To be really upset by this woman

[Climbingahoneytree]

I'm on a weekend break at the moment with DH and Ddog, before our baby arrives in June.
DH had gone in to the onsite shop to get some bits for tea whilst I waited outside with Ddog. A woman came out of the clubhouse with two drinks and asked me to watch them whilst she went and bought a lighter.

When she came out she asked how old Ddog was and said that he had to give her dog away when she had her first baby because it got jealous and nasty, and was sorry to tell me this but 'that's just how it goes'. She didn't hear me tell her that I teach at dog training twice a week and that a good friend is a full time trainer. Ddog loves kids and has been very snuggly with me through pregnancy. So many people have felt the need to tell me I'll have to rehome him, despite the fact he is fantastic with children and babies.

Then she asked me when I was due. When I told her June, she started going on 'oh you're really small for June' (first time anyone hasn't called me huge and asked if I am having twins) 'is there anything wrong with baby, is she measuring ok, well as long as you think she is healthy'

I got distracted by people coming to fuss ddog whilst she carried on talking about if my baby would be healthy or not and then walked off. This woman is a total stranger. Little does she know that we did actually receive a high risk of DS (got the all clear) and do have to have growth scans because of this, but at all of my appointments they have said everything looks fine and baby is currently growing along at the most average rate.

Anyway, I've got back to the caravan and cried my eyes out. DH has told me not to pay attention as the woman (we aren't normally so judgy) had no teeth and was sitting outside smoking drinking two pints, so shouldn't be speaking to me about health. He also said to totally ignore her about ddog (who I love dearly) as she probably doesn't actually know anything about dog behaviour.

But I can't shake how upset I am!! What makes people think they have a right to say anything that pops in their head upon seeing a baby bump?

[flumpybear]

She's an idiot! I've got lots of friends and me who kept both cats and dogs with children - don't know anyone who gave their pet away 😎

Baby thing - bloody stupid woman - talk about getting to a point to concern a mum to be. Think it through though, you've beeen told by others about bing big, and I'm sure you've seen your midwife who hasn't flagged anything so you enjoy your weekend and next time you see her ask if she's got no teeth because she ate too many sweets and bad foods /smoker or did she meet somebody, upset them and lost her teeth that way

[FinallyHere]

I wasn't being grumpy to DH, we had a conversation about it as I was upset

Ah, apologies, I misunderstood your mention of DH...

but I think he appreciates the fact it stops me being in a mood all night because of one ignorant person!

[Climbingahoneytree]

@FinallyHere not in a mood with him in any way, just a bit quiet because I was thinking about it

[Jux]

That incident explains beautifully why I hated being pg!

Ignore the silly old bat, she clearly has absolutely no idea what she's talking about.

Everyone expected me to have to rehome the cats when dd was born. They looked after her! Slept beside her, purred at her, let her pull their whiskers, rubbed her with their soft fur. MIL HATED it, I've no idea why and don't care.

[PregnantSea]

It always amuses me when people who are clearly very unhealthy start doling out health advice. Standing there with a pint and fag telling you she thinks your baby bump is too small... lol.

You're PG, your hormones are going crazy. I understand completely because I'm the same now and get very angry/upset about the endless stupid comments that strangers make. Don't be afraid to tell someone to fuck off. Actually use those words if there are no kids around - it feels great!

[PregnantSea]

KC225 I have had the same! Isn't it ridiculous, the amount of shit that people come out with about cats when you're pregnant? I've been warned about the "stealing the breath of babies" thing by people I used to think of as intelligent. You might as well tell me I need to anoint the baby in sage ashes to ward off evil spirits - it sounds just as reasonable.

I predict that my cat will never be in the same room as my baby because she's a timid little thing who runs away at loud noises. She can't even cope with the washing machine lol.

[thecatsarecrazy]

People talk a lot of crap to pregnant women I don't know how they have the nerve. With number 3 I wasn't asked if it was planned but if by the same father? I already had 2 ds and I got oh I bet your hoping for a girl... Knowing your luck it will be another boy... I did go on to have a 3rd ds who is absolutely beautiful he had problems at birth and spent 4 weeks in hospital. The nurse's asked if he was my 1st when I said no I have 2 other sons they said oh dear better luck next time. He was having all sorts of tests at the time and they say that?

[Climbingahoneytree]

I did go on to have a 3rd ds who is absolutely beautiful he had problems at birth and spent 4 weeks in hospital. The nurse's asked if he was my 1st when I said no I have 2 other sons they said oh dear better luck next time. He was having all sorts of tests at the time and they say that?

That's unthinkably rude and insensitive. I can't believe health professionals said that to you. I hope everything went well with DS