Aibu...fury with dh aka the chocolate thief

[freddiemercury]

My husband has form for stealing DS's chocolate...including his box of birthday chocs. D'S got v upset with him as he's away at boarding school and was looking forward to them; but came home to discover them gone. They were replaced
Fast forward only two weeks and i had bought him some v cool choc in the shape of a rusty nail and bolt for him to smuggle back to school..they were incredibly realistic. Yes I know I shouldn't.. .but that's beside the point.
Now to be fair I hadnt specifically told husband they were for D'S.. .but they were in a bag, tucked away and he must have known he hadn't bought them and I hadn't given them to him.
D'S knew about the rusty nail choc....asked to see it and of course the bag was empty. It's not easy to get more. D'S and i are v cross...DH says we are over reacting.....whos right??!!

[mikeyssister]

Ooooooh I was given that chocolate as a Christmas present and it tasted really lush and rich. Not like a normal bar at all.

[Taylia]

My dad used to insist I break up all my Easter eggs and put them in a bowl in the fridge.
Whenever I'd go to get some the bowl would look emptier, I would be told I must have eaten them.

Discovered as I got older every time he went into the kitchen he'd steal a bit out of the fridge. Easy to steal if it wasn't wrapped. Easy to force a child to do as they're told.

I hate it when adults steal food from kids, whether it be chocolate or from their plates. It's not yours get your sticky fingers off it.

[WorraLiberty]

I have form for eating my daughters chocolate. But I would draw the line at opening and eating what is clearly an unopened child's gift!

Why do you have 'form' for doing this to your daughter HellyWelly10?

I can't imagine growing up in a house where you can't simply put a bar of chocolate in the fridge/cupboard for later, because your selfish parent thinks they have the right to take it.

My friend grew up in a house like that. She couldn't even put her Easter eggs in the fridge and eat some as and when she fancied, because her parents were selfish and ate them without asking.

As a result, she soon learned to binge eat them quickly and now has no self control either.

[Stabbitha]

You can purchase them online.

thechocolateworkshop.co.uk

[RenterNomad]

I've found the freezer really helps me keep chocolate safe, from me and DH (and DS!) and for the children. It defrosts easily enough on my way to school to pick up the children, but is absolutely useless as an impulse treat.

Your problems do sound a bit more deeply seated, though...

[Dafspunk]

He needs to be the one to traipse to Westfield to replace.

[Kpo58]

YANBU.

Behaviour like this only teaches the kids unhealthy behaviours like needing to hoard food.

[shouldwestayorshouldwego]

Sounds as if he needs to go to Westfield to get another one to replace it.

[MissConductUS]

the husband is still not acknowledging it was a shitty thing to do....saying "it's not a big deal"

So in addition to having a compulsion he can't control, he's a self centered jerk about it.

Is he this way generally?

[freddiemercury]

Thing someone asked where I got it.. it is from the Amazing Chocolate Workshop, they've got a shop in Westfield west London which o stumbled across but can't get back to for a while.
Meanwhile the husband is still not acknowledging it was a shitty thing to do....saying "it's not a big deal" I think he genuinely believes it isn't.. .

[lalalalyra]

Is his issue that he can't resist the chocolate or is it that he can't resist sabotaging something you've done for the child?

[gobster]

Well OP you have my sympathy that’s really shit of him to ruin your surprise for your son

Honestly it’s a gift, clearly special and unique! He should have l asked is this a present someone has given you or is this for someone else before eating it. If is in a bag in your house it’s clearly not for eating I’d have been infuriated

[ItsNachoCheese]

The fact hes obviously went looking for it when its hidden is bad form and to eat it knowing its a gift for his ds is appalling

[Ellendegeneres]

alexa that's actually just made me choke on my lemonade. I need op to do this now

[GetKnitted]

I would ask the question "are the chocolates more easily replaced than my marriage or vice versa?" and then set about either replacing the chocolates or replacing improving the marriage.

[AlexaAmbidextra]

Put a real rusty bolt in the wrapping and let him break his fucking teeth on it.

[SpottedCow]

It is a LTB from me if the offence involves chocolate, am afraid, OP

[Ellendegeneres]

Urgh how unattractive of him. Did you post before about him stealing your sons chocolate? I'm sure I've read that on here recently.
What it boils down to is his lack of respect for you and ds. He knows this stuff isn't for him. He just doesn't care that it will upset you. He could claim a lack of self control but it's greedy selfish behaviour that demonstrates clearly the only person he gives a crap about is himself.

[Zaphodsotherhead]

Why do you think he did it, OP?

[Grilledaubergines]

Don’t these greedy selfish men understand their children will always remember that dad stole their presents.

Hopefully the greedy selfish women who do it remember too.

OP, has your DH actually apologised to your son? Not that I think he deserves forgiveness at this stage.

[Tiredmumno1]

That is so wrong, he can see that it's obviously a gift.

Just slightly off topic, what site are they from? They look fab, may have to order some

[treeofhearts]

I cannot think of anything more unattractive than having to hide things in case he eats them. Fuck that for a lark, I couldn't live like that, I'd have to ditch him. It's like being married to a child, surely?

[ijustwannadance]

That set looks amazing and very clearly not just a chocolate fix.

I also think the fact he went looking through bags and ate what is clearly a special item, not just a random mars bar etc, shows how incredibly selfish and self centered your DH is.

That kind of behaviour is nothing like just fancying a bit of chocolate. It is very calculated. He made the choice to eat it knowing damn well it wasn't for him.

[freddiemercury]

Gobster that's exactly the one!! Clearly a present thing...not a 'I want chocolate' scenario.
V cool company.. .the boys will be getting some more in their stockings. The husband won't!!