DH throwing my things away

[teenytinyshells]

Back story: have hoarding tendencies which (thanks to Marie Kondo) I am overcoming. DH is usually the opposite but in recent months, I have been discarding loads more than him and am far more ruthless at what stays and what goes .

However, I hate the thought of things going to landfill, so take great care to take things to charity shop or put things on ebay/freecycle , FB selling/free pages. DH can't be bothered with any of that and just wants to chuck everything in the bin.

I don't really care what he does with his stuff, but get major rage on when I find my things in the bin. He knows this drives me mad but I've just emptied a bin and found little unused toiletry samples, some cool sew on badges and magazines in the big bin. Yesterday he threw away dd swim lesson next stage form because he thought it was litter. Arrrgh. . AIBU !!

[justwondering72]

Also on the fence, but I think YAB a little U. The things you mention are all pretty insignificant and not difficult to store / dispose of. How long had they been sitting wherever they were when they got chucked by your DH, and what were you planning to do with them, if not chucking them out / recycling them? And how many are we talking - a few of each, or bags / piles of them?

Toiletry samples - should be either in the bathroom and being used up OR in the bin

Old magazines - recycling bin straight away

Badges - in your sewing box or in the bin.

It sounds like you need some kind of system in place to keep paperwork in order - possibly that's a higher priority than recycling old toiletry samples or magazines.

Good luck with the decluttering - you'll get there ;-)

[TheCrumpettyTree]

Why not use the toiletry samples. A charity shop won't want them. Or empty them out and recycle the bottles.

[HarlotBronte]

Good points about dumping your old shit on charity shops. It isn't ok to make them incur the costs of disposal because you can't tolerate the thought of getting rid of something. Not everything has any resale value or potential use left in it. Far too many people delude themselves into thinking otherwise, and it's charity shops have to pay the price. Literally.

[PassiveAgressiveQueen]

So dumping stuff with no resale value costs them actual money?

[HarlotBronte]

Red Cross mentions incurring disposal costs on their page about donating.

www.redcross.org.uk/Get-involved/Our-shops/Donate-to-our-charity-shops

I believe some councils offer a subsidy, but even then charities still have to waste staff and volunteer time sorting out any blatantly unsellable shit that people see fit to dump on them.

[VerySlovenly]

Passive - all businesses, including charities, have to pay to get their waste taken away.

[Misswrite89]

LTB

[teenytinyshells]

Thanks for the responses. I can see how difficult living with a hoarder can be and sympathise with those of you in that situation. However, really don't think I am that bad, I've been steadily getting rid of things over the past 5 years and have stepped up the pace in recent months. I've just asked DH and he doesn't think I'm a hoarder any more and the house is filled with both our things equally, not just mine.

I sort things into stuff for charity shop / bin / things I want to sell / things I'm pretty sure charity shop won't want but someone else will .

Magazines are an example of the latter. I photographed, posted them on a fb page and promised them to someone, only to find them in the bin. The toiletry samples were the same, was going to give them a go on fb page before discarding.

Yes, totally get that giving charity shops litter is unacceptable, but one man's trash is another's treasure and if I can post something on a fb page for free and someone collects it, saving it from the bin, then great!