To hate "Viral Facebook Shaming"?

[Chihuahualala]

I'm not talking about missing people, pets etc - I think it's great for that that pictures can be shared.

I just read a shared post where someone is offended that someone pushed past her to get on a train and didn't offer her a seat (she's pregnant). A photo of the offender is attached. This person could not have been aware of their actions/ on the spectrum maybe and now has their picture shared globally to show what a wanker they supposedly are.

The same thing happens in local groups where someone has taken a picture of a car complete with number plates and rants about some misdemeanour they have done. Usually accompanied with, "I had my kids in the car you wanker" and cue loads of comments such as "Aw hun, I'll get xxx to break their legs"

AIBU to find this type of vigilante style shit annoying on Facebook? Before the, "if it gets on your nerves so much delete your account" brigade arrive it's a small annoyance and doesn't take over my enjoyment of Facebook but I just find it really distasteful. I could not be aware I've done something awful (my eyesight isn't great) and next thing I could be seeing my mug being shared all over the place I suppose!

[2kids2dogsnosense]

Rattie - whoever posts stuff accusing someone of a criminal (or even not-very-nice) act had better be able to prove it! They lay themselves open to a (criminal) charge of libel/slander.

[revealall]

I don't think Facebook shaming is right at all and I certainly wouldn't be taking photos of random families.

I was explaining the before and after shots that some people were suspicious off. You could tell this family were going to litter. And sure enough they did.

[RattieOfCatan]

2kids doesn't stop them though! They obviously don't have sense if they are posting it in the first place! I was amazed by this particular woman as it had obviously been through court, so whatever proof they had wasn't enough to get a conviction of theft, so she was opening herself up to all sorts of issues by sharing what she did! She changed the post later in to remove the more personal details but still kept the photo, the young man's name, accusation and some details about his dad up.

[BeingATwatItsABingThing]

Gwendolyn, I saw a homeless man in London. He looked really unwell and I couldn't stop thinking about him as my DP and I were walking away. I ended up going and buying him a meal deal and walking back to give it to him. He was asleep when I got there so I just put it next to him and walked away. My DP and I could see him as we walked over a bridge and he was eating and looking around to see who had given it to him.

When I gave him the food, the last thing I was thinking of was me and getting attention for "doing a good deed". I was thinking a man needed some food and I could afford to buy it for him. I didn't tell anyone I had done it, only my DP knew because he was there. (I'm slightly gutted that I'm having to use the story on here because it makes me sound like a show off.)

People who do something "good" for attention annoy me so much. Do something good because it's the right thing to do. Not for the attention you'll get!

[phillipp]

I was explaining the before and after shots that some people were suspicious off. You could tell this family were going to litter. And sure enough they did.

Not really. You guessed right. That's what it was. A guess.

And even if you are some sort of litter predictor, it's still doesn't justify taking pictures of people just incase they do.

[Alansdeepbath]

Someone up thread posted about this book: www.amazon.co.uk/So-Youve-Been-Publicly-Shamed/dp/1594487138?tag=mumsnet&ascsubtag=mnforum-21
It's all about this exact issue and actually made me think long and hard about how people are treated on social media generally. Well worth reading...

[MonkeyPJs]

This thread reminds me of a time I consciously decided to stop being friends with someone after they posted a pic on FB of someone who was badly dressed in a doctor's reception area with "haha check out this outfit" type comments, when the person looked to me like they'd just gotten dressed quickly.

[BeingATwatItsABingThing]

Some of the "misdemeanours" people are describing could happen to anyone as a simple accident or off day. It actually worries me to think that maybe my picture is out there because I didn't open a door for someone I didn't see. Or because I wore clothes that someone else didn't approve it. It's makes me both incredibly angry and incredibly sad that we live in a society where it is ok to do this to anyone. It should be banned on Facebook!

(Tempted to start a petition to ban it on Facebook...)

[SpaceUnicorn]

Someone up thread posted about this book: <a class="break-all" href="//www.amazon.co.uk/So-Youve-Been-Publicly-Shamed/dp/1594487138?tag=mumsnet&ascsubtag=mnforum-21" rel="nofollow noindex" target="_blank">//www.amazon.co.uk/So-Youve-Been-Publicly-Shamed/dp/1594487138?tag=mumsnet&ascsubtag=mnforum-21
It's all about this exact issue and actually made me think long and hard about how people are treated on social media generally. Well worth reading...

I was thinking about this book too. There were some excerpts from it in the Guardian magazine when it came out, and it was dreadful to see what 'going viral' can do to someone.

[PinkyOfPie]

YANBU, I see a lot of 'this man skinned a dog alive, share this and shame him' type ones. I mean FFS people are that gullible they believe what they read, I wouldn't put it last people to do this as a prank to their mate, no evidence is presented?

And what do people actually expect people to do? See them in the street, say "You're that dog killer off FB" and beat them up? Even if it was true, I don't like it, I don't want to live in a vigilante society

I've started commenting when people do this (doesn't always go down well) and have asked via status a few times to only share crime related stuff that actually comes from a police FB account.

Its frankly just bloody virtue signalling and very annoying.

I remember one ages ago about the Jamie Bulger killers "this is what they look like as adults" and wondered if people knew by sharing it they were breaking the law

[Pagwatch]

So you've been publicly shamed is a good read.

Apart from the dodgy morality of these photos, it's always impossible to tell if they are even genuine. I have a relative who shares this shit and she rarely knows the truth of the situations but happily shares. Enjoy her sad impotent misguided moral outrage.

[x2boys]

Yeah i saw that picture about the Jamie Bulger killers Pinky ,people have no way of knowing wether the pictures were indeed of the child killers or not but even if they were what the hell do they hope to acheive by this ?

[StorminaBcup]

I hate it, in some cases it makes me suspicious in case the person posting is a ditched boyfriend / girlfriend exacting revenge.