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[Highlandfling80]

I am going to a bit vague as I don't want to out myself.
We are a group of 6 friends from uni. We have remained close although more effort is now required to meet up as we live around the country.
We have all been invited to a social occasions which is in a city close to where say friend a lives. It is in a city some 15 miles away from friend a's house.
Friend b has booked accommodation in the city.
Friend c had done the same and planned to bring her sister with her. (Friend c doesn't drive)
Me and friend d drive but don't live driving in unfamiliar cities. So seeing that a and b were sorted asked friend a if they could take us. Friend a was driving anyway and we can have a car full with partners.
Now friend b's sister has backed out so wanted to stay at friend a's house. Friend a had to say no as she would have no room in the car .
Friend b is really upset as she has now had to cancel trip because she doesn't want to stay in the booked accommodation on her own.
She thinks me and friend d are bu as we have cars and she doesn't.
So my jury should one of us bite the bullet and drive or pay for a taxi to keep the peace and enable friend b to attend.
We have all paid for hotels too as too far to do in a day
My jury what do you think please.

[Highlandfling80]

Sorry same price.

[Highlandfling80]

TBH it was dh idea to book hotel as it was significantly cheaper than those I found via the city. Like £70 cheaper. So actually if even I had to suck up taxis both ways alone it would still be cheaper as a taxi is would still be the same as staying in the city.

[TheNaze73]

I'm struggling to understand why you'd book a hotel, so far away?? Carol sounds like she thinks she's royalty

[Highlandfling80]

I actually have no problem in splitting the cost of. Cab. .indeed I am going to suggest this. I just feel that she should have discussed it with us 1St before cancelling the room and declining the invitation. Cheap rooms in the city are really hard to come by and we could have shared.
Aldo I wouldn't have and I doubt Doris would have accepted lift offer if we knew situation at the time.
Going go get taxi quotes this morning.

[rollonthesummer]

It would make sense for either you, or one of the other people getting a lift to drive as well and take two cars. Having said that, it sounds like Carol is just expecting other people to bend over to accommodate her just because she can't drive. I wouldnt fancy driving to a function on a rare night out if I could possibly avoid it. How much would a cab be? Or a train even?

[donajimena]

I don't drive in unfamiliar places. It makes me nervous. Just saying.. OP isn't alone.
Anyway I think you should split taxi cost.

[DeathStare]

Are you driving from your house to the hotel (ie will your car be sat in the car park)? If so then I think it's really sad that you'd rather have a drink than have your friend there. Not unreasonable as such, but sad. And if I was Carol I'd be hurt by this.

I also think it's quite sad if you, Agnes, Doris and the partners would rather exclude a friend than split the cost of a 15 mile taxi 5 ways. And again if I was Carol I'd be hurt at the thought that you'd all rather save a few pound than have me there.

[Highlandfling80]

Anymore

[Highlandfling80]

TBH I just don't want the hassle. Dh Is only taking a half days leave and our preschooler is a live wire so just don't want extra stress.
Just want to have a fun night out with my uni friends and not worry about driving so I can have a drink.
TBH I don't think Carol understand this as she has never driven and can't tolerate alocohol.

[Arkwright]

A big part of driving is how convenient it is to get to places. Why would you rather get a train or a lift from someone than drive yourself? The majority of roads, lanes and car parks are well signposted wherever they are.

[Costaflyby11]

Pretty confused by all of this and the logistics of having so many friends seems very confusing reasonable excuse for sticking to just one or two!

I would just like to say though in OPers defence, an awful lot of people don't like driving in city's especially unfamiliar ones and I certainly don't think it's for anyone else to say she needs to 'get over it' parking especially is very difficult when you don't know the area, I once travelled to York to meet a friend, parking there was a nightmare even with sat nav and I ended up driving around for ages stressing and paying far to much attention to the sat nav and road signs than on driving which was probably far from safe I vowed to just get trains from then on to unfamiliar cities as it wasn't worth the agro!

[Arkwright]

I would try and find out the taxi fare there and back. It might be cheaper getting a hotel nearer for you and Carol.

[Highlandfling80]

OK reading op back I have been way too vague and actually confused myself so can understand why you have no hope.
We are a group of friends from uni. We are attending an evening event in city near Agnes town.
Bea is attending with her dh and they have booked a hotel within walking distance of venue.
Carol was lucky to find a cheaper b and b in the city and had booked a twin room with her sister who we all know.
Doris was also attending with her dh and they booked a hotel in the town where Agnes lives.
At the same time I booked a single room at the same hote where Doris and her dh were staying.
Frances and her dh booked the same Hotel as bea.
At the last minute Carol found our her sister couldn't make it and before talking to us cancelled the room. She than rang Agnes and explained her predicament and asked to stay with her
Agnes explained that she and her dh were giving me and Doris and her dh a lift.
Carol is annoyed because she feels more in need of a lift as she doesn't drive. Me and Doris are not keen on driving due to being wimps and wanting a drink. We felt able to accept the offer of a lift as Carol was sorted in a reasonably priced b and b and had her sister to share cost.
So after mulling all this over I think that maybe we need to suggest that Agnes and her dh leave car at home and than Carol can stay with Agnes and we can share taxi cost.
Will speak to Agnes 1St thing and see if she would be happy with this and than discuss with Doris and Carol.

[HeddaGarbled]

I think you should all put your heads together and find a way to help her out and enable her to attend. That's what proper friends would do.

[maddening]

Can you change your room to a twin and get a taxi with the now sister less friend?

[OwlinaTree]

I don't like driving in unfamiliar cities. It's stressful. Sat nav helps, but it's a nightmare with different lanes etc. I'm not 12 obviously. I do it if I have to but if I can get a train or someone else is willing I'll take a lift. Don't think people should be having a pop at the op for this.

[NerrSnerr]

Does the city have a travelodge or an ibis? They might be good value?

[NerrSnerr]

It is really strange to book a hotel so far. Does the city have particularly small parking spaces? How else would parking be an issue? Surely a car park is a car park whatever the city?

[Highlandfling80]

Well places I searched were double. The b and b other friend booked was actually the same price as my hotel.

[Arkwright]

How about Agnes, Bertha, Cleo, Doris, Edith and Flora. Also who is taking a partner.

[Highlandfling80]

Realize now I should have done that but the rooms closer were double the cost
It just a shame I didn't find out sooner as I could have just travelled up by train and shared a room with friend c who doesn't drive.
Maybe time to suggest we hire a big taxi and share cost.
Or see if I can cancel my hotel and see if we can rebook the b and b.

[ClopySow]

Um... i think you should go with the white dress?

[rollonthesummer]

Can't you reword the op using names?!

[SabineUndine]

I think the one who won't stay in a hotel alone is being very unreasonable. It's only a place to sleep!

[AgentProvocateur]

Someone doesn't want to stay in a hotel in her own, and two of you don't like driving in unfamiliar cities - are you all 12?