time with you? Weird bit cold but some people are

[Redorangesblue]

This kind of happened to me; but I continued doing the job part time along with my new better job, as the field is kind of related.

Some people didn’t even acknowledge my new hours, or have ever asked me how the new job is going! I mean people who I see and talk to every week, it’s like they’ve completely ignored it. We talk about everything apart from my new job. I’m not the type of person to talk too much about myself anyway, but the first few weeks really hurt me, because it seemed the people I was on really good terms weren’t happy for me. I know it’s jealousy and probably resentfulness as a lot are stuck in a rut and me going off to do something else was a shock to some of them.

Just feel sorry for your colleagues OP. You’re off to do better and brighter things. They could do it too if they motivated themselves. Well done and congratulations on your new job!

[PinkiOcelot]

Congratulations and well done!!

Count down the days! They should be happy for you. People are weird. Ignore.

[CSIblonde]

That's not nice. Very well done, studying on top of working is hard. Someone left a few months ago too? . Do they have high turnover & take it personally if people get out? I rolled up as a temp once to find them slating the previous temp for leaving. She'd got a perm job, but they were sending emails saying "so & so didn't like us". It wasn't the happiest workplace. I kept a lot of distance during my 2week booking!