To be so bloody angry with OH?

[CheeseAndBeans]

Because I am! He went out last night with the lads. Not something he does very often so was expecting him to be a bit hungover this morning. He said he may stay at mates as saves on taxi fare plus he didn't want to disturb me and our two kids. All fine.
I get woken up by 2 year old DD coming in to our room at 5.30 to say daddy is cleaning the stairs. He then comes into the bedroom and announces he has shit himself on the stairs! Wtf?! He is steaming drunk and gets into bed, waking 3 month old DD in the process.
I get up to see what's happened and he had shat all up stairs. Cream carpet in rented house. Argh!
Go back into bedroom to yell at him to clean it up and he is snoring in the middle of the bed, can't wake him.
Kids wide awake by this point so bring them downstairs. Feed 3 month old and sat 2 year old in front of peppa pig on tv. I have now scrubbed the stairs, but whole house stinks. I am so so angry!!
Can't believe he got in such a state. He is usually amazing. Hardly goes out and is great with the kids but he has really pissed me off. How can a grown adult get in such a mess? He had sprayed carpet cleaner randomly on it and clothes in pile by washing machine. The water all over bathroom suggests he had a wash.
We have plans today to go out to see family, my side. AIBU to just get the kids ready and go without him in a few hours? I can't see him being in any state to go and to be honest I don't want to spend the day with him!

[MadAsABagOfCats]

That's gross.

[unicornthong]

As if pps are suggesting you end your relationship over this!

It's highly unlikely that he deliberately shat all over his own stairs and then tried to clean it up.

You say he's usually wonderful and rarely goes out so I'd be inclined to just laugh it off and make sure to rib him over it occasionally. Explosive diarrhoea can strike sober people, too!

[Marynary]

That is disgusting. I would have put some vanish stain removed by the stairs, left the house with the children in the morning and not come back until later.

[Keenoonvino]

I once worked with a girl who got so pissed at a work do in the office she shat herself and passed out in the toilets with her trousers round her ankles and the shit spread all over the place.
Now that is a reason to quit your job!

[BlytheOfWindyWillows]

OP, milk it for all it's worth. He'll be mortified. Jumper, get over yourself.

[RaspberryOverloadTheFirst]

fizzyapple1

People are thinking of the circumstances. GEtting plastered regularly (and the associated shit) = not acceptable. A one-off circumstance, as in this case, can be acceptable. Depends on the individual circumstances, and here, the OP's OH was remorseful. If this turns out the start of regular plaster sessions, then I'd reconsider whether it was acceptable.

[TheStoic]

I don't think anyone has been telling the OP to LTB.

They're just saying that they would. And that's fair enough. Different people, different standards.

[fizzyapple1]

I am shocked by the number of people who think getting totally & utterly plastered is acceptable.

[RestlessTraveller]

So an otherwise lovely bloke got a bit too drunk, sounds like an error of judgement.

The 'milking it' comment makes you sound a bit unpleasant.

[WankingMonkey]

LOL

Great business op

[buckyou]

Oh my that is rank!!! I was really quite a big drinker before DC and don't get why people seem to shit/piss/vom all over when they get drunk!! Gross.

Anyway i doubt he'll be drinking for a while now!

[skyyequake]

Karma Adults. Make. Mistakes.

[Mrstumbletap]

If I get drunk, not that often maybe 2 times a year, I might be sick (always in the toilet) I have broken a vase before whilst trying to take my shoes off. But my DH is always bloody lovely to me the next day, leaves me to sleep in, doesn't give me shit for getting so drunk. Just laughs and says "you were hammered last night!" It honestly makes me love him more.

You said your DH is lovely, and doesn't do this often, he went out got pissed and had a VERY embarrassing accident. I would be absolutely mortified if I shat myself, I feel bad for him. He didn't mean too, he even tried to clean it up whilst drunk.

If my DH did that, as long as HE cleaned it all up, I really wouldn't be mad at him.

[Lorelei76]

Euphemia, I will never hear that song the same way again!

[RaspberryOverloadTheFirst]

I agree that this is one incident, the OP's OH has shown remorse and is dealing with the consequences, so hopefully he's learned something from this.

But for me, it wasn't the shitting that was the problem, it was always going to be how he was when he woke up. In this case, the OH has owned his mistake and is sorting things. If he'd been nasty, and defensive, and minimising the OP's feelings, then I'd have suggested taking a look at the wider relationship.

[ohdofeckoffnowdear]

Wow some harsh posters on here!

It isn't like he went out planning to get so drunk that he shit himself! I bet there are lots of people including myself who have gone out drinking and drunk too much without realising. Bouncing, being sick, etc, very drunk!.

He has shown remorse, the op knows her husband well enough to know this is way out of character for him. I don't think he ever plans to get in that state again. Hope you manage to get the carpet back to normal op

[MaQueen]

Christ, can't believe how dour and puritanical some posters are. Drinking problem...really?

I got so hopelessly drunk on NYE that DH had to physically carry me upstairs to bed. And, yes, I might have been a teeny bit sick the next morning didn't get up until tea time

But, I didn't have another drink until after Easter. So no, I really, really do not have a 'drink problem'.

[Purplebluebird]

Oh god how horrific!! That's disgusting :P I bet he feels very embarrassed today. Hope he manages to clean it up properly and replace the carpet ideally! And hope it never happens again. Those saying LTB are overreacting massively.

[RichardBucket]

I wouldn't leave him over this because it's ONE occasion, but I would probably be unable to look at him the same way for a good few weeks!

I have a modicum of sympathy as I vomited up the stairs recently. I wasn't drunk - am diabetic and was in ketoacidosis, didn't make it to the bathroom - but I totally get that feeling of not being able to hold it in a second longer.

[skyyequake]

Karma What part of he never goes out/this was completely out of character/this was the first time anything like this has happened did you completely miss from the OP? Someone getting blind drunk one time and making a mistake doesn't mean they have a bloody drinking problem!

[FishSauce555]

Used to work in a hotel. People shit themselves a lot! Sometimes due to alcoho or drugs, sometimes due to food, age can play a part as obviously can illness.

We're all human, and it's the way things can pan out...

You can dine on this story FOREVER though, 'remember that time you shalt yourself on the stairs honey? '

[ZippyNeedsFeeding]

Mr Zippy would never, ever do this. I am absolutely certain of this fact. We live in a bungalow, so no stairs! I almost (but not quite) wish he would, I could milk it for bloody years!

It would take more than that for me to LTB though. If anything, I'd have to make sure he was okay and his blood sugar wasn't in real trouble (he's diabetic). Once I knew there was no damage, I'd resume the merciless mocking/blackmail though.