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AIBU?

To be pissed off at breastfeeding?

44 replies

foryourown · 19/06/2019 15:48

I keep on getting my nipples twisted Envy I cannot stand it! But if DS doesn't get his own way, he just whines. I end the feed there and then but it doesn't seem to teach him. It's been going on for weeks.

AIBU to be bloody irritated sometimes? Sounds horrendous but I have small moments very occasionally where I want to throw him off! For the most part though it's fine.

Obviously this thread is semi lighthearted, I would never really throw him Grin

OP posts:
Sexnotgender · 19/06/2019 15:52

YANBU. It’s a bloody nightmare sometimes but 100 times easier than arsing around with sterilising and formula.

Sexnotgender · 19/06/2019 15:53

How old is he?

foryourown · 19/06/2019 15:54

He's 19 months

OP posts:
MustardScreams · 19/06/2019 15:55

Dd was a bloody nipple twiddler and it made me want to rip my hair out! 0-red mist in 3 seconds when she tried to sneak her hands down my top.

She did grow out of it though, thank god!

mummymayhem18 · 19/06/2019 15:57

Stop breastfeeding if you don't like it. He's certainly old enough.Problem solved.

Sexnotgender · 19/06/2019 15:57

Old enough to understand then! More annoying when you know they understand.
My DS is only 4.5 months so easier to forgive when he gets distracted and turns his head with nipple still in situConfused

Celebelly · 19/06/2019 15:57

My daughter is only four months but she's starting to get distracted by stuff around her so when I'm feeding her it's often like this...

To be pissed off at breastfeeding?
Sexnotgender · 19/06/2019 15:58

Celebelly that meme is fantastic Grin

Jemima232 · 19/06/2019 15:59

I've been there, OP.

It too shall pass.

But you're within your rights to be fed up about it. You just have to keep saying No and taking him off when he does it. They do stop (eventually)

MustardScreams · 19/06/2019 15:59

@mummymayhem18 old enough for what? Do you ban all 19 month old children from having milk? Why is it acceptable that a baby drinks milk from another mammal but no their own mother? I really do not understand that. Don’t make stupid unhelpful comments without engaging brain first, ok?

SnowWhitesRestingBitchFace · 19/06/2019 16:00

Totally with you OP. DS has just turned 1 and does pretty much everything everyone has mentioned. He now gets them out himself if I've got a sports type bra on. The twisting though Angry

kmammamalto · 19/06/2019 16:01

Well said *mustard

Namestheyareachangin · 19/06/2019 16:02

Stop breastfeeding if you don't like it. He's certainly old enough.Problem solved

Hmm

I assume this groundbreaking idea has already occurred to the OP and she has decided on balance that this is a bit of a drastic solution to a temporary problem. Classic response of someone who just generally doesn't appreciate the many and varied benefits of breastfeeding a toddler and therefore assumes any mention of the occasional challenge proves the point that it's not worth it. I mean, why bother doing anything that isn't 100% pleasurable and 100% necessary for life all the time eh?

Daydreamer34 · 19/06/2019 16:02

This gives me a funny pain all over. I didn't breast feed because I can't bare anything touching or messing with my nipples. I couldn't imagine dealing with this. Your a superwoman!

Namestheyareachangin · 19/06/2019 16:05

Uh that last sentence made no sense but hopefully my point comes across. Breastfeeding doesn't have to 100% blissful all the time to still be on balance a good thing, and mums don't have to make a binary decision to either love every minute or give it up.

And yes it's OK to have a moan about the occasional challenges without having your whole choice invalidated - would you tell someone training for a marathon to just pack it in if they had a brief grumble about blisters?

Purpleartichoke · 19/06/2019 16:09

As someone who breastfed to my dd to 3, I can assure you it is ok to set limits at that age. Stopping any session where he hurts you is a good start. Is it the he is using moment or the spare? If it’s the spare, find someway to block him. If he is just wiggly, I would probably think about limiting the sessions to specific times. That will help you mentally by you knowing you will only be nursing at specific times and he is more likely to settle if it’s a little more sparsely available.


I would not really recommend this, but the wiggles at this age were driving me
Crazy and dd had some medical needs that made it really important I not substantially limit her access to nursing, so I started allowing a bit of screen time while we nursed. It saved my sanity and got me through that wiggly toddler stage, but again, it’s really a last resort for extraordinary circumstances.

Nameisthegame · 19/06/2019 16:10

I hate nip twisting I’ve tried to break DD of it but she goes into a rage! She used to bite so glad that’s over. I know she’s asleep when it stops. Tbh I spend all day saying no and keeping her safe I don’t have the energy to stop the twiddling.

Nameisthegame · 19/06/2019 16:11

Hoping she stops breastfeeding soon she’s almost two

Ratbagratty · 19/06/2019 16:11

I feel you my 15 month old likes to sleep on her tummy... Cue her breastfeeding and trying to turn onto her tummy to sleep. Yeouch!

She also likes to pinch and rub my breast with her fingers while feeding.

SinkGirl · 19/06/2019 16:14

Old enough to understand then! More annoying when you know they understand.

Not necessarily. My twins are 2.5 (not bf, I had to pump) and they don’t understand any words (or signs etc). At 19 months I thought they were just a bit behind.

Not saying the OP’s child has ASD like mine, just that you can’t assume a 19 month old understands things.

User478 · 19/06/2019 16:16

DD likes to put her finger in my belly button and poke. I hate that feeling! What with all the biting, scratching and twiddling I am surprised she gets any milk at all!

(My bottom hasn't fallen off yet, thankfully)

GMtoBe · 19/06/2019 16:30

To the PP who suggested stopping, just because the OP finds something about breastfeeding uncomfortable doesn't mean she needs to stop. How incredibly unhelpful of you.

OP - my DD is 20 months and is a nightmare for this. I have found wearing a necklace with her favourite animal on it helps, she plays with that instead. Took me a while to find one though!

mummymayhem18 · 19/06/2019 16:32

@MustardScreams I don't need to engage my brain thank you. It's quite simple the OP posted about her problem and I stated the fact that she doesn't need to continue now if it's become a problem bearing in mind the child's age. They are by now getting a full balanced diet so don't need it. I wasn't bitchy about it or being rude. I agree for babies breast is best but I also know how it doesn't work out for everyone as they can't always latch on properly etc or for other reasons. So formula is also ok. The child is a toddler now as someone else pointed out. They should be getting all they need from there diet. There's nothing wrong in admitting it's time to wean them off.

VivienneHolt · 19/06/2019 16:34

I’m sure that when you actually have a baby who you love and cherish and would do anything for it becomes easier to live with things like this, but as a currently childless woman who would theoretically like to breastfeed future children, the prospect of nipple twisting or a child just reaching into my bra fills me with indescribable horror. I know it will probably be different when it’s my own though!

Obviously I am in no position to give advice OP but for your sake I hope it stops soon!

MustardScreams · 19/06/2019 16:36

@mummymayhem18 it’s also absolutely not your place to be suggesting someone gives up breastfeeding when they’re having a lighthearted moan about something lots of babies and toddlers do.

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