Aibu to want a boob job...

[Pippa12]

Desparately unhappy with my boobs following my three beautiful children. I've always been petite but its now beyond a joke. My left breast is a A cup, my right breast AA. Some bras fit my left breast but sort of gape massively off my right breast as its so much smaller. Ive tried proper bra fittings etc but cant find one thats comfy. They either stand proud from my smaller breast, ride up or feel tight on the back. I went away with my lovely, kind and supportive husband who loves me the way i am, but couldnt find any underwear that made me feel remotely nice never mind sexy.

We arent flush with cash but not destitute either. Can anyone give me their experiances? Idea of cost, length of time of work etc? Im sick of feeling like this, found myself unsuspectedly crying like a baby when i tried yet another A cup bra tonight that made me feel hideous.

Tia

OP, please don't consider a hospital group. You need a proper consultant plastic surgeon who does serious NHS work, reconstructive, burns etc. but who has a private cosmetic practice. Don't try to cut corners with cost. You get what you pay for.

I did it 10 years ago and my advice would be to go smaller than you think you want. I went from 32AAA to 32D and now I wish they were smaller as they make me look less slim in most certain clothes. Fake boobs are not malleable like natural boobs are, you can't squish them around very much so they seem bigger. Mine are under the muscle and I'm considering a removal or at least a revision to much smaller, even though mine healed well and look quite good (they are in proportion to my hips) they are just always "there". Also the right one looks more fake than the left which bothers me. I think if they were smaller I could choose to wear a padded bra when I felt like having bigger boobs. Like you OP I did it after the birth of my child when bf had left boobs deflated to nothing (I was a full A/B pre pregnancy). Honestly I think if I could have my time again I wouldn't do it. I hate the way they feel exercising (under muscle).

Forgot to mention.. they cost £4650 all in (all follow up appointments etc)

I had two weeks off work and six weeks of 'light duties' (I do a physical job).

Two weeks off was fine, it's amazing how quickly your body gets back to normal.

It was painful for a few days but was more discomfort after that. I was prescribed tramadol and co-codomol (sp) but didn't need them at all. Bit of paracetamol was fine.

You do need somebody to help you completely for the first 48 hours at least though. You would probably need help looking after kids for a week or two as lifting things is a struggle. I couldn't lift myself even an inch off of the bed for the first few days!

But all in all worth it for a few weeks of discomfort!

Have you looked at mascetomy bras and swim ware? They have built in pockets - so no sweaty chicken fillets - and lots of designes!

It would even put your shape or you could wear different fillers each side to even it up

My friend was just like you in size. She saw an excellent surgeon just as recommended above. She just wanted to have a natural looking bust for her frame. The surgeon insisted she had implants under the muscle and she was genuinely black and blue for a few weeks. She suffered a lot in those weeks. Her breasts looked big and swollen but she assumed they would settle.

Unfortunately they haven't. She wanted something along the lines of a B/C cup and is definitely at least a DD or more. She's had to totally adapt her wardrobe and if I'm honest it really doesn't suit her that well. She's over it but I know she's not happy that the surgeon just didn't listen to her. Apparently most women want a DD. The pain of the surgery has put her off ever going back to have them changed.

So sure, go ahead but be certain of what you want and how it will look. Good luck.

Honestly? I think you'd be mad to. Your self esteem shouldn't lie within your breasts, no woman's should.

Surgery is risky, it's ridiculously expensive unless you've got more money than sense, there are no guarantees on the outcome, you could end up botched up, with an infection or worse, implants don't last forever so you'd end up having to get them redone, I could go on.

I don't know why women do it to themselves. We all have bits we don't like about ourselves, nobody's boobs are the same size, most sag after having babies.

You don't need to mutilate yourself you are fine the way you are.

Pippa I am completely flat chested and thinking of having a boob job (I've been thinking for 15 years 😳). Until you have them done if you do - the best bras are these - www.marksandspencer.com/2-cup-sizes-bigger-smoothing-padded-underwired-push-up-bra-a-d/p/p22354837
People are amazed when I tell them I'm flat chested. The secret is go up a size - a fitter at rigby and peller told me that as its about the silhouette so you don't want a tiny one

If your left cup is genuinely AA, then it doesn't exist. AA cup implies zero difference betwen band size and cup.

Hie thee to bravissimo and save yourself a few thousand and a general anaesthetic.

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I have no experience whatsoever of boob jobs but if you think if it will improve your life you should go ahead.

It's not selfish.

I'm sure you know about bras that add 2 sizes. Have you ever tried one?

Totally agree with Beadoran. Not sure how we got to a society where we have to look a certain way, even going through surgery to achieve that. The more we conform rather than reject that the worse for our DDS. Wouldn't it be a nice world if we were valued for who we are not the state of our body parts.

I have 5 DC and empty boobs can fill back up. Mirena coil, the pill etc can help. But it just takes time for most.

I had mine done 8 years ago. I was a 32a and deeply insecure about it. Didn't want my partner to see me topless etc (even though he was never anything but complimentary and said I did not need a boob job). Anyway, I felt it was the only way forward for me to feel comfortable with myself.

I had 250cc under the muscle to take me to a 32c. I didn't want to be massive, just look in proportion to the rest of my body. I was told teardrop implants would give the most natural look so went for that rather than round. Had a v reputable recommended surgeon who offered lifetime guarantee / aftercare. Cost about £6k.

I thought that would be it, I would then have great boobs, I knew i would have to get them redone at some point as implants don't last forever, but what actually happened is...

I got capsular contracture on one side. This made that breast look higher and feel harder than the other. Hated looking asymmetrical, I felt even more insecure than before.

So, 6 months after first op, I had a revision surgery, just on that side. Surgeon operated for free.

6 months later, things were still not looking right. Now the implant on that side seemed much closer to my chest wall, so was asymmetrical in a different way. Went back to the surgeon who performed another revision surgery, for free.

6 months later, I still really wasn't happy. The asymmetry continued. The surgeon offered to reoperate a 3rd time, again for free, but at this point I felt I really needed someone who was skilled in corrective surgery.

Found a surgeon who was. He confirmed that I had symmastia (caused by the previous surgeon cutting into too much of my tissue when creating the pocket, as well as some capsular contracture, and that the teardrop implants had flipped.

I paid £8k for the revision surgery within the new surgeon. That was 5 years ago. They are so so much better than they were. They aren't 100% perfect (I still got a bit of capsular contracture) but they look great and I'm not hung up about them anymore.

So - although I'm pretty happy with how they are now, the journey to get here was a bit traumatic to be honest, with the 4 surgeries and feeling a bit butchered at points. It's certainly not been the straight forward thing I thought it would be. I wouldn't have gone down this road if I knew what I would have been letting myself in for. And my heart does sink a bit when I think that I will have to have the implants replaced again in the future, inevitably.

I wish it was like that for me. I'm looking for the opposite operation and it's scary af not to mention expensive. After kids my ok 32D exploded to a 32GG/H with milk and never went back. Uncomfortable, heavy to carry, and at 5ft2 I look funny with a size 10 on the rest of my body.
Good luck OP.

I may have missed it but I can't see anyone mentioning that implants have a shelf life and need to be replaced every 10-15 years so you might want to add that to your things to consider.

ummgogo Kanye's mum had surgery against doctor recommendation, she had a heart condition. If you're healthy in general the risks are smaller.

OP you will always get people who say "you'd be mad to have surgery, you should love yourself the way you are." My view is that if you are very unhappy about something and there are ways you can change it, then do it. If I had a shit job that I hated I wouldn't want to stay and "learn to love it", I'd look for a new job.

Having said that, surgery is a big thing and I would spend a lot of time researching beforehand. I was going to get a boob job last year but decided against it in the end for various reasons, but I know people who have and are very happy with the results. Good luck whatever you decide!

I'm also very interested in this but scared of getting a botch job

Can anyone on here who is very happy with their result recommend who to use in london?

YANBU simply because it is your body and your money.

I do agree with Beadoren though. It's such a shame that society now expects that women should look a certain way and that if they don't, they're not attractive. By more and more women getting boob jobs (plus every other cosmetic surgery under the sun) each year, we're just encouraging the view that only a certain body type is acceptable and we're making things worse for future generations. It's so sad.

I say this having tiny boobs that I have always been self conscious about. I can completely empathise with the OP and considered surgery 15 years ago when I was at my most self-conscious. BUT I'm so glad I didn't, partly because of all of the potential complications and expense I avoided, but also because it's my tiny little protest at this awful push to have all women looking the same!

I had mine done just over a year ago at the Cadogan clinic in London. Cost £6k, so more than most. 220cc over the muscle. I went from a AA (or whatever is smaller than an A!) to a B/C cup. I love them, and haven't regretted it for a moment. I was back at work in just under a week, though I'm on my own so got up and walked DS to school the morning after the op. They also scheduled it in school hours for me.

I can never understand why women want to make their boobs bigger and undergo medical procedures.

Smaller the better for me - don't get in the way, you don't look mumsy and clothes look much better.

However, if you're lopsided I can understand wanting to do something about the lack of proportion. I think you really need to consider whether it's a nice to have or something that really bothers you, if you are crying picking bras then it sounds like it really does bother you.

YANBU!
I just want everything lifted
I feel so droopy all the time. I don't think I'll ever actually do it but I've thought about it.

I had mine done 10 years ago. I was an AA/A, having previously been a B or C and up to DD whilst breastfeeding.

No amount of chicken fillets or push up bras would have helped. Nor was it a self esteem issue. It was an "I don't have boobs" issue.

I had 300cc under the muscle. Went to a 32D. I love them and even ten years later still like looking in the mirror

Probably the best money I've ever spent. I have zero confidence issues now and I hated my body before.

Oh and they don't need replacing every ten years by the way. Modern implants should last a lifetime.

I've read that fat transfer techniques are much better these days. Would you consider trying fat transfer (from bum/thighs) into your smaller boob? I'm very self conscious of my boobs after 3 dcs/breastfeeding, my boobs look smaller & my nipples much bigger. I've decided against a boob job due to the potential risks.

Has anyone gone on to breastfeed successfully after having implants?
My boobs have always been lopsided and even more so after my DD, they're currently 2 cup sizes different and it looks awful and is so noticeable. I just want to be able to wear some pretty tops or bikinis without looking so lopsided
But I do want more children so I don't know if it would be best to wait until I'm done?