to not go to my school reunion?

[Blumkin]

I hated my very naice school, it was 3 years of utter misery plus 2 years of moderate unhappiness. I was one of the unpopular kids and just don't have many good memories of the place.

I've had an invite to the reunion for leavers including my year group. And I don't want to go. I'm in touch with a few school friends via Facebook, but have no desire to prance around the old dining hall reminiscing about pervert teachers and rugby matches or seeing my old boarding house or admiring the new science block or any of that.

However, I was chatting to a friend who said I should go, just because my life has turned out pretty well. She's picturing an American movie type scene of me strutting in wearing fabulous clothes, smiling with my no longer shit teeth, showing off pictures of my adorable dc and subtly dropping vague hints about my lovely high earning dh. She says I should go just to prove to myself how far I've come since those dark days, and part of me is tempted, however a bigger part of me just feels so 'meh' about the whole thing and I'd just view it as a wasted afternoon plus travel there and back.

Has anyone gone to a reunion and unexpectedly enjoyed it, or should I just leave the past as a distant blur?

[Ellisandra]

I would feel ashamed to be dropping hints about having a high earning husband.
Is that something to be proud of?
Of course it isn't.
Dear god, ask your friend why the fuck she puts a value on you according to what your husband earns?
Hello 1950...

[MrHannahSnell]

Don't go. I was persuaded to go to mine against my better judgement and it revived a hell of a lot of unpleasant memories that I thought I'd forgotten. Stay away and stay happy is my advice.

[Mamatallica]

Urgh, I'd hate that. If you're not up for it, don't go. I wonder if my school has reunions? As a girl's grammar school they probably do, they won't find me online though as I've moved away and changed my name

[heron98]

Is it just me but I actually can't remember anyone I was at school with , and I only left in 2001. I'm Facebook friends with people I was close to but never see them in real life although they are all still local. I'd struggle to name anyone else.

[Cocochoco]

I went to mine and loved it. Pretty much everyone was open and honest and pleased to see each other. I had some really wonderful conversations and wish I had realised that a lot of my schoolmates were good people at the time (I hated school).

It had been 25 years so maybe enough time had passed that there was no sense of competition. I'd have been horrified at anyone boasting about a high-earning husband.

I've been back in touch with quite a few people since then, which has been really nice.

[PurpleWithRed]

I gave in to my curiosity and went to my school reunion. As I walked through the doors into the assembly hall I got the rage - it hammered home the crap teaching, the supercilious nuns, the fact I didn't really have any friends there for the last few years, the subtle bullying, and that I hadn't stayed in touch with anyone for very good reasons.

Don't bother.

[StiginaGrump]

I didn't go for Purple's reason, I would have got shit teacher nun rage too.

[EveryDayIsASchoolDay]

I wouldn't go. It would sound really arsey going on about the size of DH's wallet
Just get him to take you out for a nice champagne afternoon tea or something and thank heavens that you dodged a bullet