To be sick of them hopping in and out of my garden whenever they feel the need?

[CymaticPrincess88]

Next door neighbour, moved in very recently and immediatly started building works, I have no right to be annoyed about that I know.

Part of this 'work' involved chopping a tree down (he's building a conservatory) and then had to get some kind of mini digger involved to get the stump out. Okay, fair enough. In order to do this he told us (he did not ask) that he was taking the fence panel down, so they could better access it to get the stump out. We felt we didn't have much choice so we said ok.

It's been 2 weeks since the fence panel has been taken down, and they haven't put it back up. We asked them 2 days ago if it could be put back up as as far as we are concerned the reason the fence panel needed to come down was because of the stump and nothing more.

Anyway what is really winding me up is the builders he has hired, keep stepping into and standing in my garden all day whilst they are here, I know its a petty thing to be wound up about it but they are right next to my living room window and keep staring if I so much as glance outside, and if they are in next doors front garden, they stop what they are doing and stare at me, usually while I am putting my SEN DS onto his school transport, it's making me really uncomfortable, and I don't know what to do.

Do I keep bugging him to put the panel back up? Do I have any right to dictate who comes into my garden? I'm sure I do, but I am happy to be proven wrong.

I have generalised anxiety disorder so if you are wondering why I am getting so wound up about it all thats probably the reason

sorry for the essay

[Bluntness100]

Ok try to take. Deep breath.

Are you sure they are continually staring at you as you describe? This would be unusual and they'd get little work done. Are you sure they don't just glance over and back again?

As for the fence panel. It's fine to ask the neighbour what the plan is, I'm assuming it's not up yet for space.

As for the stepping in your garden, how far in are they coming? Of course you're within your rights to say they can't step over the boundary, and no they shouldn't do it, but if it's just literally stepping over and for not long yes it would look petty.

Clearly though you're very disturbed by it all. And mental health issues can clearly cause what may be a minor inconvenience and irritant to escalate into something intolerable.

Ultimately you need to do what works best for your mental health.

[CymaticPrincess88]

It's on the left hand side of my garden, so I think it is actually his fence per se.

I'm going to send my partner round later to ask again, and to say we don't give them permission to go in our garden, at this point, I don't care if they hate us! This morning they were using a masonry drill at 8am! I was up anyway obviously cause: kids, but scared the shit out of all of us!

[BendingSpoons]

YANBU. The fence panel needs to go back up, the builders need to stay out your garden and if they need access, they need to request it.

[Smelborp]

You absolutely have a right to ask that they do not step into your garden.

It would be nice to put the fence back up, but I don’t think there’s a legal requirement to have something over a boundary. Who’s fence is it?

The staring and general behaviour isn’t great but not much you can do about that.

But yes, you can certainly tell them not to enter your property.

[BiddyPop]

Knock on the door of neighbor this evening and say that you had given permission for panel to be temporarily removed for a specific purpose - removal of tree stump.

As that is now done, you have already asked builders to reinstate the panel, but they haven’t, so could the neighbour please make sure that this happens as a matter of urgency tomorrow morning.

Nice and polite and matter if fact. No need for any conflict as you have facilitated their request and now you just want things back to how they should be without further delay.

Thanks so much.

Good luck with the building, hope it doesn’t take too long, night now.

[LesLavandes]

Re builders. Go out and politely ask them not to come into your garden.

What has neighbour said about fence?