Aibu to want a boob job...

[Pippa12]

Desparately unhappy with my boobs following my three beautiful children. I've always been petite but its now beyond a joke. My left breast is a A cup, my right breast AA. Some bras fit my left breast but sort of gape massively off my right breast as its so much smaller. Ive tried proper bra fittings etc but cant find one thats comfy. They either stand proud from my smaller breast, ride up or feel tight on the back. I went away with my lovely, kind and supportive husband who loves me the way i am, but couldnt find any underwear that made me feel remotely nice never mind sexy.

We arent flush with cash but not destitute either. Can anyone give me their experiances? Idea of cost, length of time of work etc? Im sick of feeling like this, found myself unsuspectedly crying like a baby when i tried yet another A cup bra tonight that made me feel hideous.

Tia

[user1485466870]

Masie.. I assumed he is 'Dr'. You can find him easily on google though

[maisiejones]

User14854etc. I sincerely hope your surgeon wasn't Dr* (if you're in the UK that is). Fully qualified surgeons are Mr/Mrs/Ms.

[user1485466870]

To the OP.. I used the company MyBreast. My surgeon's name was Dr Richard Young

He is a very experienced surgeon, which put my mind at rest. Picking the surgeon is the hardest part!

[motherofdaemons]

To answer some of the questions by PP's:
I had mine done by Chris Inglefield at London Bridge Plastic Surgery. He was excellent.

Had them done approx 6 years ago. While nothing in life is guaranteed, the implants should last a lifetime.

Have successfully breastfed 3 babies after the surgery and, while they don't look as perky and perfect as they did, they're still pretty good!

[ShinyTamatoa]

I always wanted implants til I started working in a breast clinic and saw all the problems that can arise with them. Every day I see women who regret having them.

And it isn't just a one off cost, they need replacing every 10-15 years. Would you really want to be going through that in your 60's or 70's?

[user1490465531]

I had a boob job and after 2o years of fake boobs I got them removed for good 2 years ago.....
I have to be honest and say my implants looked way better than how my natural boobs are now......I regret taking them out but it was a rash decision..
A good boob job can look great but implants don't last forever you will need replacements in future, they do sag like normal boobs after so long and capsule constructure is a very common problem with implants (I had it and had to get implants replaced). oh and like other poster said go small..
fake boobs always look bigger than normal boobs as they are more fuller at the top so even a boob job taking you to a b cup can look bigger than a natural b cup.

[BumbumMcTumtum]

I think sometimes getting cosmetic surgery, it's about the life you gain.

It may also seem a long way off but breast cancer can be harder to detect/image with implants.

also worth considering in front of muscle/behind muscle.

[Morphene]

I have also recently started to care massively less what I look like. Maybe its worth just holding on OP.....

[MaidenMotherCrone]

My boobs will be 13 yrs old next Saturday. I hate them and wish I'd never had them done.

They look fine but feel alien. I'm angry with myself for feeling less of a woman because my boobs were small. If I could get rid I would. As I've hit the meno and put some weight on they have got even bigger, horrible big, get in the way, make you look fat, clothes won't fit ( forget dresses), sweaty lumps of fakeness.

I used to be a 32B. I'm now a 32G. There's so much more to me than my boobs, I just wish I'd realised it 13 years ago

[Nancy91]

I wouldn't listen to any scaremongering from people that have not had this procedure, there are always risks associated with GA but they are very low. However you don't really get sensationalist articles written about successful breast augmentations as that would be a tad dull! So people think the operation is far riskier than it is. Life is too short to be unhappy about something you can change. Go for it! My only advice is don't go too big as it can make you look slightly chubbier than you are.

[VioletHornswaggle]

I am not advising you one way or another OP, it's your choice but starting yoga recently got me realising something. We hate parts of our bodies. Our eyes are drawn to them every time we look in the mirror and we judge them. For example, I have always hated my tummy. It's never ever flat. Always sticking out. I have a good layer of muscle but there is this tyre over the top. By doing yoga, it's helped me to recognise that I have a short body and that doesn't help. I have grown a baby in that tummy and should be proud of what it has achieved. In the line of my work, my tummy has also been through a lot humping and dumping etc. I no longer excessively judge it. Be proud of your breasts. They helped nourish and grow your children. They have done an amazing job and they can fill up again. Don't hate them. Love them for what they are and what they have done for you. Anyway, ahem. No more tree hugging here. Move along.

[saltandvinegarcrisps1]

PS - I should add that I understand women feel rubbish if they don't like their breasts - but its not worth the risk IMHO

[saltandvinegarcrisps1]

Another one saying don't do it. Have worked with women who needed so much surgery to fix their botched boob jobs. Google the history of breast augmentation - first done by injecting the breasts of Japanese prostitutes with engine coolant to appeal to USA servicemen during the war. Ivory, glass balls, fibreglass, soap, sponges have all been surgically inserted into healthy women to appeal to the male gaze. Side effects, loss of sensation, gangrene, costs, multiple operations and anaesthetic risk - all for something medically unnecessary. I hate that women feel the need to put themselves st such high risks to feel okay about themselves.

[Pippa12]

Feedme... yes i would say im slim, size 6/8. I run and eat healthily as a life style choice. Saying this im petite at under 5ft and like my figure. Even when i was heavier my boobs were incredibly small and now id say none exisitant on one side bar a piece of flappy skin and a A on the other.

After alot of thought and long discussions my husband and I are going to look at our finances and if its doable start looking at some clinics around this area. Ive taken on board everything youve all said, including the links to more flattering bras for my shape. I have learnt i need a plastic surgeon (not cosmetic!) Large companies like the hospital group are a no, and i will seriously consider the LA rather than a GA.

Thanks to everyone that has taken the time to comment regardless of your thoughts and opinions, it has genuinely lifted my mood about this situation.

[FeedMeAndTellMeImPretty]

I hope this doesn't sound offensive but would just putting on some weight help you? It sounds like you're very small all over and I find that when I lose weight one of the first places it goes from is my bust!

I lost about 2 stone a couple of years ago and while I liked having a smaller tummy, my boobs were totally empty, as in loose skin wrinkling at the tops. Having put it back on again I'm a 34FF now and much happier about my body and I'm willing to trade a bit of a tummy for the boobs, as is DP who says he prefers my figure now to when we met.

I don't wish that to sound flippant, it's just that I know that we are never happy with our bodies one way or the other, so it was a case of settling of the lesser of two evils for me!

[specialsubject]

Your body your choice - but they are just bumps that feed babies and beyond that dont matter. No one with a brain is looking, boobs don't have personality, that is situated higher up!

Remember model shots are faked - padding, tape, photo shop.

[Islacornx]

Has anyone gone on to breastfeed successfully after having implants?
My boobs have always been lopsided and even more so after my DD, they're currently 2 cup sizes different and it looks awful and is so noticeable. I just want to be able to wear some pretty tops or bikinis without looking so lopsided
But I do want more children so I don't know if it would be best to wait until I'm done?

[Bananamanfan]

I've read that fat transfer techniques are much better these days. Would you consider trying fat transfer (from bum/thighs) into your smaller boob? I'm very self conscious of my boobs after 3 dcs/breastfeeding, my boobs look smaller & my nipples much bigger. I've decided against a boob job due to the potential risks.

[MrsPinkCock]

Oh and they don't need replacing every ten years by the way. Modern implants should last a lifetime.

[MrsPinkCock]

I had mine done 10 years ago. I was an AA/A, having previously been a B or C and up to DD whilst breastfeeding.

No amount of chicken fillets or push up bras would have helped. Nor was it a self esteem issue. It was an "I don't have boobs" issue.

I had 300cc under the muscle. Went to a 32D. I love them and even ten years later still like looking in the mirror

Probably the best money I've ever spent. I have zero confidence issues now and I hated my body before.

[notcreative23]

YANBU!
I just want everything lifted
I feel so droopy all the time. I don't think I'll ever actually do it but I've thought about it.

[Mulledwine1]

I can never understand why women want to make their boobs bigger and undergo medical procedures.

Smaller the better for me - don't get in the way, you don't look mumsy and clothes look much better.

However, if you're lopsided I can understand wanting to do something about the lack of proportion. I think you really need to consider whether it's a nice to have or something that really bothers you, if you are crying picking bras then it sounds like it really does bother you.

[CamicaziTheBogBurglar]

I had mine done just over a year ago at the Cadogan clinic in London. Cost £6k, so more than most. 220cc over the muscle. I went from a AA (or whatever is smaller than an A!) to a B/C cup. I love them, and haven't regretted it for a moment. I was back at work in just under a week, though I'm on my own so got up and walked DS to school the morning after the op. They also scheduled it in school hours for me.

[CinnamonSwirlGirl85]

YANBU simply because it is your body and your money.

I do agree with Beadoren though. It's such a shame that society now expects that women should look a certain way and that if they don't, they're not attractive. By more and more women getting boob jobs (plus every other cosmetic surgery under the sun) each year, we're just encouraging the view that only a certain body type is acceptable and we're making things worse for future generations. It's so sad.

I say this having tiny boobs that I have always been self conscious about. I can completely empathise with the OP and considered surgery 15 years ago when I was at my most self-conscious. BUT I'm so glad I didn't, partly because of all of the potential complications and expense I avoided, but also because it's my tiny little protest at this awful push to have all women looking the same!