To be jealous of DH for sleeping soundly

[QueenofLouisiana]

I know I am U, but I am so jealous. I want to sleep soundly all night, pretty much every night.

I woke up at 1.50 this morning, 3am yesterday, 4am the day before. I just want to sleep! I couldn't tell you the last time I slept all night- just after Xmas maybe?

[BabychamSocialist]

I know how you feel. I can only get to sleep in a very specific set of circumstances and I'm usually tossing and turning all night. DP can - and I'm not exaggerating here - sleep literally anywhere and at any time. As soon as his head hits the pillow he's asleep. DS1 is the same - can sleep anywhere. DS2 is more like me and can only sleep with his mask on, earplugs in and even then he struggles. We both have restless legs as well!

[Palomb]

I read that it's entirely normal for us to wake in the middle of the night for a while
and that stopped me stressing about it. I used to get really pissed off with my inability to sleep the night through which kept me awake even longer! Now I just use the waking time to watch what I want on iplayer.

[MrsPinkCock]

YABU. But IABU too because DH falling asleep the second his head hits the pillow really winds me up

My main problem is brain in overdrive - it takes hours for me to fall asleep. Then getting up in the morning is horrendous.

Taken a herbal sleeping pill for tonight, I really need to catch up :(

[Wallywobbles]

I started sleeping as the by product of a VLCD. Bizarre but life changing. I think at the end of the day there were no calories left to burn so I crashed. Eating more currently and sleeping is fucked again.

[squizita]

Car. I have never crashed a cat.

[squizita]

I have anxiety and a poorly sleeping toddler.

I have nearly resorted to violence with deep sleeping DH over his glib comments about my sluggishness by day sometimes.
On a more serious note I've crashed my cat and nearly lost my job over it.

I now have "do not disturb" nights. Should have started them earlier as I could pump even when BFING.

[QueenofLouisiana]

Well, I got DH to engage in some exercise with me last night and I slept like a log for a 6hr stretch- the longest in weeks. DH has assured me of his full support for this strategy as much as needed .

TBF I did also cut out caffeine and try to eat earlier!

[HermioneJeanGranger]

I read once that if you lie awake for more than 20/30 minutes, you need to get up and do something. Lying in bed unable to sleep makes it worse - so get up and do something - read, walk the dog, wash the dishes, work out, whatever, and try again 30 minutes later.

It works for me, but I did alongside cutting caffeine in the evenings and doing more exercise. Being physically shattered stopped my mind from being able to wander as much!

[Lifeonthefarm]

Someone told me once to get up, eat some cereal or similar and try again to go to sleep. It did actually work and I certainly didn't thgink I was hungry.

[Resurgam2016]

I am an intermittent but lifetime insomniac. It's my understanding that sleep is a habit so, if you've lost the habit you need to retrain your body.

In my case this is done with sleeping tablets; x2-3 days in a row knocks me out and keeps me asleep. It works.

How about visiting your GP?

[user892]

Magnesium as well.

[user892]

Take calcium supplements at bedtime. Works a treat for me - it helps release melatonin.

[stopgap]

I tried everything under the sun, but my early rising was related to my autoimmune disease, nothing to be done, and I sleep like a log now on sleeping pills. Worth it for me, as I'm a beast on less than seven hours sleep.

I have so much sympathy for you.

[youvegottobekidding]

YANBU. It makes me incredibly jealous that OH can fall asleep & be snoring within seconds. Anywhere. On the sofa, the floor, the bed, a chair. He rarely makes it to the end of a movie! While I lay awake and it feels like ages to drift off. I can't remember the last time I had 'a good nights sleep!'.

[user1473069303]

I feel your pain as I often get insomnia, which goes on for weeks at a time. Then when I finally start to sleep I sometimes get night after night of very vivid dreams which also leave me feeling shattered the next day. Arrrgh.

[Chloe84]

I find setting an alarm for the morning helps.

I also wake up sometimes and think 'it must be 7am'. If I've set the alarm, I tell myself not to worry about the time. I also put on a sleeping mask at night and have blackout curtains.

[OneMillionScovilles]

Eating protein a couple of hours before bed helps you to stay asleep... (and might help with the oomph needed for Naze's kettle bells!)

[TheNaze73]

Are you doing anything physical for an hour a do or so? I think you should break the cycle & maybe run, spin or do kettle bells for an hour. You'll be knackered to begin with but, will get the benefits within a week.

[NeedMoreSleepOrSugar]

Dh falls asleep instantly too, and is almost impossible to wake (which is really helpful with a baby/toddler in the house! )

I'm pregnant so spent much of last night being kept awake by toddler crying out / dh snoring / baby kicking / needing to pee.

There's not even much point in waking dh to see to dc - it takes so much effort to get him awake that I could have gone and done it myself and been back in bed before he's even awake!

[QueenofLouisiana]

I know I shouldn't be looking at a screen!! The irony of that is that all screens are banned for an hour before bed for DS! Last night I finally hit the end of being able to lie awake doing nothing- can't get up to make a drink as DS would probably get up, the dog would decide its time for breakfast etc.

In the end I listened to 45 mins of a new book- Jilly Cooper, so it didn't make me "think"- and o finally drifted off about 4.30am. I feel like rubbish now though.

DH- still snoring away.

[Olympiathequeen]

It's 3.55 am now so I fully understand insomnia. Just wake him up with a quiet dig every now and then and deny all knowledge. I've stopped stressing about it most of the time and just have tea and toast in the middle of the night and listen to the radio. iPad is not a good idea. MN either

[Popskipiekin]

I now have a baby to wake me up but when not looking after a small child I'm exactly like you OP and always have been - can't remember a time I've slept through the night (what hope for my child??). I also get to sleep with audiobooks - I wonder if it's connected? If we could learn to fall asleep without that, would we be less likely to wake up (wondering where our nice audiobook had got to?)? I almost always go for a wee when I wake up in the middle of the night, simply because why not. But I wonder again whether I should train myself out of this.

[ExpectoPatronummmm]

My OH was hits the pillow and he's asleep, no exaggeration.
But then he snores all night causing me to lay here wide awake plotting his murder.
I'm 35 weeks pregnant and have to get up at 6.15am for work.
Grrrrrr!!!!

[hmcAsWas]

My phone is set to switch to night time settings (warmer tones etc) between 21.00 and 7.00. Perhaps op's is similar

...and one has to do something. Can't just lie there obsessing about being awake

[hmcAsWas]

Similar to you OP - although for me mercifully I get spells of good sleep in between periods of night time waking