To think he's a bit of a prick really

[OlivesAreGod]

H just threw a massive strop because he doesn't have any clean work clothes. It's a sore subject in our house because I feel like I do EVERYTHING in the house as it is. I cook, clean, wash up, tidy, do laundry etc etc... He works a few more hours than me so thinks it gives him an excuse to do fuck all.

I've started to leave his clothes piling up at the side of the bed and saying I won't wash them unless he actually brings them to the washing basket (this is a grown adult man).

Over the weekend, I'd done a wash and the clothes have been drying on the maiden. I put some of his work clothes in this morning but haven't actually pressed the button because I was waiting for the other clothes to dry.

He's gone mental, throwing clothes about the kitchen screaming that I have so much more spare time and how the fuck would I like going to work in dirty clothes. I've screamed back saying I'd clean my own fucking clothes because I'm not a child who needs mummy to do it for them!

I've said why the fuck would he not just come home and put a wash on himself if it's bothered him so much. Apparently he's been making comments for days about how he has no clean clothes so I should know. Like yeah... I do know... But you're capable of washing them yourself?!

I probably could do more to make the house more organised but fucking hell, I work full time as well and well... I'm not his pissing slave?!

I'm absolutely raging. What a cunt!

[PeculiarBerries]

My ex used to rage at me about laundry like this.

My response was similar to yours.

Men are conditioned to expect subservience from women. They feel entitled to it.

[OlivesAreGod]

Apparently it's absolutely nothing to do with gender but rather who has more time... Yeah right.

[RandomMess]

So do you get equal leisure time????

[Aurignacian]

Dick

[SophieSong]

Oh, bullshit. Even if you worked part-time it's still not up to you to wash all his clothes and do all the housework.

If it were me, I'd ask him why he wants to live with and have sex with a woman who is basically his mummy.

[Durgasarrow]

What a fucking idiot.

[OlivesAreGod]

More time actually at home? Yes, a few hours. But a lot of that is spent tidying up, cooking tea, washing up etc...

Actual leisure time? Probably not no.

[HellonHeels]

OMG just fuck him off - what is the point of him?

OP please leave him, or at the very least never ever do his washing again.

[sunnybeachtime]

LOL

I work part time and DH works full time.
My 'off days' are spent looking after children.
I do all the dishes. He does all the laundry.
I do the hoovering. He does the bathrooms.
I do the general tidying. He does the cooking.
And so on....

Tell him to give himself a backhanded slap

[snop]

Op are you married to my husband 🤣 I definitely could have written this post. I do the same even to my teenage kids, if it's not in the wash basket It doesn't get washed, and when I get fed up looking at them on the floor I pick them up and put them back in the wardrobe, as they are obviously not dirty 🤮

[RandomMess]

Constantly remind him how much more leisure time he has than you and how he needs to take on household tasks as his to even it up...

[BrightYellowDaffodil]

Point out that a) it's unlikely his penis is so large it prevents him getting close to a kitchen appliance like, say, a washing machine, and b) he'll have to take responsibility for washing his own clothes when he's back living on his own because his wife has kicked his lazy arse out.

What a fucktrumpet.

[Palaver1]

Stick to your guns on this one ,from now on he should do it by himself.

[Zaphodsotherhead]

My XH did exactly the same. i stopped washing anything of his that wasn't in the basket (an easy enough task, you 'd think, for a professional man, to put his dirty washing in one place). He'd drop his clothes all over the house, by the bed, in the bathroom.

But no, it was my 'job' apparently, not only to look after our five children (all under the age of eight), clean the house, cook the meals, shop, organise everything, do absolutely everything for the kids (why should he, after all)...etc etc and also pick up after a grown man.

So I divorced him. Being a single parent to five was a hell of a lot easier than being a single parent to five and one big baby.

[Stompythedinosaur]

Fuck that! He sounds like a colossal wanker.

I couldn't live with someone who thought I was their skivvy.

[FlamedToACrisp]

His behaviour was pathetic and childish. However, when he said his clothes needed washing, did you actually tell him you were NOT going to wash them? If not, I can understand why he was annoyed.

If you literally ALWAYS do the laundry, and you've done it for so many years that he does not even know how to use the washing machine, it was not unreasonable of him to expect that you would do it on this occasion too.

You need to sit down and talk about this. Show him your figures for how many hours of housework it takes to run your home, and ask him to explain why you getting 10 hours extra in bed every week is supposed to even this out fairly.

[Thequaffle]

YANBU. He’s a twat.

[MollyButton]

My son works longer hours than me - but if he runs out of work clothes then he will put on a wash (also washing whatever is already in the washing machine) for himself. He also says thank you if I wash his clothes for him or take them out of the washing machine and dry them for him.

Nope I'm not swapping him for your lazy husband.

[chickenyhead]

I did this with my XP once. Refused to iron his million shirts as we both worked same hours but I learnt the Lionsgate and paid ALL bills.

It got to the point where he wore a v neck tshirt with his suit. We had an all office meeting (2009ish) . I couldn't help it...as he strutted in I sang "wham, I am a man"

Muffled hysterics throughout.

He got his shirts ironed at the dry cleaners after that.

[AmIRightOrAMeringue]

Bloody hell. This has astounded and depressed me. The number of people who can identify with it.
So sad that people can treat other people this way.
OP it sounds like you've stood up for yourself on this issue...but then you say you do pretty much everything else so it equally sounds like you let him shit all over you, wo to speak.

Even if I gave you work to look after the kids and was responsible for most of the housework, no way in hell would my husband talk to me like that. He would also do his own clothes, since it's just a normal adult task that people manage no matter how many hours they work.

If he thinks those two hours extra you have are so fundamental that he cant even manage to dress himself for work without them, he should really be looking for another job. Or if I was in your shoes, another wife, as I couldn't live with someone like that

[AnnonniMoose]

Ugh, my late DH used to leave clothes everywhere as well. It got to the point where if it wasn't in the laundry basket, it didn't get washed - it only happened once where he had to wear dirty clothes, and never again. I'd also refuse to pick up the little piles of dirty socks all over the house, and would vacuum around them.

But...my DH was a decent man who did his fair share, and saw the error of his ways - he wasn't an entitled baby like yours.

[PinkCrayon]

Of course its not your Job.
Tell him to fuck off.

[AdoraBell]

He’s put his washing on the radiators? What a clever boy

Stick to your guns Olive

[katseyes7]

My ex (for many reasons, this being one of them) husband used to be like this.

Him: "Do l have any clean socks?"
Me: "l don't know, have you looked in the dryer?"
Him: "No." (goes and looks) "None in there."
Me: "ln your sock drawer?"
Him: "Nope."
So we go upstairs. Where the laundry bin in his room (that's another story) is overflowing with dirty clothes, including almost every pair of socks he owns. Whereupon he kicks off.

Me: "FFS. l wash them. Dry them, either in the dryer, or on the line if it's dry. Put them away in your drawer. ls it too much to ask for you to bring them downstairs and put them in the machine?"

All my fault, apparently. l should have had some kind of psychic powers which told me when he had no clean socks/underwear/workshirts (delete as applicable)

[jannowitz]

He sounds like such a knob.
If I ever have a relationship again, and that's a big if, I am vowing to never, ever wash their clothes or clean up after them.
It has to be equal, otherwise it's jus not fair. Adults can clean up after themselves.
And if two adults decide to have children together, then they both should take 50-50 of the responsibility.
I'm so sorry you're with this pig. Good for you for standing up for yourself.
I hope he sees how he's treated you, and makes serious changes.
You deserve better.