My 16 year old son (nearly 17) All 6.4" of him has been reduced to a sobbing heap yet again by his father. His father continues to bully, manipulate and call him abusive names if he hasn't been to visit him. Tonight he got called an "ugly piece of sh*t" :(
We have a court order and my son is ordered to spend every alternative weekend at his fathers...his father is now making him feel guilty if he doesn't also visit him mid week...he doesn't want to go but does just to keep the piece. My son has told him tonight he doesn't want to see him this weekend and now his father is threatening him with the police etc because there is a court order.He says he will come and "get him" tomorrow if he doesn't turn up at his house!!! I cant intervene and say anything to him as not only do i get bombarded with abuse as it makes it worse for my son he then gets abused for "snitching to his mummy" Whats more tonight he also started slagging off me to my son he insinuated I slept around with different men and told him I "murdered" his brother or sister...!!!
I had an abortion the second time I fell pregnant with him as I knew I could not be with this man for any longer, i had not told my son...
This man when I was with him abused and bullied me so badly that i had a nervous breakdown and lost all self esteem. I suffered and still do with post traumatic stress disorder from our relationship even though it ended 14 years ago and I have not been able to have a functional relationship with anyone else since.
I dont know what to do how I can make it better without my son getting it worse from his father who is nothing more than a bully. But I can't sit around and let this happen any longer...this is the most important year for my son he's about to sit his GCSEs...i just cant believe it, i need some support to know what to do so i can support and protect my son in the best way... :((((
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strongandfocused · 28/03/2019 23:36
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