Controlled crying

[FuckFaceMagee]

Aibu to wonder how people do it?

I honestly can't listen to a baby cry longer than a few mins, at a push.

[Craigie]

People saying it is cruel DO MY HEAD IN. Babies cry for lots of reason, and nearly all of them are NOT because they are scared or think they've been abandoned. I have done controlled crying, but no parent of a young baby is going to have the confidence to do it properly without support. When my son was 6 months old, having endured waking every 45 mins to breastfeed him back to sleep I was at the end of my rope. We employed a parent coach too work with us to establish a sleep routine. Best thing we ever did.
Our baby (now a strapping, delightful 11 y/o) cried for about 45 mins the first night, a bit more the second, a lot less the third, diminishing every night afterwards until after a few days he would have a wee moan, go to sleep & sleep through the night. NEVER had another problem with sleeping again. My advice is to get help. We had no idea what we were doing, our "sleep lady" was an angel with decades of experience, and our baby was so much happier afterwards.

[Craigie]

That wasn't "controlled".

[Rollonbedtime7pm]

Totally agree craigie - some babies just cry cos they are knackered and you just wind them up by being there in their face and trying to help.

I have used a variation of CC on my 2 eldest and have just got the baby to sleep tonight by letting her just have a good old wail in her cot. She is clean, fed, warm but just knackered and I know what her cry sounds like when she just needs to sleep. I popped her dummy back in as needed and she wound down after about 10 mins of on and off crying.

OP my DD1 didn't sleep well until around the same age - afraid I just went a bit queen bitch on her in the end as she was just playing up to get us in her room. She would call us in to put her quilt back on (whilst it was lying nearly over her), find her teddy (who she was next to), give her a drink (in a cup on her bedside table, next to nightlight so not too dark to find it) - you get the picture!

We started by standing in the doorway telling her she needed to sort these 'problems' herself and gradually moved to calling to her from outside the door. Once she was clear we were not playing this game any more she soon gave up. I also made sure i was not a pleasant mummy in the night (not hard!) so she wasn't getting any nice attention by waking. She sleeps through pretty much every night now and she used to have us up 6 times a night sometimes!

Disclaimer - I of course do go in for genuine needs such as falling out of bed or bad dreams! She just knows not to chance the cheeky requests now!

Good luck - she nearly bloody killed me but there is hope and we even had another baby!