To be sick of them hopping in and out of my garden whenever they feel the need?

[CymaticPrincess88]

Next door neighbour, moved in very recently and immediatly started building works, I have no right to be annoyed about that I know.

Part of this 'work' involved chopping a tree down (he's building a conservatory) and then had to get some kind of mini digger involved to get the stump out. Okay, fair enough. In order to do this he told us (he did not ask) that he was taking the fence panel down, so they could better access it to get the stump out. We felt we didn't have much choice so we said ok.

It's been 2 weeks since the fence panel has been taken down, and they haven't put it back up. We asked them 2 days ago if it could be put back up as as far as we are concerned the reason the fence panel needed to come down was because of the stump and nothing more.

Anyway what is really winding me up is the builders he has hired, keep stepping into and standing in my garden all day whilst they are here, I know its a petty thing to be wound up about it but they are right next to my living room window and keep staring if I so much as glance outside, and if they are in next doors front garden, they stop what they are doing and stare at me, usually while I am putting my SEN DS onto his school transport, it's making me really uncomfortable, and I don't know what to do.

Do I keep bugging him to put the panel back up? Do I have any right to dictate who comes into my garden? I'm sure I do, but I am happy to be proven wrong.

I have generalised anxiety disorder so if you are wondering why I am getting so wound up about it all thats probably the reason

sorry for the essay

[Ihatemyseleffordoingthis]

@SunshineAngel - I'm outraged on your behalf
I would have told them to move it by 5pm or a skip company would be coming to dispose of it. A month!
Right now I would be invoicing them for the costs of laying a new lawn and storage costs.
Why are people such selfish inconsiderate shits?

[endofthelinefinally]

Have you checked whether they should have got planning permission and / or a party wall survey/ agreement?
They sound like the sort of people who wouldn't bother.

[StrongTea]

I would hate that. You are quite right to be very annoyed.

[MitchellMummy]

I don't have anxiety issues but this would drive me CRAZY if it happened to me. I'd be tempted to put some obstruction there if friendly requests didn't work. Good luck.

[PrincessHoneysuckle]

I once came home to a tree laid in my garden along with 3 workmen stood around and my washing line snapped.Next door cf hadn't even asked me if this was ok! (I made her buy me a new washing line)

[churchandstate]

SunshineAngel

That is outrageous. I would have got someone to come and lock the stuff up.

[Yummymummy2020]

I’m having the same issue with a neighbours extension! I looked up to see one physically cupping his eyes to try get a better view through our tilted blinds, very nosy and annoying especially since they used a ladder to climb into our back garden without asking to smooth the wall at the top of the neighbours extension that peaks over our boundary wall. I’m also considering mentioning this as I got a fright at the time seeing a random man in a tracksuit peering in at me with a ladder perched against the wall.

[churchandstate]

So many cheeky people in the world whose idea of justification is, “Well, what else can I do?” 😂 We don’t care! It’s not our problem.

I would say, “You don’t have permission to come into my garden. Please don’t do it again.” And put up a fence if I felt that strongly about it.

Obviously if my neighbours were polite and asked, I wouldn’t usually have a problem with it.

[SunshineAngel]

I don't know what it is about having building work done that makes people think they can do what they like. We went on holiday for a week in June, and when we got back the whole row of fencing had been taken down (our fencing, our side) and their building materials (bricks, wooden beams, rolls of turf, flagstones) were all in our garden!!!!

I knocked on immediately and asked what the hell was going on, and they said sorry but there was nowhere else they could put them (how about their own garden?!) to which I said I appreciate that, but that's not my problem. It was the middle of summer, they hadn't asked, and I spend most of my day outside in summer (WFH) and I wouldn't feel comfortable if the builders were in and out of the garden.

They wouldn't move them, I couldn't do a great deal about it as everything was too heavy, and when the work was finally finished a month later, my grass was completely ruined, as obviously it hadn't got any sunlight due to things being piled up on it.

So I am NOT happy, and really, really sympathise with your situation at the moment.

[CymaticPrincess88]

Yes my partner went and asked.

Um, not to be rude, but my son is not disabled, he has SEN.

Thanks for all the replies.

[WorraLiberty]

Apparently the wall they are building will be up today, then the fence panel will be put back.

That's good. Have they just told you that?

[Frenchw1fe]

They’re probably hoping you’ll make them a cup of tea.
Offer them a cuppa and ask them to put fence panel back, that’s what I would do. It’s cold out there.

[StrictlyNameChangin]

I think given your update I'd leave them to it for another couple of days, then go out and tell them to get orfta my lawn! In the meantime next time you're outside with your son (or you see them clearly stop and stare at him through your window), open the window and shout in an assertive manner "IS THERE A REASON WHY YOU'RE STOPPING WORK AND STARING AT MY DISABLED SON?"

[Ribenaberriesgowoo82]

The left side/right side thing doesn't always ring true regarding fences. Best to check your deeds and T marks to know for sure.

[Drum2018]

Go out and tell them not to come into your garden.

[Ihatemyseleffordoingthis]

Would you mind if they had asked?

[Ihatemyseleffordoingthis]

Did you go out and say. "I haven't given permission for you to access my garden, please get off my property and please leave my wheelie bin/garden furniture alone"

[TimeIhadaNameChange]

I hope you went out and moved the bin back again. I'd also put some stuff along the boundary, so that it's as difficult as possible for them to access your garden.

[Ihatemyseleffordoingthis]

Firm and polite word to neighbour
Firm and polite word to builders
Firm and polite word to whoever is apparently supervisor/employer of builders (ring the number on their van)
Hazard tape across the gap in fence.

[SoupDragon]

I'd put my own fence up - two poles and some netting would at least stop them coming into your garden.

Or, do you know someone with a huge galumphing dog that could run free in your garden?

[CymaticPrincess88]

Apparently the wall they are building will be up today, then the fence panel will be put back.

[Wrybread]

Record yourself talking to them and telling them that they're to stay out of your garden. Also check the deeds if possible to see whose fence it is

[CymaticPrincess88]

Theyve just come into my garden and moved my bloody wheelie bin, one thing to come in but now just moving my garden stuff without a care.

[Bluntness100]

Sorry cross posted, if it's their fence, then it's their choice when they put it up, they don't even need to put it back. You of course can put your own up.

[CymaticPrincess88]

Oh no, I'm sure of this, they stop and watch me till I close the door again, I'm not that batshit!