Who is at fault here

[Froggy10]

Ds list his first tooth at school and DH said he had put it somewhere safe. I have been in hospital then DH was working late this week so we said we would wait to do the tooth fairy till tonight
We were tiding up this morning and I was going through some paperwork on the sideboard that DH could plainly see.
Just now he has turned to me and gone where is DS tooth. I said you said you out I somewhere
DH pointed at the sideboard that I had been sorting stuff out on and said it was in a tiny bit of paper. So I have obviously looked at this tiny bit of paper thought that’s what is was (a tiny bit of paper) and I have thrown it away
Now I have just got yelled at for losing it he said “fuck you” threw all the clothes off the sofa that I have folding up, hit the wall on the way past and stormed out

[Beveren]

You need a conversation about him doing anger management sessions. If he won't, think long and hard about how long you want to go on with this sort of nonsense.

[wineisnecessary]

Complete overreacting he should not speak to you like that .
And you've had a child with him

[Ciara1234456]

He is acting immature, blaming it on you, he probably feels guilty he didn’t put it somewhere safe. His reaction is completely psycho, why should you have to see that? Hear that? Put up with that? It’s not right!!!! Get out while you can. It will start making you feel nervous and on edge so you will start tiptoeing around him to make sure he doesn’t flip out and that is domestic abuse

[Howlovely]

I'd want to put his face under the pillow never mind the tooth.
It's pretty clear that he flies off the handle at any and every little thing and finds a way to make it your fault - you annoyed him, you lost the tooth, you didn't make the dinner he likes, etc. This is very unlikely to change so you need to change it. Get yourself and your children out of there as soon as you can safely manage to do so. It will not be long before he crosses over to hitting you and once that taboo is broken the first time he will do it again and again. Get your kids away from this man.

[CalmdownJanet]

Tooth fairy should have been done on the night, why wait for both parents?

It was dh's fault entirely.

His reaction makes him a dickhead.

[Firstawake]

What a baby.

[Sn0tnose]

This is abusive. There’s absolutely no dressing it up, or excusing it. It’s abuse. He’s hitting the wall instead of you. That won’t last forever. And I promise you, as much as you tell yourself that your kids don’t hear his behaviour because they were upstairs, or asleep, etc, I can tell you from personal experience that the children of violent men often become hyper sensitive to his raised voice, or bangs, or even the atmosphere.

[spice3]

Again - not about the tooth, doesn't matter who was right there.

Your DH is abusive. It'll only get worse and your child will become more exposed to it. Don't expect it to get better and get out.

[TokyoSushi]

Jesus christ! I threw DS' tooth away by mistake, we laughed, DH snapped a go cat, cat biscuit in two, gave the 'tooth' to DS in an envelope all ready for the tooth fairy and everybody as happy.

Your DH's reaction is dreadful.

[Quartz2208]

the fact your have to ask speaks volumes as to how normal this must be

[Geppili]

The tooth fairy always comes if you write a note about a lost tooth anyway. Has he picked up the laundry yet? Dread to think what he will be like when your DS is a moody teen with his first brace on. He is violent and abusive. Read the Lundy Bancroft book. Do you think he would behave like this at work? Or with friends? You guys are meant to be his precious lov d ones. Hope you are ok after hospital.

[Drum2018]

Your Dh is an abusive prick. Any chance of throwing him out along with the bloody tooth? Lots of kids teeth are swallowed or lost - tell your ass of a Dh that a note can be written to the tooth fairy and the world won't fucking end (however I'd hope you find it in yourself to end your marriage to him).

[Geppili]

Your knobhead H is at fault. Bin him.

[Hahaha88]

In what world would you need to be in to not see this behaviour is unacceptable and that you need to leave? What are you doing, waiting for him to hit you? Or the kid's? Your kid/s deserve better parents

[middlemuddle]

Yeah, as others said. The fault is not the issue, the behaviour is. Though it wasn't your fault- he just needed to communicate where he put the tooth.

[TowelNumber42]

You are married to a dickhead. How does this normally resolve? Will he come back in a bit and refold the clothes, make you a cup of tea and apologise? What kind of apology works on you? How long before you are ready to be normal again?

I suspect you hide or beg him to be nice, he continues being a dick, you fix the things he messed up on (tooth, clothes, etc) and then you be extra nice to encourage him not to be vile? Is that right?

He's a bog standard bully boy.

[DonKeyshot]

Your h is an abusive cunt and his only saving grace is that he's given you ample grounds to divorce him for unreasonable behaviour.

Do you believe that he's a good example for your dc? Do you find yourself walking on eggshells so as to not to enrage him? Do you want to put up with his ridiculous tantrums for the rest of your married life?

[habipprtyh]

An accident. However, why were you making your child wait for their first tooth fairy visit? Why did he not just do it

[FizzyGreenWater]

Ok, forget the tooth. Your husband is aggressive, abusive, and out of control. That is not ok and it is not acceptable for your children to be around it. What are you going to do? What do you want to do? It can't carry on like that.

[Froggy10]

Yes it happens about every month or so. The anger, the name calling the hitting things or throwing and breaking things

[bluebeck]

Is this the tip of the iceberg?

[dementedpixie]

How bizarre. When a tooth has gone missing (dd swallowed at least one and lost another in a ball pit!) We just wrote a note for the tooth fairy explaining what had happened and money was still left behind

[AdaColeman]

If he gets that angry over a lost tooth, heaven help you all if anything serious happens in your lives.
When he has calmed down, talk together and find out what is going on. Only then can you decide what your next step should be.

[marvellousnightforamooncup]

Total overreaction. It's only a tooth. Is this usual behaviour for him because it's not right.

[NerdyCurvyInkedandPervy]

He sounds a right arsehole OP.

Throwing the washing and hitting the wall... what's next? Him throwing your kid and hitting you? I'd be getting out whilst i could.