Thank you for your kind words. I wish i could give them to his parents.
Regrading my dc remembering him; It's been 2 years, i hope that they remember him fondly, perhaps with a smile, now. He'd left a party and people had tried to stop him. While my dc knew him, the people he had been with immediately prior have had more difficulty than mine.
The details were devastating to all the young people, all the people, in our community.
Our ds has begun making window breaking tools. He sells them, gives them to friends and family and they are in all of our cars. It's been a profound effect on them.
It is difficult to write about. But i wanted to give a different perspective about memorials.
I used to see an older man and a child tending a white cross by my mother's. I wondered if it was the child/parent's marker. Their marker wasn't acting for attention; they had to walk through a field and down an embankment.
Before my dc's friend died, i thought much like other posters. But, since then (I've mentioned before, apologies) my dd was hit while stopped, by distracted drivers, and received traumatic brain injuries. She's recovering, although will probably not fully recover.
At this point, if anything at all helps people drive more safely, i'm for it.
I am not trying to "get attention" by posting this. I don't even seem to be able to write clearly about this. I'm sorry.
My dd, that poor young man, his surviving twin, our community. Most of us are lucky enough to love and be loved. If a marker helps remind us to be more careful and thus helps avert tragedy, i don't mind clutter.
I just wing up a prayer and try to drive more carefully.