Date nights

[Lucaslovesfelicity]

Just a quick question out of curiosity really. What is the general consensus of a couple going out on date nights, once they have children. It's something me and my husband very rarely do but my DM informed me today, that going out alone without the kids is something you shouldn't be doing, once you become a parent. I feel a little guilty now for even considering it. We never ask either sets of grandparents to babysit in an evening, as we feel that it is something that they really wouldn't want to do. So on the occasion we have been out, which has been once this year to an evening wedding reception, we have paid for a babysitter. So, AIBU to want a night off as a couple once in a while? TIA x

Across weird

Start by having a 'date' night with a take away and the film Date Night. Very funny and silly.

Ps. Don't listen to your DM or let her attitudes towards relationships affect yours. Just do what you know your and your OH need in terms of time, attention and getting out the house. There is no set agenda for any couple.

Yeah crunchymum I got that after a while, people saying MIL got me confused as I hadn't seen her mentioned.

Ha! My mother in law sites a LACK of date nights as the reason SIL got divorced - said they sound have made more time for each other and now the poor kids are from a 'broken home'. You can't win :)

But definitely grab the chances you have to go out :)

You're of course not being unreasonable.

Its a shame your parents won't help out with a bit of babysitting.

When my DH and I couldn't have nights out together because of babysitting issues or health problems, we'd try and make some nights in special.
For us that meant eating later, after putting the kids to bed; him cooking, since I did it normally; playing a board game or chatting and NO TV; bath or shower together and lots of sex.

*YABU calling it date night.

Not if they go on a date*

Nope. They're married. It's not a 'date'. It's a night out.

Nah its a date. A couple on a date.