DSis is 46 and all her adult life has lurched from one crisis to another beginning with addiction to cocaine in her lates 20s, done for drink driving twice, a period where she came out as a lesbian (which all the family completely supported), then she wasn't a lesbian, massive debts plus many more disasters.
As a family, we have always been there to pick up the pieces, rescue her from drug dens, blah, blah. It's been going on for so long nothing surprises me. What bothers me is the effect it has on my Dparents who understandably spend the majority of there time deeply worried about her. She is still living with them. She currently works (but constantly complains about how she is treated there). Her current issue is massive weight loss so she is very underweight (BMI 16 - had blood tests so no underlying cause). My Dparents think it is caused by her being stressed at work, are convinced she is eating well and are besides themselves with worry about her. If I question that she is not eating breakfast and lunch when she is at work my Dmum becomes angry with me. Most of our conversations end up about her, Dmum gives me guilt trips that I should be making more of an effort with her. The problem is deep down I feel so with her angry that she is ruining my Dparents life and have run out of patience for her a long time ago. I think it affects my relationship with them and cannot forgive her for that. We have very little in common now so I do struggle to get on with her. I don't really know how to handle my underlying irritation about her but if I cannot talk about this with my parents.
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AIBU?
So fed up effect Dsis has on Dparents but probably IABU
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beingabanana1 · 01/12/2017 15:32
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