To kick my neighbours door of :D

[annoyingneighbour]

My neighbour has a little boy, we live in a SHITE new build and he is SCREAMING AGAIN! My poor DD has been in bed for 45 minutes and she cant get to sleep because he is screaming so loud it comes through 2 walls with the door shut 🙄 he used to scream every single night and I heard from another neighbour it was because he was used to being in his mums bed and she was trying to get him out and into his own, THANK GOD it stopped for about a month but its started again the last 3 nights, he also runs up and down and it sounds like a group of elephant are coming through the wall !!!

What makes it 10X worse is she has had words with the neighbour on the other side (terrace) DURING THE MIDDLE OF THE DAY to "turn her music down"

SO AIBU to knock on kick the door of and ask her if she could try and get her son to stop screaming so my poor DD can go to sleep!!!😁

[Aridane]

Well said, icould

[icouldwriteabook]

Oh op. You really have had it from all angles on this thread

I completely sympathise, but my 3 month old being woke up isn’t by a 4 year old boy screaming, it’s by 2 dogs constantly and I mean constantly screeching at night.
(Neighbours don’t speak to us/ anyone) and I got told off other neighbour they’re rescue dogs with ‘issues’. Reported to rspca and don’t hear them now. Just hear the parrot instead. That’s exactly why we’re in the process of moving, and I’m very happy to hear next door don’t have any dogs or parrots.

You didn’t need to hear all that, I just didn’t wanna jump on and give you a load of shite just because you and your child are sleep deprived with a neighbour who doesn’t have any regard for her neighbours and no matter what the issues with the child or if any SEN, she is more than happy to leave him screaming for hours trapped behind a baby gate. Sympathy goes to all of you, but you don’t deserve a bashing just because you wanted somewhere to rant. Everyone’s ‘got’ to have some kind of issues these days and it can’t just be because the child Blatantly isn’t being cared for/ getting what he wants/ screaming because he wants to be in his mums bed.

Hope everyone has a lovely day and spreads happiness and joy.
Life is far too short for giving someone hate on a thread that nobody has actually experienced themselves (no, you haven’t unless you live in Op’s House next door to op’s neighbour )

[RuffleCrow]

It's a very rare mother who wants her child to scream the house down. Most of us work our backsides off trying to keep our kids happy.

Some children are just extremely loud, just as some adults are. We live in a society which frowns upon the expression of negative emotions and when a child breaks that rule, people naturally blame the mother for failing to 'control' them. That's patriarchy.

What is it you're expecting her to do to stop him?

[Ihatehashtags]

I don’t think the neighbor can probably help the fact her son cries but listening to someone else’s child cry and scream for hours on end is enough to send you mad. I think your neighbor should apologise and offer some sort of explanation. I had a neighbor whose daughter had autism. She was very very difficult and when the mum has had enough. She would shut he outside! My neighbor lost it at her one day and told her to shut up. I feel your pain.

[CheshireChat]

It's not your age that's the issue here, it's your attitude really.

You simply wanted to slag her off on MN, if you wanted a solution you could've talked to her and explained that the noise is keeping your DD up and could she do something about it.

[whitesoxx]

No that doesn't make you immature. But all the "sweet, hun and thank you next" stuff makes you sound like a teenager playing at grown ups

[annoyingneighbour]

@whitesoxx yes I'm actually 16, because I don't like my DC being kept awake all night it makes me a young immature girl doesn't it.

Think some people on this thread need to grow up with the sad responses.

[annoyingneighbour]

@corythatwas I would apologise to the neighbours and tell them why she is crying and keeping them up all night. Or at least say hi back to them...

[annoyingneighbour]

@Rockmeamaryllis dummy, juice cup, check nappy, cuddles.. still crying? Take her downstairs and put the tv on quietly she will usually fall back to sleep within 20 mins if I am lucky , I very much struggle with my DD's sleep and have asked for advice on here myself but i stay up with her all night playing if she doesn't sleep, I don't leave her to cry in her room which DOES have a stair gate on it btw as otherwise she would also run round all night...

[mclaleli]

the woman told her that's what she's doing, this morning - and the OP has ears. And her own child that can't sleep because of what this woman is doing..

Oh well, that's a wrap then. There couldn't possibly another side, a different view or an alternative interpretation.

[whitesoxx]

@Rockmeamaryllis give her whatever she wants probably.

Think you're the bees knees don't you OP? You sound very young and immature yet judgemental. Not a good look

[corythatwas]

"My child does still have tantrums, plenty of them, she is almost 3 with a speech delay and very often has break downs when she cant get me or her dad to understand what she wants or needs, but like I said I sort it within 5 mins not to disturb the neighbours"

So what would you do if you had a child who couldn't be "sorted" in 5 minutes because once they went into meltdown they didn't care what you did?

I did try to make dd's problems a little more manageable by letting her into our bed, but the HV was very disapproving and basically implied I was damaging her.

[tippingpoint14]

I beg to differ @Eliza997. The OP posted a question about whether she’s being unreasonable about kicking her neighbour’s door down. The majority of us, it seems, believe she is being unreasonable but she’s responded by calling us “morbid” and telling us to STFU. She’s not considering anything anyone has said. At all. She is also calling her neighbour she admitted she knows very little about a “cunt”. She is not a listener.

If we are to take the OP’s word for it, it still doesn’t mean her neighbour is leaving her child to cry. My child cries irrespective of what I do. In the room. Out of the room. Doesn’t matter. You know why? Not all kids are the same. I’ll say it again so you get it. Not all kids are the same. And they’re not robots you can switch off when you’re tired of them.

I don’t believe in cry it out either, but sleep deprivation makes people desperate and it is a desperate measure so if she actually does use CIO, I understand. Sometimes it may be the only thing that works. Who knows. The OP knows nothing about the child or the mother, but is happy to make a whole lot of assumptions about them anyway.

[Rockmeamaryllis]

I’m curious as to how you manage to stop your child from screaming after 5 minutes. What’s your technique?

[Eliza9917]

You literally have no idea that this is actually what is happening though. All you have is an irate OP calling her neighbour a cunt. It's unlikely OP is providing a neutral account of what's happening.

the woman told her that's what she's doing, this morning - and the OP has ears. And her own child that can't sleep because of what this woman is doing..

[Newbie1981]

There's not a lot she can do to stop it. She's probably hoping her neighbours understand that we were all babies once

[mclaleli]

And to call her a cunt

Well she is a bit. Should OP just wait for him to learn no one is coming?

You literally have no idea that this is actually what is happening though. All you have is an irate OP calling her neighbour a cunt. It's unlikely OP is providing a neutral account of what's happening.

[HaventGotAllDay]

This woman is being defended against the abuse thrown at her by her neighbour.
I'd love to hear what the neighbour has to say, because I somehow don't imagine our OP lives a life of quiet and well mannered sobriety.

[Ewitsahooman]

"Yeah he is right, its cause I put a stair gate on his room so leave him to it now cant sleep with him in my bed"

When DS first started having sleep issues this was the same advice given to me by the HV and GP - put a stairgate on his door to keep him safely contained and to prevent him going wandering in the night. The reasoning being that in the absence of other options he would just get into bed. Does it not occur to you that she is probably following similar advice?

So thankfully her son doesn't have SN

You still don't know that, she hasn't told you that he doesn't have SN and is under no obligation to tell you if he does.

I think he has attachment problems

You're not the least bit qualified to make that diagnosis.

my niece is 4 and would also scream all night if she was locked in a room all night she HAS to sleep with DM

So? This isn't about your niece.

she is just a CUNT

Takes one to know one.

[Eliza9917]

And to call her a cunt

Well she is a bit. Should OP just wait for him to learn no one is coming?

Its not right to leave children in a room to scream and scream all night and offer them no comfort. Why is this woman being defended when all the cry it out/sleep threads are full of
I would NEVER let my child cry for more than 5mins
Its dangerous to let them cry & cry Etc

[Puffty]

Neighbours noise can drive the most sane of us mad. I recommend a white noise machine at night - works wonders for us. It's a bit weird the first night but you get used to it from then on in. A bit too used to it - ours. Ours comes everywhere with us!

[tippingpoint14]

Wow. You’re a charmer.

[mclaleli]

You were not right at all. I guess you missed the tone of my post.

And to call her a cunt

[annoyingneighbour]

@mclaleli no I don't think I am right I think he has attachment problems that his mum isn't recognising, my niece is 4 and would also scream all night if she was locked in a room all night she HAS to sleep with DM

[mclaleli]

Oh well, I guess you were right all along then