Entitled BIL

[LittleMissUnreasonable]

I may be being unreasonable here but feeling a bit fed up with BILs entitledness. His GF (my sister) was unwell in bed and they were due to be packing to move in together that day so I dropped BIL a message explaining the situation and he said he would come around in the early evening with the van. I then began packing up all DSis things while she slept. Hadn't heard back from BIL and it was getting on for 9pm so I assumed he wasn't coming. I finally took a break from packing after 8 hours and sat down, door bursts open at 10pm making me jump out my skin. It was BIL who arrived with the van. He then proceeds to begin packing things up in the van, trapsing up and down the stairs clattering about till midnight. All that was fine, annoying but fine.
Next day, as DSis was in bed still, me and BIL were loading the van up, overall we managed to pack up everything in about 5 hours. DSis was feeling better so we decided to go to a cafe for much deserved grub. DSis paid for BIL and I brought my food with no offers. My food came to just over a fiver. BIL and DSIS are on combined salary of 65k so not short of money.
BIL also got gifted a substantial amount of deposit money for their house from his father and didn't get him a birthday present because he 'forgot'. I'm probably being unreasonable but just needed a rant

[ScarletBitch]

Your sister is a CF, she is pregnant not bloody dying!

[Purpleartichoke]

The person who is supposed to step up and do the packing during pregnancy sickness is the father of the baby. I think you would be better off asking yourself why you are helping her move in with him in the first place.

[Grumpelstilskin]

Your sister sounds like a right piss taking CF. I would not lift a finger for her again.

[LittleMissFunTimes]

Grown adults on good salaries should be paying professionals to move them, not recruiting innocent by-standers. My EXH is in high management on a v good salary. To move out of our house he got his bff to take a day off his self employed work and his middle aged, over weight and slightly infirm father to both help. Cheeky, cheeky fuckers. Think of this as a wake up call. Stay well away.

[Onceuponacheesecake]

Eh? Sounds like he cracked on and was working his arse off. Why would he owe you anything, what is the relevance to his wage and gifted deposit?

If I was your sister I'd have insisted on paying for both of your meals. Your sister is cheeky here.

[youknowmedontyou]

Why didn't you pay for their lunch?

Honestly OP stop being walked over by your Sister!

She'd done fuck all packing even though she was moving that day,...... nothing! Still she didn't need to because she hadyou to do it!

Entitled BIL my arse!

[justasking111]

Oh your DS is cheeky, it was for her to treat you. Her boyfriend had probably done a day at work and then had to organise the move with you.

[Frenchmontana]

OP do you have form for treating her like a princess?

I cant help thinking she knew exactly what you would do, when she took to her bed. She knew you would end yo doing it all.

If so, she is in for a rude awakening when the baby comes.

[NCforthis2019]

Your sister is taking you for an idiot and treating you as a skivvy yet it’s her boyfriend you have an issue with. Great.

[KC225]

Agree with above. Your sister is a piss taker.

[LagunaBubbles]

Not sure why youre focusing on him in title and missing out your sister!

[BerrowHarm]

So its agreed that your Sis is the CF here.

Sure as eggs are eggs she's going to ask you to bring round your gardening stuff and DIY tools etc. to help them do up their house, and never say thanks nor give them back. I hope you can get out of it!

[lilabet2]

Yep 'Entitled Dsis' should be the heading!!

£5 for hours and hours of work is not too much to ask, even if she was genuinely ill!

[Toooldtocareanymore]

Why should your sisters bf pay for your lunch? no she should have, how would he know you spend so much time packing, all those hours, for your sis, clearly she had done nothing in advance despite knowing she was moving that day?? he wasn't there? she did know though. He came with van he packed up van, he didn't sit down demand you do it, ok he was later than said but he showed, how is this entitled? combined 7 hours to put stuff in a van, that's madness, that must have been a lot of stuff and your sister knew that but took to her bed the whole time. You helped him for 5 hours, from what I can tell no one asked you. you are a lovely sister and its up to your sister to acknowledge that, not the poor lad doing work with you.

As for what he buys his relatives for birthdays is absolutely none of your business.

You need to see that this bf has done nothing wrong at all in this situation, and the problem is your sis, you clearly don't like him so your blaming him

[M4J4]

Your sister sounds very tight for not treating you to lunch.

Would she have helped you if you were in the same situation?

Take a step back and evaluate how much you do for her and if it's reciprocated in similar or other ways.

[GreenFingersWouldBeHandy]

Also agree is your sister who's taking the mick here, not BIL.

[Tinkety]

Your post should be called ‘Entitled Sister’ because as another poster said, your BIL did his part & you did your sister’s.

Your BIL also did not pay for lunch, your sister did so again, blame her.

BIL and DSIS are on combined salary of 65k so not short of money.

Be careful with this way of thinking, yes they may not “usually” be short of money but buying an house his expensive so they may be strapped for cash right now.

[NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1]

1. your sister is a CF
   
2. Hope the house they've just moved into isn't in her partners name only.

[Motherofcreek]

Yeah they both took the piss

[Greatbigterribleshart]

I hope you packed it all badly and in a complete muddle! You've been taken for a mug.
Ask them when they are getting you a nice take away or dinner as thanks for helping them move, see what their reaction is.

[Wallsbangers]

Your sister is a CF, I wouldn't bother helping in the future OP

[Chickychoccyegg]

should be your sister your annoyed at. she's the one you done a madsive fabour for.
in future dont do massive favours for either of them

[FizzyGreenWater]

Take a step RIGHT back from helping these people

Learn this lesson right now. A mental note to be... tougher. Less helpful. Very busy.

Or you will be on here in three years time stressing that you've somehow found yourself providing two days a week childcare for their toddler for free, they owe you 6K after you loaned them money in an emergency and they show no sign of paying it back despite having gone to Florida last month, and your sister borrowed your best coat and ruined it and is now upset you've asked her to replace it.

Cheeky bastards are everywhere. If they're in your family, the sooner you learn to neutralize them and their requests with bland unhelpfulness and definitely no accessible savings or coats that fit them, the happier you will be!

[LittleMissUnreasonable]

@Justhere - apologies....my sister's boyfriend seemed a bit of a mouthful to type in every other sentence