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AIBU to just complain a bit?

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proseccoandbooks · 16/10/2018 15:55

I've name changed because it's outing. But been there through all- cancel the cheque etc

I am in my mid twenties, I have a fairly decent relationship that might or might not end up in marriage ( this is another topic issue). I work 35 hours a week in a very demanding industry AND I have just started my second university degree.

I came home today and I am washing the bloody curtains. I almost fell asleep in class today.

I am tired. My house needs a very DEEP clean which I'm going to do at the week-end.

Can I have a pity party, please? And a hand hold? And very effective time management, please?

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Zcarter · 16/10/2018 16:07

If your doing the clean the weekend leave the curtains tonight and have a rest. What dose you relationship have to do with anything ?? Do you live together ???

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 16/10/2018 16:16

Why are you washing the curtains? Confused

Just put your feet up for a couple of hours.

Hire a cleaner for the deep clean?

Nothisispatrick · 16/10/2018 16:19

I don’t understand, why are you washing curtains? What’s your relationship got to do with it and isn’t 35 hours a pretty decent working week?

SoyDora · 16/10/2018 16:21

Ok so 35 hours at work and a degree. I hate to be one of those people but it sounds fairly manageable to me (I once did a 40+ hours in a demanding career plus a masters so I vaguely know what I’m talking about). Could there be an underlying reason why you’re so tired? Low iron/thyroid?

SleepingStandingUp · 16/10/2018 16:22

Did you have rampant sex against them last night hence dirty curtains and tired in class?

I recommend coffee and some more useful details to your post lol.

Do you cohabit?
Why does it need a deep clean?
Are you doing uni through work or part time in addition to work?

Houseonahill · 16/10/2018 16:22

I think the point of the relationship was that it's just another thing to juggle on top of everything else?

Don't be hard on yourself OP your doing a lot. Would a cleaner for a deep clean be something you could afford? And even if it's shit now think how not shit it will be in a couple of years when you have finished your degree Smile

RangeRider · 16/10/2018 16:23

You're home and posting here before 4pm? That's a cushy job. Plenty of time to stick the curtains in the machine & crack on with some studying. I'm not seeing a problem.

Dontfeellikeamillenial · 16/10/2018 16:24

What? Washing curtains?

Merryoldgoat · 16/10/2018 16:25

Why are you washing curtains when you’re knackered? Unless they’re covered in piss or similar I can’t see the urgency.

MamaLovesMango · 16/10/2018 16:27

I don’t get it.

SleepingStandingUp · 16/10/2018 16:28

OP might work three long days and then do 205 days at uni, so that's 50-55 hours, not exactly my definition of cushy

arethereanyleftatall · 16/10/2018 16:28

I've never washed curtains in my life. Don't do it, save yourself one stress at least.

SleepingStandingUp · 16/10/2018 16:29

2.5 days

BritInUS1 · 16/10/2018 16:35

I can honestly say I have NEVER washed a pair of curtains !

Justkeeprollingalong · 16/10/2018 16:49

Me neither, and I'm quite old!

Stuckforthefourthtime · 16/10/2018 16:54

Agree with pp that I hate to be one of those people, but I'm not understanding why there is a pity party here.
Was the '35 hours' a typo for 55? Do you have you young children but forgot to mention it? A major health issue?
If not, then being mid twenties with presumably your own home (most of us barely bother to wash our own curtains, let alone someone else's), a decent relationship sounds pretty decent, even with study. In your place I'd stop doing unnecessary cleaning, make sure anyone who cohabits with you also helps with other cleaning, and then do a time diary to see where all your time is going.

Ohheyyy · 16/10/2018 16:56

Another confused person here.

Why are you washing the curtains? That's not entirely standard/normal cleaning.

proseccoandbooks · 16/10/2018 16:57

Ok, I'll try to answer all the questions.

I am washing the curtains once a year. It's part of an "annual" deep clean. My partner isn't home tonight so I took it upon myself to wash the curtains. We're doing the deep clean together, on Saturday. I was mentioning the relationship only to put my life in perspective.

Work hours vs uni: I work 35-40 hours a week plus another 35 at uni. That's roughly 70, not counting the travel time to work/uni, from work to uni, etc. I was posting at 3 UK time. Unfortunately I live in a country that's +2. Which means here it was roughly 5 PM. This was one of my easiest days.

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Celebelly · 16/10/2018 16:58

Sod the curtains! If the cleaning is getting you down and you can afford it, get someone in to do a deep clean or even someone in regularly. I'm planning to do that before our baby arrives next year. Life's too short.

proseccoandbooks · 16/10/2018 16:59

@SleepingStandingUp Not exactly my definition of "cushy" either, having a 70+ hour week, but hey hoGrin

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proseccoandbooks · 16/10/2018 17:00

@Celebelly my brain must be too tired, curtains are thankfully washed and hung up. So that's done and dusted. I think it's pretty standard to clean them yearly. I like them fresh

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Namechangeforthiscancershit · 16/10/2018 17:00

A lot of people do work and study. A lot of people do 70+ hours anyway spread over one job or more. I’m not sure a pity party is needed here.

Leave the curtains. It’s not part of any deep clean regime I’ve heard of and clearly it’s stressing you out.


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SoyDora · 16/10/2018 17:01

I’m assuming you’ve chosen to do the second degree?
I’m another who has never washed my curtains Blush.

onalongsabbatical · 16/10/2018 17:02

On your death bed will you regret not having washed the curtains often enough?
Or something else?

proseccoandbooks · 16/10/2018 17:03

Oh sod the curtains. I've done that anyway. So odd, I washed them yearly. It's a half an hour job + the time in the washing machine. Not a big deal.

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