There is nothing wrong with the term 'hubby'.

[pictish]

There just isn't.
This MN trend of sneering at posters for using a common term that has been deemed unfashionable...but only on mumsnet...is boring, childish and bloody rude.
If you had a go at someone for using it in rl you'd look like a dick.

AIBU?

[YouTheCat]

That's the point though really. You can start a thread about how much you hate the word. You aren't having a go at an individual and trying to make someone feel bad.

I've found some posters ignore what a thread is about, offer no advice and just use 'hubby' as an excuse to lay into the OP which is a bit shit.

[Hullygully]

It's just vile. Husband is bad enough, but hubby is cuddly toys on the bed vile

[LoisWooookersonsLastNerve]

Some sort of law apparently.

[user1474627704]

But people do it regardless because it's MN convention, like mindless conformists

Nope, they do it because its an agreed and accepted abbreviation that facilitates communication. That is how language works. Unless you think spelling is also "mindless conformism"?

"hubby" is none of those things, its neither agreed or accepted, and it serves no purpose, unlike DS/DP etc.

[user1474627704]

So to sum up this thread, it's basically:

"There is nothing wrong with words like hubby, stop being mean about it"

Lots of people saying: "hey its fucking awful, but we never mentioned it until you brought it up"

and then lots of whining about how we're all horrible for attacking people who say words like hubby, even though none of us did.

Isn't this the very essence of a straw man?

[TheNaze73]

TheNaze - then perhaps you would benefit from keeping an open mind and not making snap judgements about the worth of others, over that which exists only in your imagination

So then OP. If he man described a woman as "skirt" or something equally as derogatory you wouldn't automatically form an opinion on them?

[Gottagetmoving]

No one has to like the word 'Hubby' - just grit your teeth and keep it to yourself instead of telling people what they can or can't say.
I wouldn't use that word but I have friends who do. I think it's a bit naff,..but I don't have a go at my friends for saying it FFS.
Any time anyone uses it on MN you get people having a go at the poster. Makes you look more of a Twat than you think they are.

[PoppyBirdOnAWire]

"NavyandWhite

What greater good? confused
You think people will stop berating hubby?"

Yes, I was wondering about that greater good thing too. Maybe the OP has been poring over JS Mill.

[PoppyBirdOnAWire]

Actually, I prefer to use OH - on an Internet forum. So there you go: grab the compromise. Now there is no need to use the H word...

[Saci]

I knew someone at a baby group who used the term "How is hubby?" it made my teeth stand on edge for two reasons. Firstly, she had never met said "hubby" and secondly he is a 6ft 4 and grew up on a Brazilian cattle ranch, the word "hubby" doesn't fit him, no matter which way up you tried it on.
On here I couldn't care less. It just seems to bubbly and affectionate for someone you have never actually met. I feel the same about calling someone else's husband their DH. I try not to do that either. Same with hun, I say hun to my friends but I'm not going to use it for some random stranger on the internet.

[Saci]

I should say if an OP wants to call her own husband DH or Hubby in a description I have no problem with that. I feel that pulling holes in that is just pointless and pretentious. So for that YANBU.

[MargotLovedTom]

Pictish YANBU - hubby's not a word I use myself but it grips my shit when an OP spills their guts in a post liberally sprinkled with the word and gets God knows how many responses slating them about that and completely ignoring their request for support or advice. It's shit.

As for the dumbing down and infantalising aspect - my husband refers to me as 'wor lass' - a term which has been used since Geordies lived in caves. It's hardly a recent phenomenon.

[PoppyBirdOnAWire]

I would like the rolls eyes emoticon for silly, immature people who swear for no apparent reason.

[itsbetterthanabox]

I regularly tell my mother not to refer to my stepdad as hubby. Don't care if I'm a dick I'm doing her a favour it's so cringe.

[MistressMerryWeather]

User that doesn't sum the thread up at all.

[derxa]

When I told him MN didn't like that saying his response was 'as if I give a fuck what MN thinks'.

hubby is awful. I first saw it in The Sunday Post 30 years ago. That says it all.

[PoppyBirdOnAWire]

"derxa

When I told him MN didn't like that saying his response was 'as if I give a fuck what MN thinks'. grin

hubby is awful. I first saw it in The Sunday Post 30 years ago. That says it all."

Precisely.

[LogicallyLost]

MN is weird sometimes. Hubby is ok to me, husband definitely is.

[PoppyBirdOnAWire]

Husband is fine. It's what I would use in RL. Online it sounds kinda smug. And possessive. In contrast, OH covers the married and the unmarried, gay husbands and wives and so on. I like it.

[HeteronormativeHaybales]

I backed away slowly from this thread last night as I assumed PoppyBird had been drinking.

Clearly not so.