To be fed up of posters who deny something happens based only on the fact it hasn't happened to them

[MrsGideon]

Twice in the last 10 minutes I have opened a thread where a woman is talking about a man or men acting in a creepy or inappropriate way towards her, and both times the first poster to reply has come out with something like "well it's NEVER EVER happened to me so you must be wrong" or "don't generalise because 99.99999% of men are perfect and would never do this", or even "you're misconstruing it OP, it's completely normal and you shouldn't blow things out of proportion".

For fucks sake, when women aren't even believed by OTHER WOMEN it's a fucking bleak world to live in.

To the posters who do this: are you so wrapped up in your own little bubble that you can't comprehend that other people's experiences could differ from your own? Does it make you feel superior to post your comment admonishing women for feeling uncomfortable and silencing their experiences?

Just stop it.

[Folf]

I have a new thing for the NAMALT crew...

[LadyOfTheCanyon]

But Steppemum, although it's great that you weren't intimidated by those encounters, they still happened.

I have a friend who I have known for years who, when I was telling her about the creepiness I've endured over the years ( flashing, public wanking, being touched up on tubes and buses, shouted and wolf whistled at and raped) said " I just don't believe all that has happened to you."
When I asked her why, she said "well, it's never happened to me."

I was absolutely flabbergasted that she would choose to disbelieve me ( we've known each other over 20 years) based on such a weird reason.

I had a central London typically urban childhood and have lived all my life in London, which might account for the fact that I'll run into more weirdos on a numbers basis. But calling me a liar?

I've really struggled to forgive her since to be honest.

[steppemum]

I think I would struggle to forgive her too LadyOfTheCanyon.

It is amazing how undermining it is to be disbelieved over something you know has happened. It feels like gaslighting actually.

[MrsGideon]

LadyOfTheCanyon I'm shocked that she actually said that to your face! Unbelievable.

I'm so sorry all of that has happened to you

[LadyOfTheCanyon]

Ah well she doesn't think the Patriarchy exists or that white privilege is a thing either.

Can't reason with stupid!

[O4FS]

Agreed OP.

[JacquesHammer]

YANBU.

There’s a small core of posters who seem to do nothing but go on threads on various subjects to say “nope, not a thing, it’s never happened to me”. Including a “I’m such a great man, therefore it isn’t as bad as you say” type.

Note the username and take with a massive pinch of salt!

[MrsGideon]

JacquesHammer Oh don't worry, I'll be keeping a weather eye out. I have to say, it was almost gratifying to see one appear on my own thread giving out insults without any evidence I was talking about them in the first place... almost as though they knew they were being a GF and are now feeling super defensive about it

[Seeleyboo]

I wrote a post about this too. Makes me so angry.

[M3lon]

I 100% agree this is a problem on MN!