AIBU to want to put my toddler to bed, read a story, kiss her, turn out the light and leave to enjoy my own relaxing evening, like a beautiful movie?

[LightHouser]

Yes, yes I am.

But I still want it.

[Onlyicanclean10]

Ds1 was a nightmare and to save my sanity and possibly me loosing control with him I followed the cc In Toddler taming. He was 16 months.

It was a two night battle and then paradise. He was much happier and calmer going to sleep as he realised the rules were tea, bath, story, cuddle, sleep in his bed.

It was s miracle.

The other 3 were sleep trained from 9 to 15 months and as a family it worked for us.

They are all happy settled lovely adults.

Just remember you are the adult and you can take back control.

[mmgirish]

YANBU. My oldest was a nightmare. We used to sit at the end of his bed until he fell asleep. If you got up then he would scream until he vomited. It was awful. He was still doing it at 2.5yrs old when my youngest was born. It took hours and when it was my turn I would be sitting thinking about all the planning and marking I was supposed to be doing.

My dh had enough one day and decided he was going to train him to sleep. He put him down, gave him a kiss and left. Ds would scream, vomit and dh changed the bed and pjs and put him down again. Thank god we live in a hot country because we went through so many sheets and towels each day for a week. It was terrible. It took a week but it worked though and now they both go down with a kiss and we leave the room.

[Crazypetlady]

Yanbu
my ds is 11 months but he has only started sleeping alone upstairs the past week and still in our bed never his own cot. Inhave to cuddle him to sleep for half an hour then stay for a further twenty minutes to half an hour or he wakes up. After that i go downstairs and await his cries

[NorksAreMessy]

You all have my deepest sympathy ...from the far away distance of about 16 years. :)
BUT
Seeing english's little cutie and hearing all the stories about hand standing toddlers and snuggly babies who just want YOU has made me .... a teeny tiny bit nostalgic for the days when DH and I were their whole world.

[sunnyoutside]

My 4dc have always been great at going to bed. They do it no fuss no arguements. Straight to sleep. It is clearly my amazing, superior parenting ~Oh no, wait, it's not. It is nothing I have done, they just all really need their sleep.

During the day? My superior parenting isn't so superior. They wake at 5 (apart from the teenager) and are on the fucking go all day, the toddler is like a limpet round my legs, I don't get a minute peace. My friend has the opposite, her dc are angels during the day but come bedtime turn into devil children.

OP I hope it improves soon.

[sashh]

This is why I have cats.

Movie children never need a nappy change or posset on you, unless it is for comedy value.

They also sleep in pristine beds that they never wet, with one adorable soft toy tucked under their arm.

In reality they have the duvet lumped under one arm, a box of leggo as a pillow and probably roller skates on.

[glowfrog]

Craigie hope you enjoyed your moment in the smug-light. Thanks for your contribution.

[Yokohamajojo]

Craigie - I have two DS with completely and utterly different sleep patterns. First one slept through from 8 months in his own bed, actively asked to go to bed because he was tired. Second one not so much! he wants closeness, he does not want to be on his own. Bit of a shock to my smugness

To all you struggling out there, at 6 it changed, now he finally goes to bed, reads a few pages and falls a sleep - There is hope

[NotCitrus]

Mine were great as toddlers. It was when they learnt to get out of bed and open the door themselves it got tough - dd age 4 is currently being a right pain.

Craigie - what's your record number of times to return your child to bed? Mine is 79 in one evening. I sat outside ds's room eventually and ran a sweepstake on Twitter! Advice like that reminds me of when I used to ask BIL for parenting advice - dn is a few months older than ds and BIL is a teacher. His advice was always "First, start with a different child..."

[FeckOfffCup]

Ah it sounds really simple when you say it like that craigie

[Craigie]

YANBU, and it's perfectly achievable - both my 2 have been going straight to bed since they slept through as babies. Just do it. Bath, story, say night night, then lights out, close the door & leave. If they get up, put them back to bed without saying a word.

[FeckOfffCup]

http://hurrahforgin.com/2015/10/01/the-eight-steps-of-a-faultless-bedtime-routine/
This ^ is brilliant and very relatable, even though mine doesn't talk yet

[lornathewizzard]

*put

[lornathewizzard]

Another one here going through an annoying bedtime phase! 21mo DD has on and off phases of going down by herself (which is great), but currently we're in a more often than not, not wanting to go to sleep. Doesn't help that it's so bloody light!
Tried lying on the floor next to her the other night but at 27 weeks pregnant it's not exactly comfortable. So last night, as with many others, I gave up and just out her in our bed. Still wanted me to lay beside her but it didn't take long at least. Hooray for our super king size bed!

[Onedaftmonkey]

Thank the gods their are other's going through this and it's not just us. to all of you.
.

[smokeybandit]

I'm still waiting for the turnaround with my dd! I've let her get into this ridiculous routine of a story, then we have to do claps while counting to 30 (not sure where that came from) then I try to say goodnight and at that point she remembers something the ABSOLUTELY MUST TELL ME OR ELSE THE WORLD WILL END and gets mighty huffy if I look like I don't want to hear it! I'm actually half ashamed to say that but she's angel most of the time just a nightmare going to bed. But again, my own fault. Oh and we have to do a fist bump! Then she tells me 10 times she loves me and to have sweet dreams and she'll miss me till morning and can I wake her up as SOON as I wake up? I think she turns into a small toddler at bedtime.

[Titsywoo]

I remember this stage fondly . I think they stopped mucking around at night when they were about 6 years old. After the cosleeping and toddler fun years they had the whole period of mucking around together in their rooms after bedtime.

[BillBrysonsBeard]

I love love love my 2yr old DS but closing his door, clearing his toys, lighting candles and getting my shows on (was Game of Thrones tonight ) is heaven. Thankfully he just falls asleep by himself even if it takes hours, but I'm prepared for that to change at any point..

[EnglishGirlApproximately]

Hmm, it's getting worse here. Ds used to be a great sleeper as a baby but is awful now. This is happening in my bed right now 🙄

[LightHouser]

I'm feeling pretty sad for dd now to be honest... it's roasting in this house even with all the windows open. She's sleeping in just a nappy for the first time in her life. Even I feel queasy from the heat.

[Notso]

This is one of my few parenting successes. My four have all always gone to bed with no fuss. it often goes downhill from around midnight though

[Oysterbabe]

JUST got my 4 month old to bed. She's been smiling and squealing and generally not looking sleepy for the last 2 hours. Probably should go to bed myself as I'll bet she still wakes up at 2 for a feed.

[DrRanjsRightEyebrow]

YANBU. Im feeding DS again, who is yet to successfulky get into bed after another 30 minute stand off with him yelling to go downstairs. He's 28 months. I've also seen every hour on the clock every night for the past week. He's always been shit, the longest he ever slept, once, was a 6 hour stretch, but this is far worse than his usual 2 hour stretches! I'm actually dying. And i so wanted to watch game of thrones and eat biscuits this evening.

[SanityClause]

Gawd. Wait until they're teens. They disappear into their rooms after dinner, and you barely see them.

I really miss them, at times, and they're only a few rooms away.

[Verticalvenetianblinds]

Dh bought me toast, v kind of him but there's crumbs in the bed now! Not sure where he's going to sleep, me and ds are taking up the whole bed!