Welsh wedding invitation.

[Spikeyplant]

Just as it says in the title really.

My DH has a significantly younger relative who is getting married this summer. We have just received an invitation to the wedding, written entirely in Welsh. Neither DH or I speak Welsh and the bride and groom are well aware of this.

I am totally cool with somebody who grew up in a Welsh first language family wanting to celebrate their wedding in their language. However I can't help feeling it is a bit rude to send out invitations in a language many guests can't understand without even a short note in a mutually spoken language.

AIBU?

Translating it isn't the issue, I'm sure the wonder of google can help me with that.

For me guests should be welcomed and made to feel included. This invitation doesn't fill me with hope that would be the case.

A French wedding invite would be in French, would it not? I am sure you can work out they key info like time, date and venue?

I bet the arseholes will have their wedding in Welsh too

Wyt ti'n bod yn afresymol.

YANBU.

If the majority of the people they are inviting are Welsh speakers then I can understand their decision to print it only in Welsh. However I think it would have been only polite to provide a translation for the odd Few like yourselves.

If the proportions though are more 50/50 or non-Welsh speakers In the minority, then they should really have printed it in both languages and their decision not to do so seems just bloody minded and rude

I will have speakers of four different languages at my wedding. Am I rude because my invitations all went out in English? Should I have translated them into Mandarin, French, Russian and Italian?

If you don't want to go to the wedding, you have a ready made excuse - 'we didn't understand it!' If the invite is In Welsh, the service and the speeches probably will be too, which might make for a very long (tedious) day if you don't understand any of it.

thatstoast

both dh and i have family who speak other languages - we made sure they had a translation of the invite and at the wedding there was translation where relevant. it wasn't hard

agree with you op that it isn't very welcome.

I'm totally cool with a wedding in Welsh, people can say their vows in Klingon as far as I'm concerned.

I spend many years living and working abroad and would never have sent out something I knew a person couldn't understand and expect them to translate it. That would be up to me to do as the sender and basic manners as far as I'm concerned.

Yab really really effing unreasonable. It's not "rude" to use your native language in your own country. Get your head out of your arse.

Restless - if you know they can't speak english then yes it was rude

Are you sure its a wedding invitation if you can't actually read it?

Reminds me of when I had a Welsh boyfriend. I stayed at his house twice and on both occasions his entire family, including him, spoke Welsh exclusively at the dinner table. I've never felt so excluded and unwelcome. I could understand it if they couldn't speak English but they all could.

Just rude, as is the invitation. Completely understand and respect other languages (really wish I could speak another one!) but it's just excluding people unnecessarily.

Bin it and don't buy a present.

Correction: Rydych chi yn fod yn amfresymol

Maybe they don't want you there.
Maybe they're giving fair warning that the ceremony will be all in Welsh and giving you an out.
Maybe they forgot to put a translation note in.
Maybe they're Welsh Nash and didn't want to translate it.

Who knows?

Oh dear god! Well if that's the only fuck-up then I'll be happy!

Of course it is Limon. It's rude! Why couldn't they send a bilingual invite to those they know can't speak Welsh?

I think they are just trying to be novel. They just want to have a unique wedding invitation and this is their spin on it. They want to challenge everyone to make the effort to translate it.
I love a wedding.

I am astonished that anyone can think someone sending out an invitation to their own wedding, in their own country, in their own language, is RUDE??!!! Effing Hell. I'd better tell all the people who send my dd's party invitations, to print them in english too, to be polite.
Prbably best you don't go the wedding then op, if that is your attitude . Would you feel the same if you'd been sent an invitation to a wedding in france, by french people, and it was in French ?

We had wedding invites/birth announcements in 4 languages!

Are the other invited guests mainly Welsh?
A follow up letter/phone call would be courteous if they are just sending same invite to all guests...maybe as a keepsake?

Maybe their way of making you aware it will be a (predominantly) Welsh affair?

Restless Traveller - you are being obtuse. I'm sure all your guests understand English. If they don't I think it would be lovely if you translated the invite into a language they understand.

*Today 23:14 upwardsandonwards33

I think they are just trying to be novel. They just want to have a unique wedding invitation and this is their spin on it. They want to challenge everyone to make the effort to translate it.*

This. No one is deliberately being rude, they were probably trying to have a bit of fun too! Why are some people so easily offended?

Could it not just be a simple mix up?

Welsh invitations meant for Welsh speaking family and English invitations for English speaking family and just sobhappens they sent you the wrong one?

Welsh is obviously their first language. Maybe it would be polite if you made some effort to translate the invite. Maybe if would be polite if you understood that, joined in the spirit of the event and stopped looking for silly reasons to feel offended.