life is boring

[FluffyEwok]

I know ABU but i just find life so boring. Im in a career no one is ever meant to get bored in but its bored me for years. I live in an area with lots going on but its samey. Even when i go somewhere new im bored. Maybe i have a short attention span?

[morningtoncrescent62]

I'm wondering whether you're tired, OP, and mistaking that for bordeom. It's hard to enjoy anything or get excited by anything when you haven't got the energy for it. You might well have a short attention span, but again, some people find it difficult to attend when they're too tired to focus.

[Titsywoo]

Hey ssd sorry you are bored too! I'm thinking of ways to make a change at the moment. There are so many things I want to do but because DH and the DC are homebodies and rarely want to do anything that interesting I miss out :( I live 25 mins from London and I love spending time there but manage to get up there twice a year at most.

[ssd]

I just dont know what interests me anymore

[notagiraffe]

ssd - that's exactly how I felt six months ago. Completely flat. Stuff that I used to love I no longer loved and nothing else appealed either. I just started doing something new or scary or silly every day, whether I felt like it or not. Didn't have to be big or expensive, just different - really tiny things, like having a cold shower instead of a hot one, or ordering herb tea instead of coffee (yep, that's how boring and in a rut I was then. That was about as inspired as I got to start off with.) But the more I did it, the more ideas came. I looked online for lists of fun and new things to try each day and compiled my own list from their inspiration. Very gradually, the fun and colour came back into my life and it is now way, way better than I imagined it would get when I started out. New job in a new field, massive pay rise, loads of exciting stuff on the horizon, and the pay increase means I can finally start doing some of the things we've wanted to do but not had the money for. And it really did start with tiny shifts - buy a different brand of tea or shampoo, walk home via a route you don't normally take etc. It trains your brain to be open to new experiences, so when more exciting ones come along, you embrace them.

[weresquirrel]

Why do people think everyone who is bored is depressed. Life can be very boring. It's very hard to keep up the momentum of being constantly happy/entertained and what makes it worse is that the media/society constantly feeds us this unrealistic expectation and image of how life should be. We get depressed when we can't live up to that. But even 100 years ago or less, life was mostly a boring, nightmarish grind. Life is much easier and more materialistic but doesn't really change how we feel on an existential level.

[klassy]

I think it's a problem when you're "bored" all the time, and it's a vague frequent numbing sense of futility rather than just "oh god what do we do tonight". Life's never going to be a fascinating adventure all the time, but it shouldn't be a constant dull grind either ideally. There should be at least moments and pockets of liveliness in it I think.

Fertility treatment is a massive downer because you're waiting all the time - you don't know what your life will be like in a few years, and you put so much on hold all the time, either consciously or unconsciously.

I've got to the point where I've realised, "if I have kids, all I'll have done for x years is want kids, and that won't be good for them", so I'm trying to find more life out there too for their future sake.

Really hope it works out for you Fluffy.

[JeepersMcoy]

There is a difference between normal, life is boring sort of boredom and depression sort of boredom. I do feel that life is pretty tedious, but right now that doesn't stop me from enjoying a good day at work or finding excitement on a great book. When you are feeling constantly, unremittingly bored by ever aspect of your life to the extent that you can't bear a job you previously loved or find relief from hobbies. When you feel crushingly tired to the very depths of your soul with boredom I think it is sensible to suggest that you may have some mild depression going on.

If nothing else thinking about how you are feeling and possibly having a chat with a therapist might help to untangle what is making you bored and what would make you feel less bored.

I may be projecting widely but I don't think what the op is describing sounds like a standard bit of existential boredom at the tediousness of life. It also sounds like she may have stuff going on that would make it petty understandable if she was feeling a bit emotionally beaten down right now.