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my daughter is 12. she is doing well at school. on friday we went to the doctor as her urine infection wasnt cleaning up. the doctor confirmed it was a urine infection. she was given some antibiotics. told to take for 3 days, things still arent fully cleared up so she is taking for a further 4 days, which was advised and then anytime longer i should take her back.
i was driving her to school and we stopped off at a local shop. she came in but was complaining of pain and needing to go to the toilet. it was so bad she had to go back to the car. she needed the toilet every 5 mins, even if it wasnt to pee, like a normal infection really and was saying it was painful, so i advised that she stay off as it was just going to be far too difficult for her to be at school with it. she then sat in the bath for about 3 hours which helped. i had already left a voicemail on the school phone saying she wont be going in but i got a call from the receptionist to clarify why she isnt in, i said she is on antibiotics for a urine infection and that its best that she is off as the symptoms are still bad. she told me to wait a minute, so i did. she then told me that she still should have come in as the school nurse could have given her a toilet pass, if she had a note from the doctor explaining why. i said that there were other symptoms that just that which meant it was just best she stay off but that she will catch up on work. she asked what the further symptoms were, which i said that they were a bit too personal really and that it doesnt really matter. she said it does as she needs to judge if its an unauthorised abscence or if its sickness... i said that she can decide what she would like and i basically ended the conversation there. it will go down as unauthorised. am i being the mad one here???
AIBU?
receptionist said i should have sent daughter into school... was i unreasonable?
user1465932464 · 14/06/2016 20:39
I hope your daughter improves soon. It's awful to be in that much pain (I had an horrific uti following a hospital procedure once, all the sympathy for her). 
If they (dare) to come back with unauthorised then document the hours spent in the bath / in bed / unable to stand straight / necessary painkillers. It's not just the need to wee suddenly and mild discomfort. The woman is not trained to make a medical decision about your daughter's attendance!
Dd had two days off with horrendous period pains and heavy bleeding,I sent in the necessary text letting them know she was absent and got an email asking if it was really necessary for her to be absent with period trouble (only once in the eighteen months she'd been having periods) I emailed them back asking if they'd like me to bring the contents of my linen basket for their inspection so they could ascertain that dd was sufficiently incapacitated because otherwise they'd have to take my word for it and advised them she would be back when I felt she was able to manage a school day on painkillers that were effective for the full four hours. Funnily enough I've never had another email after her being absent on the rare occasion since 
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I think the receptionist has every right to decide if your dd is in enough pain to keep her off..... as soon as she becomes medically qualified 
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Your poor DD.UTIs are ghastly. I work in education and have also had to explain myself to the school receptionist on the rare occasion I phoned in sick 
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