To be a tiny bit pissed off they stole my only bit of me time

[Babyiwantabump]

Eldest in play group .

Youngest was napping.

Finally sat my bum on the sofa with a hot cup of tea and a bit of the Netflix.

PIL turn up
No phone call before - I explain that eldest at playgroup youngest asleep upstairs it's just me . They still come in . Then I have to run around making them drinks and focusing on them!

They ruined my me time!!

AIBU?

[Thinkingblonde]

My DH and I went on a Boating holiday on the Norfolk Broads, this was before we were married.
My mother thought because it was a four berth it was a two bedroomed luxury cabin cruiser.
Well it did have four berths but two of them were a pull out sofa.
I didn't disillusion her.

[Deejoda]

Lol thinking that is hilarious. I know of a few ridiculous parents myself. It's not unbelievable if you can imagine traditions outside of mainstream British. Very entertaining (not to the people caught up in it at the time ofcourse!)

[Babyiwantabump]

Oh dear thinking some people are very naive!!

[Thinkingblonde]

I forgot the best bit, she'd turned up with gardening equipment, including a lawn mower and strummer to do their garden.

[HappyFlappy]

I don't think it dawned on her until then that her daughter was a grown woman.

She's probably still in shock at the thought of Her Baby Doing It.

[Thinkingblonde]

Our newly married nieghbours had the brides mother banging on their front door the day after their wedding. She couldn't understand why they were still in bed at the late hour of 9.15 am on a Sunday!
I know this because we lived directly opposite them. They didn't answer the door to her so she knocked on my door to ask if I'd seen them.
I said I think they might be busy...it's the day after their wedding, would you be up for visitors if you were them.
I don't think it dawned on her until then that her daughter was a grown woman.

[ThumbWitchesAbroad]

I used to know a couple who bought a house together and were living together but owing to the woman's parents being very strict religious types, they maintained a pretence of sleeping in separate rooms. In other words, she had her own bedroom set up and so did he - but of course when the parents weren't there, they slept in one room together.
As far as I know, her parents believed she was still a virgin when they eventually married a couple of years later.
So under those sort of circs, I can quite easily see how parents would TRY to separate the 2 halves of the couple into separate rooms - but they wouldn't actually succeed!

[Huldra]

I can see how a parent would try to put their child and partner in separate rooms. Lots of passive aggessive comments. Daughter which room are you having? This would be great for you! Looks it's already red, which you love and look at that huge built in wardrobe. We have an old wardrobe which would fit in the smaller room for John. They oto come over and to help and start putting stuff in different rooms.

Ok they can't force the room situation but they can make their feelings well known.

I moved back with my parents for 6 months before meeting my husband. The first night I stayed at his I let them know I wouldn't be home that night, my mother said in a shocked voice "but WHY, WHY are you staying over night???.". A few months later I said we were planning to move in together. Again I got the distressed WHYS and where would I sleep??. And would their be room for me??. This was my face

I arrived home the next morning to find my belongings in piles, my bed being chopped apart and her not speaking to me. Not the same situation but parents can be bloody strange,

[Babyiwantabump]

How did they try to put you in separate bedrooms henna??

[mathanxiety]

I think there are just people who do not have the mental habit of putting themselves in other people's shoes. It only takes a little imagination to wonder if someone like the OP might be up to her ears when you drop by, and a little consideration would make you think that if the OP wasn't up to her ears she might not want to be.

[dustarr73]

I think people forget how full on babies and small kids are.If you get to go to the loo in peace ,its made your day.

I dont understand NavyandWhite view point.How does somebody elses needs trump yours.They dont,no matter what way ,you say it.People should have enough self awareness to realise it may not be convenient.And not just invite themselves in.

[rollonthesummer]

Even tried to put us in separate bedrooms when we first moved into out own house!

How?! I presume they weren't living there or paying the bills so had no control over the bedroom arrangements?

[hennaoj]

Could be worse. Try being newly living together, between 8am and 9am on a Sunday morning when your in-laws to be turn up, several weekends in a row. Even tried to put us in separate bedrooms when we first moved into out own house!

[Deejoda]

It is a vert British thing.
It would depend on who was popping round. My mum I wouldnt mind because she would look after herself, maybe even cook or offer to look after the baby so I could get a rest/have a bath/nip out to the dentist. My PIL I would mind because I would feel the need to offer them drinks and couldn't just run off to do my thing. In general, I couldn't ignore the doorbell. A sign on the door sounds like a good idea though

[FeeLock28]

I used pull out the phone socket and put a big notice on the front door saying, "New mother sleeping - please call back later". Worked well and people phoned in advance.

[Redlocks28]

This would drive me mad-I truly hate people that just stop in!

[SalmonFajitas]

lol Navy admit it you turn up at all your friends' and relations' houses unannounced and get offended if they're busy don't you?

[RachaelCatWhisperer]

Yes I think we've all established that you think this is all unreasonable Navy.

[impossible]

Don't answer the door next time (we've all done it) but be grateful. My dcs didnt have grandparents and I would have loved that supported and an older generation for them to get to know.

[SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius]

Optional boiling oil?

[RachaelCatWhisperer]

I think it depends what they do when they get there though. I think if you pop round and the person says that it's not a good time, you have to listen and go away until it is convenient. And if you are not prepared to be dignified and respectful if turned away, YOU SHOULD RING AHEAD!!!!!!!

I still say a drawbridge and portcullis is the answer.

[SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius]

I will - honest! And I make a mean cup of coffee.