To want my own bed?

[PassiveAgressivePenguin]

I’m so pissed off. DH is at least 4/5? stone heavier than I am and he is about 6,2. We have a king sized bed. Last year we got a new mattress because the one we had before was squashed flat on his side and I would always roll into him. New mattress was ok for a while but now the same thing is happening again! He is a fucking great bed hog and lies sprawled in the middle. I have to perch on the edge. The problem now is that it’s really starting to hurt my back. I was fine on ipubrofen and paracetamol for a while but now it’s not touching the discomfort. I’m always sleeping at an angle where I’m rolling into his sprawled mass and I wake up in pain and the mattress (which took so long for us to chose and was expensive) is now totally fucked.

AIBU to say enough is enough and sleep in the spare room? Do any of you have a similar problem and did you overcome it?

[Situp]

We have a 6 week old in a sidecar and I have used it as a pretext to kick DH into the spare room. It is wonderful!

I am a firm believer that sleeping is not a team sport and you should create an environment which enables you to do it as effectively as possible

[Rowgtfc72]

Dh is 17st 6ft 6 and a middle bed hogger. We also have a firm ikea mattress. No roll together. I find a swift nip to the arse shuffles him over!

[QuiteCleanBandit]

We have had separate rooms for ages now.
Its absolute bliss .
Got to the point of desperation and was considering divorce .
He is a night owl and Im not and would come up hours later,bounce me awake as he sat on the bed etc and then snore all night.

No more !
Aaah no man stuff chucked everywhere,no farting,tossing and turning and no snoring.
I sleep like a baby in my lovely room

[NorksAreMessy]

Separate rooms is bliisssssssss.
With visiting rights of course, but his snoring, socks and cat are his problem now.

Don’t compromise your health, not just your back, but lack of sleep is bad for general health as well.

[ShirleyPhallus]

Ex-dp was 6’7” and about 17 stone and this didn’t happen to us - I have a firm Ikea mattress. Second the individual single ones zipped together

[Poppins2016]

DH regularly sleeps in the spare room as he goes to bed later than I do, wakes me up getting ready for bed and then starts snoring, loudly, while I'm trying to get back to sleep. He then continues to wake me up by snoring in the middle of the night, multiple times...

It's absolute bliss sleeping in separate rooms. No more tiredness, resentment or getting tearful in the middle of the night because I can't sleep unless I move rooms. Our relationship has improved, I have more energy and we're just as affectionate when we're not asleep.

[Moonraker37]

Def separate rooms. We do that! Both sleep so much better now.

[BellyBean]

Dh is 6'6 and large, we got a firm pocket sprung and rotate the mattress regularly. 5 years in it's doing well.

[Ickyockycocky]

You should definitely have your own bed. Sleep is so important to our health and well-being. Don’t waste another second putting up with this discomfort. Go and choose yourself a nice comfortable bed.

[dudsville]

Seconding the individual duvets as well. No one should have to share a duvet.

[Loulou0]

Do it! We did the same because my husband is a fidget and a snorer.

I sleep wonderfully now.

[Foodylicious]

Def get a super king size with two singles that zip together.
And a double quilt each!

And then still move in to the spare room if it doesn't help enough.

[EatTheChocolateTeapot]

Put 2 single mattresses next to each oher or even 2 single beds with a small gap so he stays on his side?

[speakout]

Oh and I have separate rooms.

It is blissful.
We each have a double bed.

[TheDailyMailIsADisgustingRag]

Oh that sounds like hard work. Yanbu at all imo to move rooms.

[dudsville]

You can buy a bed that has two parts, like two singles. We have this. Ours was for the purpose of needing a super king size bed but such a mattress wouldn't fit up our stairs. Our mattresses zip together and with a thick mattress topper you can't feel the join.