DD1 is 5 and started primary school last summer, she is a Feb birthday and so is youngest in her class, 2 years younger than the oldest child. We live in a small village but have 2 schools which share a campus one Catholic and one non denominational. DD goes to the catholic school which is tiny the other school is huge. Anyway, not much relevance there but these facts are needed.
Ever since DD started school a group of older girls (about 8 years old, some younger ones) have been coming to the door and asking her out to play. They seem nice enough and are from our street and the neighbouring street but we don't know them/their parents at all and aren't at DD's school. These children are allowed to go wherever and do whatever they like and their parents never know where they are. A good example of this is I allowed one to come in and play one Friday afternoon at about 4 and eventually we had to ask her to leave about 8 as we were going to get DD's ready for bed. I'd be worried sick if my child had been away for all that time and I didn't have a clue where they were! Since then that girl has came back with her little brother (about 3/4 years old) and in groups of other girls around her age. I haven't let them back into my house though as I don't want to have them in here all the time especially when I don't know them! We live in a cauldisac and can't see the street from our house so I'm reluctant to let DD out to play as I wouldn't know where she was or who she was with on top of the fact she doesn't have any road sense really, it's a busy cauldisac with lots of turning vehicles, and I think she's a bit young to be playing out unsupervised. They only way I could watch her would be to stand out in the car park like a loony. They come to the house at least twice a week and at first I made excuses like we're going out or having dinner etc so DD couldn't come out but now I just don't answer the door. They knock for ages and one has even tried the door one evening! One came to the door for DD at 9pm last Friday night, DH answered the door to her and said it was very late and she should maybe go home. I was just like at a child still being out at that time and coming to basically a strangers door! We come from an area where there are a lot of what you'd probably call deprived families mostly with parents not working, taking drugs, drinking etc so I know a lot of these children don't have great home lives which is another reason I don't want DD out with them, she doesn't need exposed to that and I fear for her safety. So AIBU to not let DD out to play with these kids? Am I being snobby? DD gets so upset as she really wants out to play but I just feel it's so unsafe and DH doesn't trust the kids. He thinks they're going to take DD away and do something to her. I feel rotten though as I could be stopping DD making friends and possibly opening the door to her being bullied when she's older by them for being stuck up. Having children is so hard sometimes .
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SecretlycrushingonTomHanks · 14/07/2016 16:15
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