Baby sleeping on duvet, worried sick

[Waaaproblems]

We bought a travel cot prior to a weekend away. I stupidly didn’t check it when it arrived. We’ve arrived at our weekend away and the ‘mattress’ is basically a series of foldable boards with a little foam on top. She screams lying on it and rightly so, it’s awful. I bought a brand new king sized duvet last week which was in the car and unopened. DD (9.5 months) was absolutely knackered and I needed to put her to bed. I’ve resorted to folding the king duvet (10 tog so quite thick 😩) around the ‘mattress’ and tucking it under. She’s absolutely sound asleep but the duvet is bunching a little. She sleeps on her front and I’m worried sick - WWYD. I haven’t taken my eyes off the monitor. We’re not staying in a hotel and there is no opportunity to buy a new mattress, we’ll do this tomorrow. How dangerous is this? I’m having kittens (yes she’s my first born)

[Bluerussian]

She'll be absolutely fine! Stop worrying.

[dementedpixie]

It is a king size 10.5tog duvet wrapped round a travel cot mattress. She may be ok but then again she may not. I would not take the risk

[dontcallmeduck]

The advice is for babies under 12 months. Follow the advice not the chancers. She’s your most precious person, don’t risk it

[SomeHalfHumanCreatureThing]

Fgs, such awful 'it'll be fine' bollocks on this thread.
Advice is NOT just for tiny babies, and it's there for a reason.


Have her in with you, DH can sleep on the sofa.

[C305]

It's a king size duvet wrapped around a tiny travel cot mattress. It's not safe & it's really irresponsible for people to keep saying it's fine. Its beyond me why you would take any chances with a baby.

[snowybaubles]

Get the duvet out ASAP. Not in a bit. Not when he gets back. Now!

The mattress is standard for a travel cot. Tried and tested and to the relevant safety standard. Use it as designed. If she gets upset when you move her then so be it, you need to prioritise here and get that duvet out of there.

[fascinated]

Totally understand why you are anxious

BUT in this case I think you are justified. Don’t leave babe with the duvet.

I always deconstruct any sofa in hotel etc and use those hard seat cushions . Usually correct size. Failing that just go with normal mattress supplied with the cot. My baby has slept fine on cot bed mattress a few times when no sofa was available.

[Andysbestadventure]

Get her off the duvet ASAP.

She will overheat, if she doesn't possibly suffocate. Why even risk it?!! Wrap two towels firmly around the mattress instead like fitted sheets. They are breatheable.

[C8H10N4O2]

At 9.5 months she will presumably be sitting and rolling and certainly lifting her head so the risk is miniscule but as its obviously worrying you put the duvet under the foam base instead of on top. Use the towel as a blanket if its even needed in a hotel room.

[fascinated]

To clarify I mean put sofa cushions - only if hard! - inside travel cot as makeshift mattress then put cot sheet over.

[YouSawThePlans]

DuckPie I'm so sorry for your loss and for how difficult it must be to see posters suggesting it's fine to ignore all the advice.

[fascinated]

And I agree you need to do it now. So what if he wakes up? Stop dithering !

[Delinaret]

If you are "worried sick" why don't you just wake her up, take away the duvet and put her back in the travel cot? Whats worse - stting up all night becuase you are worried that baby will sufficate/ overheat or sit up all night because baby doesn;t like har matterss.

[Andysbestadventure]

Everyone saying "she'll be ok" ... Please DO FUCK OFF. The guidelines are there for a reason FFS. Because Babies who's parents thought "Oh she/he'll be ok!" died!

Why the hell do you think they are there!

[TheOrigRightsofwomen]

Both mine slept on exactly the same sort of travel cot mattress (they are 20 and 10 now). It's standard. I always thought it seemed quite cosy (sort of futon style) with a fitted terry sheet and their own blankets.

Take the duvet out.

[snowybaubles]

At 9.5 months she will presumably be sitting and rolling and certainly lifting her head so the risk is miniscule

You do t understand the risk. Don't advise anyone to go against the very clear guidelines because you think you know better. You don't. Your lack of understanding is massive.

[Nomorerainplease]

DuckPie I am so sorry for your loss xx

[fascinated]

You’ll feel better once you’ve done it.

Forget DH. He’s not really going to be a help , is he, after a xmas night out? Just do it now when you have a nice quiet room without someone else stumbling around switching lights on and flushing toilets.

[PurpleFlower1983]

My DD is also 9.5 months. I wouldn’t risk it. She will be fine on the travel cot mattress. Much safer.

[fascinated]

Yes, DuckPie, so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing.

[TimeForNewStart]

GI strongly advise against putting her in your bed like others have suggested, it is actually very dangerous to put a baby in your bed who isn't used to it, it greatly increases the risk of SIDs*

Really? Is there any research on this?

[CheesyWeez]

I am so sorry DuckPie.
I have been a registered childminder in the past and we were called to a regional safety meeting about travel cots. We were not allowed to use any extra padding or mattresses in the cots apart from a mattress protector and sheet as an accident had happened with a baby falling between the edge of the mattress and the soft side of the cot.
Travel cots seem hard to us adults but babies are light, they don't notice, said the head paediatrician.
I hated taking out my nice mattresses but that was the rule... and surprisingly it made no difference to how the babies slept at my house.

[Anychance123]

Exactly the same thing happened to me at Xmas, I went to a family members for the night with a new travel cot and it hadn’t crossed my mind about the mattress. I just couldn’t put dd in with a duvet so my 9 month old just slept on the hard cover. My family thought I was being very unreasonable and all insisted I put a duvet in but I didn’t. In my opinion it’s not worth the risk at all. Just get a suitable mattress when you can, she will be ok on a slightly hard surface for the night.

[C8H10N4O2]

Your lack of understanding is massive.

Your lack of reading comprehension is massive. Try again.

[pooboobsleeprepeat]

She’d be much safer in the bed with you.