To think he shouldn't have been allowed more food?

[FedupofbeingtoldIcantusemyname]

Round at the in laws for dinner with Dss and DP.

Dss refused to eat all his dinner so was told he couldn't have pudding. He made a half hearted attempt to eat more, when told this, but eventually gave up due to being 'too full'.

Was allowed to have pudding anyway as he did attempt to eat more but was told he could not have anything later as he did not finish his dinner.

Come almost bedtime, Dss starts asking for more food. DP told him no as he hadn't eaten all his dinner but he was overuled by DGM who said he couldn't be allowed to go to bed hungry.

Aibu to think she should have gone with what DP said or was she right?

[VioletBam]

It's bullshit to deprive a child of pudding if they don't eat dinner. Treating food as a reward is a BAD route.

Always.

[VioletBam]

Anecdotal exactly. I don't always want to eat an entire bowl of pasta and whatever. But I'll still have icecream if there's any on offer.

[SouperSal]

My 5 year old often has half/all of her pudding before her main course. It seems to wake up her appetite.

[MiniCooperLover]

Pudding in our house is always a yoghurt after fruit so it's always given. Now we sometimes get the 'I'm hungry Mummy' when it's bedtime and I ignore because I know he's barely half an hour before eaten. He doesn't get anything and he goes to sleep fine.

[OhGodWhatTheHellNow]

My 7 yo is a refuser, his range is getting smaller every week, he brings most of his packed lunch home from school even after I have put exactly what he asked for in it and this is supposed to be OK? School have commented he is tired and inattentive in the afternoon so no, child-led eating is not working. If he doesn't try to eat some tea he doesn't get to fill up on Pringles laterr,no matter how hungry he says he is.

Parenting includes making children eat veg when they want to live on ice-cream and the gps should respect this.

[rookiemere]

But Ohgod OP is not the parent she is his DF's girlfriend.

On that basis it's not up to her to decide what her BF's DS should be eating or pass judgement on it.

[UmbongoUnchained]

There's no such thing as treats in my household. Food is food and they can eat it when they like wether it's chocolate or fruit. Funnily enough my daughter rarely chooses the chocolate and now has developed fantastic willpower as its not seen as something special. She can have 3 buttons from the bowl and put the rest back in the fridge. Me though, I have terrible food issues because of my strict parents and I binge eat.

[AnecdotalEvidence]

OhGod what have pringles got to do with it? You don't have to give them pringles if they haven't eaten much dinner. My youngest is autistic and had lots of food issues, I used to give him cereal (not high sugar) or bread if he was still hungry.

How are you getting on with making your child eat vegetables? I'd love to know how you do it.

[FedupofbeingtoldIcantusemyname]

He doesn't eat fruit or veg but we have progressed from chips to mashed potato