Am I just being female and hormonal??

[hormonalpreg]

So every morning I shower, wash my hair, put make up on and wear nice clothes....this morning I chucked on an old pair of jeans and a jumper to do a couple of things around the house. DP gets ready and suggests we go out somewhere. He says he'll be ready in 20 mins. I say I'll need more time as i haven't even showered yet. He says 'oh, I thought you were ready'.

I never go anywhere without make up...I don't wear tons of it but you can definitely tell the difference; I have curly hair so without it being done, I look like I've been dragged through a hedge. We haven't been together for years and years, I fancy him like mad. I'm also 19 weeks pregnant and am feeling fat and hormonal. Now I think that he just doesn't even notice how I look anymore and obviously doesn't fancy me. Please tell me I'm mad and need to get a grip.....

[Noonesfool]

Red I agree re insidious attitudes, absolutely.

The real problem with the free availability of hardcore porn is that children who have never had any sort of sexual relationship are pretty much having their ability to form "normal" sexual relationships short circuited. It can become extremely difficult to return to innocently holding hands when you've spent hours watching girls do deep throats on command.

Sorry OP, I'll shut up, I have inexcusably derailed your thread

[RedHareWithBlondeHair]

noone that sounds interesting. Porn is responsible for a lot but I do think the more insidious attitudes are more damaging. For example what women are wearing and what size they are. I had a thread recently which I was talking about being tall - it's become a non issue now but I recall very clearly people asking me if I wish I'd been a man as if it'd have made my life and height therefore acceptable .

[April241]

hormonalpreg noooo! I must google at once!!

[Noonesfool]

I work a lot with teenagers Navy. Challenging stereotypes of "beauty", analysing it just a little is definitely a big part of it - for boys and girls.

I've just finished a really interesting piece of work about young teenager boys and porn - there are some terrifying attitudes to women being formed.

[hormonalpreg]

April - eyebrow extensions are an actual thing!!

[Noonesfool]

Yeah, I know what you mean Navy - and I get that, it's for you.

But it's interesting to try and pick apart how much of that decision is free will and how much is determined by the society we are products of.

[April241]

eyebrow extensions??? is that a typo

[lightcola]

I know a couple of men who love wearing make up, dresses, and doing their nails; so I wouldn't class make up as a girly thing.

[mzS1990]

They don't sell make up on the moon

[Noonesfool]

I dunno, Navy, we're products of society. I don't know what I would be like if I'd grown up on the moon.

[Noonesfool]

I like this article:

[[https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/oct/21/why-do-girls-wear-makeup-google-answer ]]

It describes it well, I think.

[hormonalpreg]

Noonesfool - I get what your saying, and I guess if it was a man posting to say women should always wear make up, i would completely disagree. I hate how the media try to make women feel shit if they're not thin with perfect hair and make up, but each to they're own. I'm not telling anyone they're wrong if they never wear make up, it's just not what I choose to do. But I am quite vain

[Noonesfool]

Hahaha. No worries mz ☺️

[mzS1990]

Noonesfool- sorry I was talking to red not replying to your comment

[Noonesfool]

OP I didn't love it for aaaaages. It made me want to die. 😳 But now I do - especially with my boy because he stops every 2 minutes

[Noonesfool]

Who said that, mz

And Navy, no I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing. But I do think it's important to do these things consciously - there are so many subtle ways in which sexism is alive and well.

Women becoming conditioned that they should look a certain way is part of that - particularly around hair removal, eye make up (making us look doe eyed and child like), lip make up/enhancement (making our mouths more like vaginas....) it's a product of a patriarchy, that demands women to be broadly submissive.

I think it is incredibly important to at least consider this shit...

[hormonalpreg]

Red - I wish I could make a decent poached egg!! Might be worth mentioning that while I'm being all girly with my make up, DP actually does most of the cooking ( he makes amazing poached eggs) and all of the hoovering!

Noonesfool - I am genuinely jealous of anyone who loves running!!

[mzS1990]

Op- of course because we love make up, it makes us thick, makes our husbands possessive, makes other males ask us to get out tits out etc...

Baffling