When other Mums chip in and tell your child not to do something

[Blossom4538]

Not keen when Mum friends tell my DD not to do something. Usually something small, not particularly naughty at all. Or if something I mention to DD, they'll be really harsh and back me up I guess but just feels a little unnecessary. I guess it's because I never do this to my friends kids. Obv if the Mum wasn't there and I was looking after them with my DD then they're my responsibility, but I never really chip in when they are dealing with a small issue and I will praise them but not really tell them not to do something, not my place really. Leave it to the Mum! I'm far from perfect but I've had two Mums do this recently and it gets my back up.


It may just be me and prob more of an issue as my child is diagnosed with anxiety and other struggles, so can be nervous around people. The other Mums are aware.

AIBU?

[lovelilies]

Me too. But it wasn't another mum, one of my childless friends who didn't think DS (2) should stay at the table when he's finished eating

[pallasathena]

I've noticed a trend these days with some people to 'performance parent'. Particularly noticeable in Waitrose for some reason.

[IceBeing]

I was reading this with dread because I did attempt to manipulate the behaviour of someone else's child at my DD's birthday party. The kid was 5 (and has sensory issues) and trying to disrupt a game of rocket launching by constantly pulling the string the rockets ran along out of peoples hands. I asked him to let other people play for bit, when this was ignored I took a grip of the string in between him and the other users, so they could carry on even though he was still tugging.

He then ran and grabbed some scissors and started cutting the string everywhere....I didn't know what to do about this until he waved the scissors in DD's face at which point I took a firm hold of them to stop anybody getting hurt. This left me standing there attempting to murmur calming sentiments while the kid dangled and dragged at the scissors I was gripping. His Mum then came and intervened and took him off in a bear hug...but I can't help wondering if she thinks I over stepped the mark with him....