I was friends with "Naomi" for years when we worked together. We were very close for a long time and would confide in each other about our problems too
I let her move in with me to escape an abusive relationship despite me being heavily pregnant and working 7 days a week. She proceeded to bring men back in the night and woke me up to tell me and again when she wanted dp at the time to get rid of them. She started seeing him again and lied to me about it. Eventually moving away with him and bringing his friends to my home to lie about where she was going. I forgave her.
I lent her a large sum of money when she was skint. I got it back in dribs n drabs.
She came to stay with me. Dp at the time drove 200 miles each way to pick her up and drop her off. She slept all the way back, didn't pay petrol and jumped out when she realised she was outside her local pub without a thanks.
Something really bad happenned to me years ago. I tried to confide in her and she told me she had her own stuff going on and couldn't speak to me about it.
The last time I saw her I stayed with her. I got up with her ds during the night as it was her birthday and took him out for an hour or so in the afternoon so she could get a peaceful bath. On the last night she turned on me out of the blue because she was tired. Told me I was gutless for not leaving my sometimes unhappy relationship and told me I was emotionally draining. I ended up leaving at 10pm with my suitcase. Phoned a friend who convinced me to go back until morning but she had locked me out and my friend came 150 miles to get me.
She apologised profusely the next day but I told her I needed distance from her and that was the end of it though she
remained on social media.
So yesterday I saw a post from Caroline Flack about how she confided in a friend who told her she was draining. And I was furious. For Caroline and for me. And Naomi has posted on Facebook about praising your friends and being fucking kind to each other. Yet she was so shitty to me and I have never confided in anyone since this for fear of being draining, and have had to deal with my mental health alone.. I was going to send her a link to Caroline' s post and tell her she is a hypocrite and what she has done to me with her careless words all because she was "tired" and then delete her. But deep down I know this probably isn't a good idea and I should just delete her and leave it at that.
So talk me out of this or talk me into it. I don't know what I want to hear. But I am so angry at her today even though this happenned years ago.
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Witchofzog · 17/02/2020 22:32
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