AIBU to let my dt's sleep in the back garden?

[inmyplace]

Reassurrance needed. Trying to be chilled. Dt's are 8. In a tent, in our tiny back garden. We live on a cul de sac on edge of a town. Low crime rate but shed did get broken into a couple of years ago. Dh will be in the conservatory with the door open- about 8ish feet away. I thought they'd cave, but no sign of going off the idea. Both just really happy and excited. I need to let them don't I?

[ItsAllGoingToBeFine]

OP, go to bed.

Your DTs are far more likely to die in their beds in a house fire, than to be snatched by some weirdo from their tents

[squoosh]

Also love that they're inspired by Swallows and Amazons!

[Enoughisenough9]

This is nonsense, ignore the hysterics. And you're really insulting your husband by sitting there on guard.

There are kids all over the country camping out in their gardens right now.

[DancingDinosaur]

Sophie Hook, whilst an utter tragedy, was a very rare occurance. My 8 year old dd has been camping with the cubs, similar set up sharing a tent with a few other children, and the leaders sleeping in another tent near by. My dd had an amazing time. We can't live our life in fear of the what ifs, we'd never do anything. And whats the point of that? Your twins are building amazing memories. Sleep downstairs if you need to, but let the girls have their fun.

[inmyplace]

Bertrand- yes i do have total faith in my husband but he's not worried about sleeping and now I've gone over to the worry side I know i won't. He's made me promise to wake him in the small hours so he can do a waking shift. (He's asleep on the air bed next to me).
Statistically I know they'll be fine. I really do value everyone's reassurance. I know i need to get a frigging grip.
Queenliz- I believe this has already been mentioned.

[sleepachu]

no one berated anyone for that

[sleepachu]

no one berated anyone for that

[DancingDinosaur]

Hell, if you're doing shifts anyway then there really is nothing to worry about. Focus on how excited they will be in the morning.

[sleepachu]

no, I berated you for saying "21 years ago. and?" as if that isn't a pivotal consideration in this particular risk assessment

[starsorwater]

Why not take turns with dh if you really are so worried?

My two used to do it, I had the same fears, they were fine. To be honest children grow up to do much more dangerous things, like learn to drive, music festivals, travel. Right now, DS is planning solo backpacking next week, dd is out in the car, just passed her test. I sit here worrying and wishing they were safely in a tent in the garden.

[JaimeLannister]

Hope they are wrapped up warm. I used to get bloody cold sleeping outside but never wanted to admit it or go in (unlike my youngest cousin who deserted us for hot chocolate and a Disney movie)

I expect they will be up at dawn so either way you wouldn't get much sleep!

[PerspicaciaTick]

Be ready with hot chocolate (ideally served in a thermos) and toast for breakfast - and make time for a catch up nap of your own.
They will have a lovely time and be so very chuffed with themselves.
You are doing a good thing

[AverysillyoldHector]

Do those of you bringing up a crime from years ago ever choose drive your children anywhere? Of course, we all do and that is a much bigger risk. Walking through a field of cows is a bigger risk. The thing with all risks is surely to weigh them up in a logical manner.

The chances of anything bad happening are infinitesimally small and they will have a fantastic time. Well done for allowing their adventure.

[inmyplace]

Dancing- yes now we're doing shifts because I'm being wussy. (Although I'll probably let him sleep all the way through anyway, so there's one of us not too grumpy). Initial plan had been he sleeps in conservatory and i sleep in normal bed. But I got spooked.
The rational posts are helping. Didn't mean to cause a fuss.

[x2boys]

Op I, m sorry people have upset you your dt will be fine if I had a secure garden I would let my ds sleep out for sure as it is my garden backs on too a big park and my fences are about two foot tall if he was in my parents garden totally secure and surrounded by other gardens I don't think I would have a problemand a for you .

[BadTasteFlump]

op I asked the same question on here looking for reassurance a few years ago with the same response & wished I hadn't...

I spent the night on the conservatory sofa with the back door open & didn't sleep a wink. I also sneaked up to them every hour or so and managed to scare the shit out if them by trying to quietly undo the tent zip to check on them . Apart from that the dc had a brilliant time and were on a high all the next day - whereas I was a grumpy sleep-deprived monster. Let them do it; they will love it - and you won't get any sleep but it's only for one night

[inmyplace]

Stars- not sure how to do a virtual hug emoticon. A whole different level of worry. Helps me get my grip back.

[angeldiver]

I live on a farm/smallholding. When mine sleep out, I put them in the furthest field away so they don't wake me. They also have to pee in the hedge if need be, no coming back to the house.
They are a couple of years older than yours but now I feel like it's something I should have given more thought to

Oh yes, nothing but nothing has happened to them whilst camping.

[squoosh]

I also sneaked up to them every hour or so and managed to scare the shit out if them by trying to quietly undo the tent zip to check on them


I bet! That would freak anyone out

[inmyplace]

Badtaste- yep I've learnt my lesson here! But you made me laugh. Am so resisting going near the rent for that reason, but it's hard. Heard one cough not so long ago, which was reassuring!
For the swallows and Amazon's officianados- they did have pemican earlier. Looked like dog food but they said it was delicious.