AIBU to have said NO to ds coming home?

[waffilyversati1e]

Maybe I am being too harsh. DS' head of year has just called. DS is 14 and has had his jabs today, he had been absolutely dreading them.
Head of year called to say that DS was sitting in the year office complaining of feeling achey and tired because of the jabs. He only had then 2 hours ago.. I said I was sorry to hear that but how could I help? Teacher said that DS felt he needed to come home.

Now, school have (rightly) a strict policy when it comes to absence and I said I really think its psychosomatic because of the anxiety he had been feeling yesterday but obviously if he needs to come home I will come get him but its only an hour and a bit until the end of school so couldn't he just sit somewhere quietly?
The teacher was trying to stifle her laughter as we were talking so I am 99.9% sure he is trying it on but if she thought that why would they call me at all?! (I am at home not at work thankfully so I can just go get him if needed)

[fusionconfusion]

Totally irrelevant whether OP is at home or at work btw people. Totally.

You don't take your child out of school when you don't need to in order to mollycoddle/pander to their normal anxieties because you are at home because it's "easier" to go to school than it would be if you were working!
The decision needs to be made based on what's best for the kid, not whether it fits in with the rest of your schedule.

And clearly the teacher thought he was trying it on!

[Katenka]

Mrs Goldberg is my mum. We were howling at the Halloween one where she but razor blades in sweets to prove a point.

Mum did exactly that when we were young to teach us of the dangers of Halloween

[Grilledaubergines]

YANBU. Unless the arm drops off, there's no need for him to leave early.

[OhShutUpThomas]

He's 14!!
No WAY would I go and get him. And if I was absolutely forced to, he would be going straight to bed with no TV and having soup for dinner - surely not a problem if he's ill?

[camaleon]

The OP obviously thinks she is not unreasonable. By the age of 14 you have a pretty clear idea of what are the standards set up between your house and the school, to consider you are unwell enough to call your parents. I don't see how this teaches him to take school seriously. If he does not know by now, this will hardly help.

I don't get how the age undermines, rather than reinforces the case to pick him up. Unless he has form for this, I would trust the judgement of a 14 years old more than anybody else's to make a decision.

I hope you are right OP and he is just 'faking' it to miss one hour of school. You still have to deal with the behaviour though

[paxillin]

She probably doesn't really have to deal with the behaviour beyond not picking him up. I'm sure he picked up on the "you're putting it on" vibe from the teacher and HOY. All that is needed is OP raising one eyebrow when seeing him. It will have been slightly embarrassing for him. Doubt it'll happen again.

[toldmywrath]

RaptorInaPorkPieHat- thanks for your explanation upthread.

[paxillin]

What did your ds say when he came home, OP?

[waffilyversati1e]

He was annoyed I didn't come to collect him but he turned down my offer of a lift home after school and threw a strop because I wouldn't let him go out with his friends... not ill at all.

[paxillin]