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AIBU?

Parents own choice

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Mummyto3loons · 15/03/2019 02:31

Me and my friend got into a bit of a disagreement the other day.. she doesn’t allow her son and treats i.e chocolate sweet juice. So the other day when she came to mine my son was eating a milky bar and he went to share with her LO and she pulled him away so I said what’s the harm in him having a small bite and she went off on one it’s bad for his teeth and not to mention it will effect his weight I was in utter shock as my friend will sit and binge on such food on a night so when I pointed this out she said I need it for when I am on (TMI) I told her that when I last visited the dentist with my boys I asked on the harm a small amount of chocolate or sweets would do and he said in small amounts it’s fine and I told her he said babies/toddlers having dummies can be worse on teeth yet she allows him to sit with a dummy in all day.. I get every parent is different we all do things to suit us but I just don’t agree that it’s fine for her to eat the good stuff and not her LO

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chocolatelog · 15/03/2019 12:05

I have a friend who was really strict with what her children ate when they was little. They were only allowed one square of chocolate on a Sunday after there dinner 🙈 Easter egg would last until the following Easter! And always gloated that her kids didn't have one filling.

As soon as they turned 18 they went mad, ate what they wanted, turned to drugs and got face piercings and 90% of their bodies tattooed and are both over weight. When their mother and father asked them why they were doing it they said they were retaliating for the years that they weren't aloud shit.

Needless to say my friend now doesn't have a relationship with either of her children. Being controlling and not letting kids be kids doesn't always pan out great.

thedisorganisedmum · 15/03/2019 12:07

As soon as they turned 18 they went mad, ate what they wanted, turned to drugs and got face piercings and 90% of their bodies tattooed and are both over weight.

people don't tell you enough about the danger of chocolate

YesimstillwatchingNetflix · 15/03/2019 12:09

What!? Mind your own business!

I'm surprised you have many friends who are parents if you regularly carry on like that.

Oliversmumsarmy · 15/03/2019 15:21

If 'friend' has imposed a complete sugar ban then she's potentially just storing up problems for the future

I actually don’t think a complete sugar ban would. A friend did this with her dc and now grown up they actually don’t like chocolate or sweet things.

I think the parents who gave their children chocolate but rationed it probably did more harm than good and were a bit cruel.

If you are going to give your child a taste for something then don’t ration it otherwise it wouldn’t take a great brain to workout the result they got was inevitable.

OTOH some people ban sugar for a medical reason. A friends Ds has an “allergy” to sugar.

It sends him completely nutty. Like being completely drunk on 1 Haribo

PregnantSea · 15/03/2019 15:28

It's not really your business. I agree that it's over the top but it's completely her decision. I would be annoyed if I stipulated that my child couldn't have something and then another parent who knew this started questioning it in front of the child and saying it would do no harm.

VelvetPineapple · 15/03/2019 15:43

I certainly wouldn’t let my child “have a bite” of something that’s been in someone else’s mouth. Perhaps she was too polite to say that she was worried about her child catching herpes or something.

Mummyto3loons · 15/03/2019 16:11

Wow you must wrap your child/children in bubble wrap if your scared of them catching illnesses it apart of life and I think you have a very sick mind to think a toddler has herpes shame on you

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VelvetPineapple · 15/03/2019 16:16

Er why is it sick to think a toddler has herpes?! It’s really common to see kids of all ages with herpes. There have been loads of news articles about babies dying of herpes. And adults with herpes are advised not to kiss babies in case they catch it.

Ellisandra · 15/03/2019 16:18

I don’t think the OP is very well informed re the herpes virus. “Sick” sounds like she thinks it’s just an STD. You need to educate yourself OP! Google cold sores.

thedisorganisedmum · 15/03/2019 16:21

I think OP needs to educate herself on a lot of things!

Minding her own business and respecting other parents decision being one of them.

Meralia · 15/03/2019 16:37

Of course toddlers can get herpes. Cold sores are very common.

Mmmmbrekkie · 15/03/2019 17:41

I don’t think the OP is very well informed re the herpes virus.

Let’s be honest. The OP doesn’t exactly sound like the sharpest tool in the box generally

BlueMerchant · 15/03/2019 17:45

Sounds like you two are competitive. Both believing your way is the 'right' way. I fear for the future of the friendship.

thedisorganisedmum · 15/03/2019 17:52

Sounds like you two are competitive. Both believing your way is the 'right' way.

I don't think you got that right

One is trying to force-fed chocolate to a child to prove a point, but the other is not manhandling the other to remove sweets

WorraLiberty · 15/03/2019 18:07

I think you have a very sick mind to think a toddler has herpes shame on you

Oh dear OP

I think I've turned myself inside out, cringing for you

Mummyto3loons · 15/03/2019 18:31

Not really my friend and her son are at my house now having a sleepover so no hard feelings between us and for people saying I was slagging her off I have shown her this and she actually been laughing I wish you all a happy weekend with you families as I intended to enjoy mine

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Mummyto3loons · 15/03/2019 18:32

Enjoy your weekend love I loved reading your comments well wishes to you and yours

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WorraLiberty · 15/03/2019 18:33

So your friend condoms condones your behaviour?

Cool.

thedisorganisedmum · 15/03/2019 18:34

I have shown her this and she actually been laughing
being described publicly as a recovering drug addict with bad judgement and poor parenting skills, who wouldn't find it hilarious

WorraLiberty · 15/03/2019 18:34

Oh and here's your 'friend' now

PurpleDaisies · 15/03/2019 18:35

That’s a cool story.

WorraLiberty · 15/03/2019 18:35

Both of these 'friends' seem to share a complete lack of punctuation.

Strange that...

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planespotting · 15/03/2019 18:57

and for people saying I was slagging her off I have shown her this and she actually been laughing
Sure.

Mmmmbrekkie · 15/03/2019 19:40

To the friend

You can do a lot better than the OP for a friend

Littlechinagirl · 15/03/2019 20:13

You are being unreasonable.
It's not up to you whether you think it's ok for her child.to have a harmless snack. it's her choice. It was also very rude of you to point out her eating habits as a result.
Wow. Rude.

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