To be fuming with friend

[whatkatemiddletondidatuni]

She was having a hard time and wanted to stay with her parents 300 miles away, but was apparently broke. Another friend and I gave her £25 each so £50 in total.

Then she bought some expensive makeup and a nutribullet.

AIBU to think this was pretty

[TheDuchessOfArbroathsHat]

I want a Nutribullet. I wanted one for Christmas. I wanted one for my birthday. Instead I got a bastard Spiralizer.
Used once, back of the cupboard.

So I guess what I'm really saying is "Anyone got a few spare tenners so I can buy a Nutribullet?"
You can PayPal it to [email protected]

[MrsH1989]

I'm surprised people don't see an issue with this. Presumably, if the friend had said, "can I have some money to buy a nutribullet and makeup" OP would probably said no. She gave the money to help a friend she felt was in need. I also think the money should be paid back but between my friends and I it is pretty much an unspoken rule that money is always repaid not just given (unless a birthday or it is specifically said "this is on me"). Perhaps I wrongly assumed this was the norm?

[dudsville]

There was a good episode of Fraser that covered this issue. What I learned from it was that once given you cannot decide then what it should be spent on. Fraser learned the hard way, don't make the same mistakes he did.

[Xmasbaby11]

It was a gift, not a loan, so there's no reason she would pay you back.

Or did you agree it was a loan?

[WellErrr]

Hmm, well surprised to see I'm in the minority but I think this is out of order.

You don't cry poor so that friends give you money, then go on a spending spree. That's just not cricket.

[minionsrule]

How do you know she bought this stuff, did she tell you? Seems quite random actually {confused}

[LifeofI]

actually got the black one which is 79 the other colours like silver, gun metal grey and red are 69 in currys just saying

[LifeofI]

just brought a nurtibullet they are £79 what brand was the make up

[Blatherskite]

Where are Nutribullets on £50 deals?

[expatinscotland]

Did you tell her it was a loan.

[RudeElf]

Because pay day was probably yesterday so its not as if she has left it ages to pay you back.

[ILostItInTheEarlyNineties]

My dad used to tell me, Never loan money to friends unless you don't want it back.

[RudeElf]

When did this all happen?

[iyamehooru]

If it was a loan just ask for it back. If it wasn't then don't judge her

[ElderlyKoreanLady]

You gave her the money...Did you say you expected it back? If not, YABU. She can spend money she receives afterwards on what she likes.

[AnchorDownDeepBreath]

Yeah I'm in agreement with everyone else. She wanted to go to her parents but couldn't afford too - because she hadn't been paid or because she just generally couldn't afford too?

If she thinks you gifted her £25 each to go to her parents then she won't think she's being unreasonable to spend her own money - it was a gift. If you loaned it to her, instead of gave it to her, you have more of a case.

[molyholy]

You lent her money to go to her parents. She went to her parents.

Unless you stipulated that you wanted your £25 back on her next payday, I think yabu

[yorkshapudding]

Did you make it clear that you expected the money to be repaid?

[Birdsgottafly]

Is she paying you back?

If she's been paid and has still got your money over, then it's upto her what she spends money on.

Or she might have got money from her Parents for Easter.

Nutribullets are £50 on Easter Deals.

[BillSykesDog]

Did you tell her it was a loan? You say you 'have' it to her, sounds like she might have thought it was a gift.

[whatkatemiddletondidatuni]

She went to her parents but then got paid. I think she should have given the money back first.

[QuiteLikely5]

Maybe once she got to her parents they have her some cash?

[gamerchick]

You lent her money, maybe you weren't the only ones who gave her money?