Neighbour complaining about jumparoo

[SeaLeaf]

We live in a first floor apartment. Downstairs neighbour is complaining about 'thumping' noise when baby goes in jumparoo! I've put a foam mat under it and tried moving it to other rooms but she still complains! We have wood floors everywhere and I prefer to keep it in kitchen so I can cook!

He's 7months and uses it for about 30mins at a time, usually 7am, 9am, 1pm, 3pm, 6pm.

I feel she should put up with it, you can't expect silence in a building with families and what will happen when he's older and starts running and jumping?
Why should he be denied playtime in his favourite toy?

What do others think?

[NeedACleverNN]

But why sooty? My ds loves banging noisy toys.

In fact the noisier, the better. He has no patience for teddies.

Yet now he's a bit older he can quite happily lay on the carpet and chill out with a bit of telly on.

[ilovesooty]

Need I'm thinking more about the prospect of him still needing this level of stimulation and attention constantly when he gets to pre school.

[NeedACleverNN]

He does seem to have a lot of stimulation.

[Binglesplodge]

Wait, now we're saying the OP's baby's night wakings are all her own fault for pandering to him? Steady on. The jumparoo thing 6 times a day is clearly way overboard but it's a bit of a leap to blame her for her baby's sleep. My DS was still waking every few hours at 7 months. I was miserable enough about the lack of sleep without people telling me outright that it was my own fault for spoiling him.

[xenapants]

Christ. Sorry OP, but you're a downstairs neighbour's worst nightmare. Your baby disturbs her all day and all night but you expect her to put up with it because "but it's a baby what else am I supposed to do?"

Please stop being so bloody inconsiderate. Either carpet your flat or move somewhere more appropriate where you won't make peoples' lives hell with constant noise.

[SeaLeaf]

I'm trying to teach him to self-settle at night (using gradual withdrawal method, so leaving him in cot to cry while I sit nearby and stroke his face every 5mins or so until he goes back to sleep). He's not hungry he just wakes frequently and cries. I don't feed more frequently than 4-hourly at night otherwise he'll be dependent on feeding to get to sleep. I appreciate prolonged screaming is annoying for neighbours, but sleep-training should reduce the wakings over time. I did suggest earplugs. She asked me to take baby into another room at night but he needs to stay in his cot to learn how to settle there. She doesn't have kids so understandably has no idea about sleep training.

Any suggestions for non-noisy toys? Most of his are plastic or wooden (he's not interested in soft fluffy things). He can roll so can't play on bed in case he rolls off. He has a foam mat on top of a thick rug (we have rugs everywhere). He needs space to learn to crawl so yes he does need to be on floor sometimes (on rug with foam mat on top).

[NeedACleverNN]

I do sympathise with you OP.

I think you got a lot of abuse straight away because you was rigid in not altering things for your neighbour because he is a baby and she can't expect silence.

And yes you are right. People must expect noise when there are children present. You have already said you will cut back on jumperoo time which is a big thing. I wouldn't completely change everything though. Let him have some quiet toys but let him have noisy toys too. The quiet toys for first thing in the morning and late at night. Noisy toys for normal day time noise.

Crying at night, you are right in not moving him to another room. You keep picking him up and getting him out of his bed will stimulate him more. Could you introduce something that you use right as he is going to sleep that could then be used as a cue such as Ewan? Means when he wakes at night and you put Ewan back on could trigger him to settle down again

[Xmasbaby11]

Perhaps try a door bouncer? Sorry if it's been mentioned.

If you're only out a couple of hours a day, why not get out more and go to the park, play cafe, friend's house etc in the afternoon to give your lo exercise and a change of scene. Dd was very active and she needed to go out twice a day.

[AnotherTimeMaybe]

I think she's being an arse over the night waking to be honest
My baby was waking up 5-6 times at least at this age. Things happen when you have a baby, she doesn't live in a detached house. Also a baby will make noise out of blocks out of anything this is how it goes
My advice OP comply with what's been agreed, look into sleep training when both you and your baby are ready and then ignore her!!

[lorelei9here]

I bet she commented on the night waking to encourage you to do something about the daytime - emphasising that the impact on her is constant and cumulative.

She won't be expecting a miracle cure for the night waking but probably hoping that the information, in total, will encourage you to do more to control noise during the day.

[lorelei9here]

just looked up Ewan and now I want one

[rightsaidfrederickII]

YABU.

Having a baby does not give you the right to disturb your neighbours, and 2.5 hours of thumping per day would drive me mad too.

Have you asked what times they are normally out of the house, so that then you could use it (say) Monday - Friday 8.30am-5.30pm.

[NeedACleverNN]

We have Ewan and he is amazing! We've had him about 7 months now and as soon as he starts playing ds knows it's bedtime. Saved our sanity

[KimmySchmitty]

Lol at those posters saying it's too much exercise for the baby
Had an extremely active busy baby have you?

[lorelei9here]

Need "We have Ewan and he is amazing!"

wonder if he can help with my insomnia?

[NeedACleverNN]

Did with my dh!

[kali110]

Yabu about your comment regarding the neighbour should move.
Where should she get the money from?
If it's that simple why don't you move?
Maybe it's not that simple....
Living in a flat you except noise, not repetitive banging.

[Artandco]

I think I would change his sleep training. Leaving him for 5 mins crying before stroking his face, then 5 more mins etc just encourages him to cry inbetween for your return
You don't have to feed and remove to a different room, but I would be sitting next to his cot the whole time, with little interaction but enough he is calm. So either patting him gently, or quietly sshh noises, or just hand holding. All can be more when needed and gradually he won't need physical reassurance but just you next to him. But soothing, then leaving, then returning, then repeating will take longer and make him wonder where you are, rather than him knowing you are right next to him

[Artandco]

Wooden toys are fine. Just non banging ones. wooden stacking blocks with play figures or animals or a Noah's ark or similar are wooden just then play with things in a bad around them so not loud. A wooden tapping set with toy hammer is not ok

[BombadierFritz]

Sleep training that isnt working very well is probably not ideal either. Is he crying for long?

Kimmy - its not the exercise, its the type of exercise - not great for hips as its not a natural movement

[Lemonblast]

You were hardly going to admit that the jumperoo noise was anything as bad as it is OP

Put a couple of duvets or rugs on the floor. If he crawls get a playpen and pad the bottom of it and sit him on it with his toys. Plastic bowls, wooden spoons, shape sorters etc, won't cause excessive noise for your neighbour but will keep him entertained.

And make a concrete short term plan for dealing with the night wakenings, explain it to your neighbour and stick to it. If it doesn't work, you'll have to rethink your strategy and adopt an approach that means you deal with any overnight crying swiftly by responding to him swiftly.

[FeckOfffCup]

It is audible yes but not as bad as I expected considering all the fuss she made! It sounds like... a baby jumping up and down.

Well, if it's just the repetitive sound of a baby jumping up and down then I can't imagine why she's not happy to listen to it from 7am onwards

You are quite right about the nighttime wakings though - you can't really wave a magic wand for that. It's just what babies do sometimes. My son would wake regularly around that age, he still has his moments now at 18 months. Sometimes go through funny phases where all of a sudden they revert backwards and there's not much you can do but grit your teeth and try to deal with it the best way you can.

[derxa]

Bloody hell! That jumparoo thing is horrific. His poor little ears.
Please get rid of it for all your sakes.

[comingintomyown]

"Why should he be denied playtime in his favourite toy"

That sums it up for me YABU

[ilovesooty]

coming I agree.