PFB... Come on.

[PirateFairy45]

What's wrong with PFB?

My DD is my PFB and I don't care if you judge me on it, why are people so stuck up about it?

I've seen so many times "oh it must be PFB, that explains a lot" in a condescending way.

But what's wrong with your child being PFB?

Not trying to antagonise, Just wanna know

[Twodogsandahooch]

I bought a crib from someone when I was heavily pregnant. She made a complete song and dance about helping me to the car with it as her baby was asleep inside. My car was parked directly outside her front door. It took about 45 seconds to get it into my boot. I wonder if she cringes about her PFB moment.

[Dinah85]

We once met a friend with her new (3 month old) baby at the park. The paths in this park aren't tarmac but woodchip/gravel and can be slightly uneven in places (tree roots under the path, a mound of earth that wasn't flattened completely or where animals have tunneled under the path since it was made). All in all nothing dramatic or that anyone would really notice. Having walked around 10 metres friend declared the paths completely unsafe for her top of the range pram and was getting really worried her baby was suffering brain damage on the bumps. We all completed our pleasant stroll - friend and her husband huffed and puffed as they CARRIED the complete pram the entire way around the lake. We were overtaken by several other prams with perfectly content babies and toddlers admiring the trees and the ducks and generally somehow surviving this perilous journey. PFB slept through the entire thing.

[Maybebabybee]

When DS was 2 weeks old I accidentally dropped my phone on his head.

Cue me crying and dropping phone on my own head to see how hard it was.

He's nearly 6 months now and I'm decidedly more blasé with him

[ILostItInTheEarlyNineties]

I know a couple who took the large overhead lampshade from their front room on holiday because their new baby liked looking at it.

[RiverTam]

I'm afraid I hate it when people trot out the 'oh, you won't be bothered with all that when you have your second'. I totally judge those people as absolute dimwits who clearly haven't realised that for many couples, their PFB will be their only child, whether they want it or not.

Every 'first' for DD will be a PFB moment for us. I couldn't give a fuck what the rest of you think of that. She is precious. I won't ever be able to do things differently with number 2 because there won't ever be a number 2, or 3 or 4.

I'll assume those numpties have never had 7 miscarriages. Or been diagnosed with cancer during their first and only pregnancy. Or had such a hateful time during IVF that they couldn't go through with it again. One of those people is me, the others I know. You must live very sheltered lives if you know no-one who's been through such things. But carry on feeling smug and superior.

[Maybebabybee]

I suffered repeated miscarriages and probably won't have another. I still laugh at myself often with DS when I know I am being OTT.

I'm sorry for what you went through

[PotteringAlong]

Every 'first' for DD will be a PFB moment for us. I couldn't give a fuck what the rest of you think of that. She is precious. I won't ever be able to do things differently with number 2 because there won't ever be a number 2, or 3 or 4.

Doing things differently with your subsequent children because you realise you were a bit bonkers doesn't make those subsequent children any less precious. Likewise, my eldest isn't less precious just because he has siblings...

[RiverTam]

Missing the point spectacularly there, pottering.

Thanks Maybe, sorry for your losses too .

[CheshireChat]

I really dislike the term simply because I've seen it being used very meanly rather than just good natured teasing.

Also, it's a time ripe with anxiety and depression (PND, PNA) and even psychotic behaviour so I think a little bit more understanding wouldn't go amiss. But hey, it's funny right?

[burblish]

I find the term is too often used in a mean, sneering, condescending way and that seriously irritates me. If you want to look back on your own behaviour and laugh affectionately and call it PFB, that's fine, but to label someone else's behaviour PFB in a knowing, mocking way is a twattish thing to do.

[tofutti]

You can say that about nothing. There's an OP being reprimanded by lots of posters for using the terms 'kiddies' and 'hubby'. Who gives a fuck, really? Let her use the terms instead of making her feel like crap.

[tofutti]

*anything

[Didactylos]

I always get it mixed up with PBJ
and then start craving a sandwich