To eat my daughters Easter eggs and Easter Chocolate?

[ChocolateEverywhere]

DD has got 7 eggs (2 large, 2 med and 3 small) plus the extra packs of sweets/chocolate they come with, a lindt chocolate bunny and a chocolate lolly.

She’s 3 and is going to her dads this weekend where she get yet more chocolate probably another 6-8 eggs (probably med size) from her dads family which will get sent home with her minus the chocolate packs that come inside.

I don’t mind her having a bit of chocolate or a handful of haribo and I’m pleased so many people love her and want to treat her (she has 3 great grandparents and is the only great grandchild on both sides so gets spoilt by them without adding in that she has 5 grandparents and parents who’re separated so buy separately for her and her godparents buy for her as well) but I feel that 13-15 eggs is too much for such a small child.

WIBU to eat the larger chocolate eggs/chocolate and just leave the packs of sweets/chocolate that come from the inside of the eggs? I will be melting some down for cookies/cakes/ice cream sauce over the next week so she’ll get those too, so it’ll just be a bit.

I’ve got no Easter Eggs so feel it’s only fair my DD shares.

[Alsohuman]

It also appears that there are some people who would put them in the bin. The waste of that appals me.

[Takethebuscuitandthesink]

Well if you want to teach your daughter that stealing because you wanted it is ok then go ahead.

[SingleMumFighting]

At 3 that is far too much chocolate. I really limited the amount of sugar I gave to my 3 year old. I would save 1 for her and explain why you will be giving the rest away. Maybe for her health, teeth or other children? I do this at Holloween too. My children just accept it.

[LaurieMarlow]

Well if you want to teach your daughter that stealing because you wanted it is ok then go ahead.

For the love of god

I bet you also object to Santa Claus because it’s ‘lying’

[Takethebuscuitandthesink]

@LaurieMarlow it is about the example that you set this sends the message that stealing other peoples things is alright. The things she picks up now are the building blocks that will shape what kind of person she turns out to be.

[WorraLiberty]

I can't think of a worse comparison than Santa Claus tbh.

We're talking about taking from children here, not giving to them.

A simple, polite "Please may I have some?" or "Would you share with me please?" shows a far better example of manners than just taking what isn't yours, purely because you're in a position where you can and the child can't stop you.

[Planetian]

I’ve been even eating all my children’s eggs for the last two weeks 😄🙈 they’re only 1 and 2 so absolutely no need for them to be having chocolate. I tried to refuse eggs from my family (and got DH to tell his side there was no need) but people still keep giving them so what’s a mum to do?!

[LaurieMarlow]

To be perfectly honest I think letting her have that many eggs is borderline neglectful. It’s FAR too much chocolate for a small child.

[motherofdxughters]

I would. That's an absolutely ridiculous amount of chocolate for a child.

[Mummyamy123]

When this has been us in the past, I’ve helped them melt them and make rice crispy cakes etc. They love doing that and it uses the chocolate up, even if some of the cakes end up in the bin (or my late night snack)

[LaurieMarlow]

it is about the example that you set this sends the message that stealing other peoples things is alright

The message is actually ...

I, as your caregiver, recognise when you’ve been given more than what’s good for you and have taken responsible steps to correct that

I’m more than happy with sending that message to my child thanks very much.

[Chocolatecoffeeaddict]

Yeah I'd eat some. My kids get loads for Easter. Maybe about 7-8 each off the Easter bunny, then about 3 each off grandparents. I've got 4 so that's about 40 odd eggs in the house. They all eventually end up mixed up and shared out.

[Takethebuscuitandthesink]

I, as your caregiver, recognise when you’ve been given more than what’s good for you and have taken responsible steps to correct that

There are other ways to go about it than stealing them and eating them while the daughter is at her dads. The op could limit the amount she is allowed per day or ask the daughter weather she could have some or invite some friends round and explain that it would be the polite thing to do to share it between the friends.

[JeffreyBeaver]

I'd be lying in bed devouring them, decadently wearing two half shells as a bra

[HairycakeLinehan]

Probably been mentioned lots of times (these threads always seem to go on forever! Such a divisive issue ) but we melt them down and make rice crispy cakes.

[LaurieMarlow]

The op could limit the amount she is allowed per day

There’s already been discussion of the relative merits of eeking them out til September or whatever. I totally agree with PP who see this makes little sense in an environment where further treats will be always be forthcoming.

or ask the daughter weather she could have some or invite some friends round

Who no doubt also have tonnes.

The bottom line is that it’s far too much chocolate for a small child, in an environment where sweet treats are everywhere and childhood obesity is on the rise. Taking some away is obviously the responsible thing to do.

[Genderwitched]

I would (and have) You can get away with loads with a 3 yr old.

I wouldn't stand a chance now with 15 yr old DS

[BigFatGoalie]

EAT THE LINDT BUNNY!!!!!🐰

[Takethebuscuitandthesink]

Who no doubt also have tonnes
I’m not so sure they do and in any case that isn’t the op’s issue.

environment where sweet treats are everywhere
Age 3 the parent has almost total control so not necessarily.

Taking some away is obviously the responsible thing to do.
No it isn’t it just says it is ok to be sneaky and to steal behind people’s back. If a parent had an addiction would it be ok for a teenager to raid their mothers wallet to stop the money being used to fund the addiction?. The responsible thing is to get the child to share or to give her a small amount each day.

[WorraLiberty]

The bottom line is that it’s far too much chocolate for a small child, in an environment where sweet treats are everywhere and childhood obesity is on the rise. Taking some away is obviously the responsible thing to do.

Yes, but in a manner that the child understands you're not just snaffling them because you (generic you) want to eat them instead.

Ask them to share, consider food bank donations or bake a cake together for the family.

But don't just take them and eat them because you're bigger than them so therefore you can.

[SunshineCake]

It's not only fair she shares because you've got none.

I would ask her if you could try some of her egg and see what she says. You can let her choose an egg and ration them. Offer to bake with her with some. Next year suggest she is bought books with the great grandparents being the ones to buy a chocolate egg.

[LaurieMarlow]

but don't just take them and eat them because you're bigger than them so therefore you can.

I don’t see that’s what the OPs doing at all. She’s taking them away primarily because it’s the right thing to do.

The child is young, probably too young for a reasoned debate, won’t notice they’re gone, no drama.

[WorraLiberty]

Where are all these 3 year old children who never seem to notice anything? I really don't understand that assumption. Most 3 year olds I know would know whether someone's taken something that belongs to them. Also with regards to the Easter eggs, they would (presumably) have thanked the people who bought them.

And yes, it is primarily the right thing to do, but with the child's knowledge.

[LaurieMarlow]

At three, mine would be aware that they received eggs, but hazy on the number. and even if they did know the number, they’d have forgotten by the time they’d eaten a few, particularly as the OP reckons the final tally will be 13-15 (fucking hell).

[WorraLiberty]

Ok but that's your kids, not everyone's.

Surely it's better for us all to raise our kids with manners and understanding of why too much chocolate (even if eaten over the next few months) is bad for them?

It's just a basic thing to do.