About stupid newborn advice!

[primarynoodle]

Dd is now 9 weeks (pfb). Didn't have a clue what I was doing when she was born having never reply been around babies so listened to midwife/hv advice religiously.

Am ebf but would like to give the occasional bottle of expressed milk so dp can feed and I can go swimming, or even just have a shower without listening to her cry! but because we stuck to the strictly no bottles or dummies til 8weeks rule she won't take either now! My poor nips are getting a battering!

After a week of no sleep and prising my eyes open because she wouldn't sleep in the Moses basket I told hv we were getting a co sleeper crib - this was met with stern words and a huge po face and I was told to persevere with the basket.. In the end dp bought one anyway and she slept a solid 5 hours in it on night one!

Same with flipping sleeping layers advice, grow bag advice is a vest + sleepSuit + grobag at the current temperature. She'd bloody melt if I put her in all of that!

Why oh why did nobody say to me "this is the guidance, use some common sense and apply it where necessary" rather than "this is he guidance" then look all cats bum at you if you suggest doing anything slightly different... Would have saved me hours of angst and guilt.. Do they not understand we precious first born mothers are neurotic

[ZippyNeedsFeeding]

With most advice, I've developed a good line in non-committal replies like, "Do you think so?" or "I'll have a think about that" or "That's interesting" then I just ignore. Health Visitors are optional though.