AIBU to want to put my toddler to bed, read a story, kiss her, turn out the light and leave to enjoy my own relaxing evening, like a beautiful movie?

[LightHouser]

Yes, yes I am.

But I still want it.

This is why I have cats.

Movie children never need a nappy change or posset on you, unless it is for comedy value.

They also sleep in pristine beds that they never wet, with one adorable soft toy tucked under their arm.

In reality they have the duvet lumped under one arm, a box of leggo as a pillow and probably roller skates on.

My 4dc have always been great at going to bed. They do it no fuss no arguements. Straight to sleep. It is clearly my amazing, superior parenting ~Oh no, wait, it's not. It is nothing I have done, they just all really need their sleep.

During the day? My superior parenting isn't so superior. They wake at 5 (apart from the teenager) and are on the fucking go all day, the toddler is like a limpet round my legs, I don't get a minute peace. My friend has the opposite, her dc are angels during the day but come bedtime turn into devil children.

OP I hope it improves soon.

You all have my deepest sympathy ...from the far away distance of about 16 years. :)
BUT
Seeing english's little cutie and hearing all the stories about hand standing toddlers and snuggly babies who just want YOU has made me .... a teeny tiny bit nostalgic for the days when DH and I were their whole world.

Yanbu
my ds is 11 months but he has only started sleeping alone upstairs the past week and still in our bed never his own cot. Inhave to cuddle him to sleep for half an hour then stay for a further twenty minutes to half an hour or he wakes up. After that i go downstairs and await his cries

YANBU. My oldest was a nightmare. We used to sit at the end of his bed until he fell asleep. If you got up then he would scream until he vomited. It was awful. He was still doing it at 2.5yrs old when my youngest was born. It took hours and when it was my turn I would be sitting thinking about all the planning and marking I was supposed to be doing.

My dh had enough one day and decided he was going to train him to sleep. He put him down, gave him a kiss and left. Ds would scream, vomit and dh changed the bed and pjs and put him down again. Thank god we live in a hot country because we went through so many sheets and towels each day for a week. It was terrible. It took a week but it worked though and now they both go down with a kiss and we leave the room.

Ds1 was a nightmare and to save my sanity and possibly me loosing control with him I followed the cc In Toddler taming. He was 16 months.

It was a two night battle and then paradise. He was much happier and calmer going to sleep as he realised the rules were tea, bath, story, cuddle, sleep in his bed.

It was s miracle.

The other 3 were sleep trained from 9 to 15 months and as a family it worked for us.

They are all happy settled lovely adults.

Just remember you are the adult and you can take back control.