Summer does not mean men can remove their shirts in Tescos!

[pinkladyapple]

Went to Tescos. A family of 4 males walked past from ages maybe 6 up to 60 and all of them were topless and sweaty. Why is that acceptable all of a sudden to be effectively wearing beachwear while in a supermarket just cause it's hot? Would I be allowed to walk in bare chested or in a bikini?

One of them leant against the deli counter and left a sweat imprint from their chest.

I think indoors it's particularly bad. It's not about if they have a nice physique or not it's just not acceptable in places like the town centre or inside businesses surely?

AIBU to be really irritated by this?

[Janey50]

I believe that some supermarkets (Tesco?) have introduced a 'no pyjamas or nghtwear' policy in their stores. I think this should be extended to 'no bare chests' (male or female!). As pinkladyapple said,its got nothing to do with whether or not they have a good physique. I just find it off-putting and offensive to see half-dressed people wandering around the shop. There is a time and a place for it,and the supermarket is NOT it.

[HerBigChance]

Yanbu. It's always a certain sort of man as well. Laddish. Beery. Hate it. Also they do it when it's 20 degrees so you know they're not really hot. They're just making a point about their dominance.

This. In spades.

[pinkladyapple]

Being served food by people in vest tops sounds ridiculously specific to me, as if something bad happened to you once when that happened. As I can't think of a rational reason why it would be an issue. Does an extra few inches of material covering the shoulders really make that big a difference?

[RainIsAGoodThing]

DP took his top off in the park the other day. I was speechless. I would never have agreed to go out with him if i had known he was that kind.

On s serious note though, there is absolutely no need for it. As PP said, people in countries far hotter than ours manage to go about their daily business wearing clothes.

[AnecdotalEvidence]

do you complain about decency when women breast feed in public.
Maryjo that is one of the most ridiculous arguments I have ever heard!
I don't want to see men with no tops on in shops.
I don't want to see women in bikinis in shops.
Breastfeeding mums are welcome to breastfeed in shops.
The situations don't even compare.

[Backingvocals]

Yanbu. It's always a certain sort of man as well. Laddish. Beery. Hate it. Also they do it when it's 20 degrees so you know they're not really hot. They're just making a point about their dominance.

[3dogsandacat]

Where is this tescos where whole families of men are allowed to wander round topless?

[3dogsandacat]

I hadn't thought of the kitchen aspect

[PreciousVagine]

I'd be more concerned about the hot kitchens and sweat dripping off the people cooking the food

[3dogsandacat]

That's why people serving food shouldn't really wear vest tops.

[3dogsandacat]

If a person's armpits start sweating and they're wearing a vest top, then small droplets of sweat could potentially drip onto the food.
If the person is wearing a proper top then the sleeves will absorb the sweat instead.

[thrillhouse]

Nataleejah that's partly why it bothers me so much though. Sexist bullshit double standards.

[AnchorDownDeepBreath]

I said being served food by people in vest tops not vest tops per se. Why not read the words in front of you?

It was an honest question - I can't imagine what's wrong with vest tops, whether you're wearing them or serving people in them. Is it just that you can see more arm/chest than usual? Or that what they are serving you might have more contact with skin?

I'm genuinely interested, I thought vest tops were universally acceptable.

[Nataleejah]

Doesn't bother me. Just makes me bloody envious that we women can't do the same

[thrillhouse]

Maryjo15 ffs that is really not the same.

Also some of the men I see walking round with no shirts on have bigger breasts than people I see breastfeeding. And you definitely see more skin from a topless man than someone breastfeeding...

Anyway, OP, YANBU. Sweat print on the deli counter is rank! I think you would probably be allowed in a supermarket in a bikini top but imagine the outrage if you went in topless...

[ChihuahuaChick]

It's getting on a packed bus and having to jam yourself against a sweating half naked stranger I can't stand, especially with my head being armpit height for some blokes. I try to walk more during tourist season.

[Woodhill]

Yanbu. A bit of decorum is good. Dress appropriately unless you are by the beach.

[pigsDOfly]

Yes, Viva it made certainly made us laugh heartily.

[bibbitybobbityyhat]

I said being served food by people in vest tops not vest tops per se. Why not read the words in front of you?

[NeedsAsockamnesty]

You should move here. The strap on ds's sandal snapped as we walked home and it was unwearable. We still had 2 miles to walk. We were passing Tesco so went in (me carrying ds). I had to put him down to sort through the shoes to find a replacement pair. I was rounded on immediately and told ds couldn't be in store shoeless and to leave. I showed them the sandal in my bag. I explained I'd pick him up and carry him to the tills. Nope. Told to leave

Much the same happened to me in a tesco, on route home from a doctors appointment where DS's shirt had to be cut off him because of a allergic reaction the only chemist open was in tesco, doctor had rung ahead for us to check they had all of the 4/5 things prescribed as some were some odd dressings and had even said clothes had been cut off child because he knew they were a bit strict,Child none verbal and none mobile so was being carried and very obviously in pain and the reason was very obvious.
They wouldn't let us in, I had to drive for about 60 mins in the direction I didnt need to be.

Haven't set foot in the place since

[Sunnsoo]

Yabu

It's the lads in summer. It's what they do. Smug lads.

[3dogsandacat]

It's rough as fuck,

True. Not only in the shops, but walking round town in general shirtless looks scrubby..

It doesn't seem out of place when builders do it on a building site, on a really hot day.

There's a time and place for everything.


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[SenoritaViva]

You're right pigs, I would've loved to see that, hilarious!

[pigsDOfly]

Well, if you think bare chests are bad, you would have loved the man I saw in Barcelona a number of years ago.

Striding down Las Ramblas as bold as you like there he was, heavily tanned, wearing what looked like a pair of very tight black shorts, got closer and realized it was actually a tattoo; round the front he had a very small posing pouch type thing covering his penis. Don't know if it covered his testicles as well as I didn't look that close.

It was not pretty.

[MiracletoCome]

I hate it also, and skimpy vest tops on males and females in supermarkets. Shorts are OK as long as they are a reasonable length but I certainly don't want to see someone's arse hanging out while I am choosing my food.

So YANBU