Ex and his new gf sleep in same bed as DS!!

[FumingMamma]

Hi all,

I posted here before about my ex having a new gf but still hasn't told me about her. He split 2 years ago and it was my decision and we have a 4 year old son that he has every other weekend.

I've just found out that not only has he still not mentioned her to me but my son has in fact met her several times and they all sleep in daddy's bed.

AIBU to be absolutely livid???

He has no respect for me to give me a heads up and say by the way I have a new gf and I'd like to introduce them. He's left our 4 year old tell me.

I don't know this woman, all I know is that she's about 21 years old and lives with her parents.

Before anyone says anything I completely understand he has a new gf, that's fine he was extremely abusive to me during our relationship so she is welcome to him, but after a while I thought he might have told me in case I found out elsewhere?
And he definitely should have told me before introducing my son to her, let alone have them all sleep in the same bed.

What should i do?? I've told him to come over tomorrow night to discuss something important but he doesn't know what, or rather he doesn't know that I know.

[FumingMamma]

@ScreamScreamIceCream I asked my son 2 questions only - If he likes her and if she's kind to him. His answer was yes to both and it isn't her responsibility to decide what is crossing a line, it's DS father.

[TooBusyHavingFun]

I wouldn't be happy with the sharing a bed thing and if I was the new girlfriend I would never do that!

[Herland]

@Fumingmama did you speak to him. Are you ok?

[JasperSIn]

Rah, OP fwiw I agree with you.

Other way round and a woman would be hauled over the coals. Irregardless of the fact men are more likely to be peadophiles, sleeping in the same bed as a random adult, male or female, is inappropriate.

Why should children be subject to the whims of their parents cock (or vagina). What is the rush? Why the need to prove how much of a family you are, by taking your child into bed with you and a new partner.

It’s fucking weird, not on and removes all agency from the child who should be at the forefront of ALL the adults decisions.

If some bloke wanted me to sleep in bed with his child at the start of a relationship it would be a MASSIVE red flag

[Heymummee]

This has been picked up by the mirror by the way, not sure if you’re aware. Scumbags.

[Heymummee]

apple.news/AisEoZfz0TmODsIlBze_eaQ

[JasperSIn]

Wtf?!

I don’t have the news app on my phone so
Can’t read it

[Heymummee]

Sorry. Proper link here www.mirror.co.uk/lifestyle/family/mums-fury-discovering-son-4-14500926

[JasperSIn]

Slow hand clap for Zahra....what a shitty article

[Heymummee]

Pathetic or what. waves hi Zahra

[FumingMamma]

Oh my god I am absolutely mortified!!! How can they do that without my consent?! I don't want my business all over the internet, I posted here thinking it would stay here!

[Heymummee]

It’s shocking. Clearly a slow news day for them. You ask for honest opinions and this happens. You could ask for your post to be removed and send a strongly worded email to the mirror, or a dog shit in the post.

[VampireSlayer19]

Oh my god forget the DS thing the guy raped you for 2 years!!! That’s not sexually abusive that’s criminal!!! Let’s not gloss over that.

Yes technically you have no case to be annoyed but the guy is a concern in general so keep watch and yes raise with him.

BUT if unconsensual the guy raped you - have you addressed is and dealt with it?

[FumingMamma]

@VampireSlayer19 Thank you I did go see a councillor and was diagnosed with PTSD which took me about a year to work through. I have amazing people in my life now and haven't been happier in years.
Just focusing on my son and myself 😁

[Herland]

Bastards.