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AIBU?

To be annoyed that they rejected my friend and not me

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JayHooooo · 10/03/2017 12:56

I went for a job interview for a good job in my profession. That was the 2nd March. They said they would get back to me 'in the next few days'.
I've never not had a specific date given for the outcome to be given before by they seemed disorganised as the closing date for the position isn't for another week.

Anyway, it's been a week and I've heard nothing.

I've become quite tough when it comes to the job hunt. Not letting myself get upset but I found out my work colleague got a rejection email on a Monday. They've obviously forgotten about me so my name wasn't given to HR.
if someone takes the time and effort to attend an interview (which is a very stressful event) it really shouldn't be too much of a hassle to send a very quick generic email saying they have been unsuccessful.

I haven't emailed to chase up yet but I will do. I just don't feel I should have to.

If you've been for an interview the employer should take two minutes from their day to inform you of the outcome.

AIBU?

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BellsaRinging · 11/03/2017 15:07

I think this is a growin phenomenon. I went for a professional job in the civil service last year. Went to a second interview as well. And not a peep from them afterwards. And they only had three people back for the second interview. Very poor I thought! I wouldn't apply for a role there again and would dissuade anyone else from doing so.

TinselTwins · 11/03/2017 15:01

If you want the job, and the company seems good, does it really matter if you get it because someone else turned it down?

(you may be joint first for all you know!)

Its no different from getting a job that didn't have many applications and being first choice by default of that!

Does it really matter?

FiveMinutesAlone · 11/03/2017 14:59

Either way, it doesn't look like I was a first choice candidate

I don't think you can assume that when the closing date for the position isn't for another week. Whoever's doing the recruitment could well have been told to hold off making any offers until the closing date in case they get other good candidates applying at the last minute.

Floggingmolly · 11/03/2017 14:43

Your DH sounds like a nightmare, Watching. He didn't offer someone a job because she didn't chase up his decision? She probably dodged a bullet by assuming it was up to him to make contact, not her (like most of us would have).

lalalalyra · 11/03/2017 14:34

If the closing date isn't until next week then I'd suggest you are in the top 4-6 at the moment (hence no rejection), but obviously they aren't going to be calling anyone and offering them a job yet as they may get 4 better candidates next week.

TinselTwins · 11/03/2017 14:23

DH had a lot on his plate so didn't have time to chase her either
Seriously?
This is so out of order
Just don't schedule interviews if you're not going to follow through on it

TinselTwins · 11/03/2017 14:22

Sounds like honeymoon lady dodged a bullet! Why interview people you can't be arsed to call afterwards?

Although DH once followed up after interview and was short listed for a second interview and was offered the job! They later told him he wasn't originally shortlisted, no shortcommings just wasn't one of the more memorable ones from the first round, but his follow-up made him stand out which is why he was offered a second interview

WatchingIZombie · 11/03/2017 00:03

Don't wait too long before chasing up! My DH was going to offer a job to someone once but she was away on honeymoon and she didn't bother to chase up while she was away (DH had a lot on his plate so didn't have time to chase her either)... Fair enough not to want to while you're on holiday, but while she was away there was a last minute application from someone else who turned out to be an even better candidate and girl-on-honeymoon missed out on the job. If only she'd chased up before this last application had come in the job would have been hers! (Fortunately for her my DH offered her a job in a slightly different role anyway).

Monday would be a perfectly reasonable day to chase, OP. I really wouldn't leave it any longer.

Astoria7974 · 10/03/2017 19:07

If you're on a waiting list you might not hear for up to a month. Send a polite chaser.

ProfYaffle · 10/03/2017 16:44

"Could someone have got your email address wrong?"

This - happens really easily if you're copying from an application form. Nothing wrong with a polite chase if you're waiting to hear.

IveAlreadyPaid · 10/03/2017 16:30

Good luck!

JayHooooo · 10/03/2017 15:19

Possibly. It's correct on th application form though.

I will email if I've heard nothing by the end of next week.

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ToastVacuum · 10/03/2017 14:57

Could someone have got your email address wrong?

paxillin · 10/03/2017 14:51

Perfectly fine to get it as the second choice. This is a choice done on a cv and an interview, not on three years' worth of work.

JayHooooo · 10/03/2017 14:47

Either way, it doesn't look like I was a first choice candidate. 😭

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paxillin · 10/03/2017 14:46

In my experience, the second and sometimes even third choice candidate don't hear until the first choice has accepted or declined.

1AnnoyingOrange · 10/03/2017 14:26

This happened to me once and I was on a shortlist. So they didnt reject me properly until the other chosen candidates had confirmed accepting the jobs/final checks. But I knew someone had been sent the rejection so it left me a bit uncertain for a while ?could it be that

But definitely second sending them something on the lines of tinseltwins

"Thank you for seeing me for interview on [date], as I was unsucessful I was wondering if you could provide me with some feedback to help me with future applications"

AntiHop · 10/03/2017 14:22

I've done a lot if recruiting. After interviews I've done, I've called people are clearly unsuccessful straight away, whilst deciding between the top candidates, or waiting to hear back from number one before rejecting number two.

TinselTwins · 10/03/2017 14:13

2nd last place I interviewed for I found out I hadn't got it when they re-advertised it! which was extremely rude considering there were only 3 shortlisted candidates so calling us back wouldn't have been a big job!

Twice in the past I've sent the following email after not hearing a couple of weeks later to be told "oh we are going to offer you the job, we just haven't processed it yet" (by which time I'ld taken another job - HA! ) :
"Thank you for seeing me for interview on [date], as I was unsucessful I was wondering if you could provide me with some feedback to help me with future applications"

They also hold off on their second choice until the first choice formally accepts!

JayHooooo · 10/03/2017 14:08

References were given on the application. I want to know if they've checked them but they're very busy people so don't want to bother them yet by asking

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Viviennemary · 10/03/2017 14:08

I think that is quite usual. They decide who hasn't been successful and they are informed. Then the other candidates are looked at and discussed again before a decision is made. I think you should wait and see. I know it's difficult but try to hold on for a bit longer. If you only went on 2nd March absolutely don't email yet.

JayHooooo · 10/03/2017 14:02

leopard that's terrible. My profession is fairly well paid so they don't want to alienate any potential future employees so tend to reject unsuccessful candidates.

But my friends who have been for lower paid jobs often find no one can be bothered to let the candidate know how they did.

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CryingShame · 10/03/2017 13:55

As a recruiter, we would turn down the flat nos immediately after interview, then get references for our preferred candidates. If a referee is on holiday or we have to chase them, it holds the process up. We then offer to our preferred candidates but wouldn't yet turn down 2nd choice candidates in case a preferred candidate changed their mind or had been offered another job in the meantime. We'd only turn down the "employable but not our first choice" candidates once we've got references and certificates for all the people we definitely want to give jobs to. I'd hang on a little while longer and see which group you fall into.

SpottedOnMN · 10/03/2017 13:51

Send a very polite 'I enjoyed meeting with you and am very keen to join your company' which will be reminder enough. No news is good news, if they're definitely sending out rejections. If they do decline, ask for feedback to help you improve.

Talkietalk · 10/03/2017 13:49

Could they be checking references? Have you given them yet?

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